This is a rare topic and in most cases a pointless topic. I am just bringing this up for the sake of discussion, and the few very rare cases (1% or less) where it may possibly be worth the effort to Damage Control. But again, the MAIN PURPOSE OF THIS THREAD IS DISCUSSION. Do not go into the reasons of why this is pointless and a waste of time and what not. Feel free to briefly mention that, but there is NO reason to get into a debate on that. As we all agree that it is almost 100% of the time a waste of time and energy.
So, here's the basic scenario. You are talking to a girl and there is a level of mutual attraction that exists. At some point in time circumstances or you fuck up, like you do something very unattractive or is a specific negative trigger for the girl. Circumstances changing against you could be countless and examples aren't really worth mentioning... Idk, an ex-bf shows up, a close family member passes away, her house burns down, etc. Basically, something makes it so she loses most (but hypothetically not all of her attraction towards you, although I do not know if it is possible to lose 100% attraction to a man after a woman has ever felt any significant amount ever before, I've never personally experienced this as far as I know, but maybe I'm just cocky).
I'm obviously missing a LOT of different hypothetical scenarios, these are just the ones that come off the top of my head. So, if these or similar scenarios occur, where a girl you're talking to has mutual attraction towards you and something occurs that makes her lose let's say most of her attraction to you, or so much so that she could say none is left without consciously being aware she's lying (because so little is leftover).
My theory is either to distance for a long time then re-connect where she has forgotten most of the negativity, but this has the downside of her also forgetting the positives, while also forgetting the negatives. So it's slightly risky. But cutting contact shows a lack of neediness and attachment to outcome, which is inherently attractive in itself. Instead of pushing and pursuing an uphill battle, you just ghost her temporarily until time has passed by for you to reassess the situation.
Another is simply to go in and be stronger. Whatever circumstances there are, do not let them phase you. Whatever behavior you did that was such a turn off to her, control it. For example, an angry outburst or paranoid jealousy, over overly controlling, or being inappropriately and uncomfortably sexual (if you haven't fucked her yet, or if she's quite reserved and you have already fucked her). To come back in and change so dramatically so quickly requires an immense amount of will power and other rare and unique qualities that only the top 1-5% of men possess. Or that you already possessed but a transient negativity within you caused you to act in ways incongruent with your more attractive nature.
Simultaneously, a short break like a week or two could be enough time to readjust yourself and come back in stronger, instead of going back in immediately.
Lastly, and just off the top of my head, ghost her 100% until she contacts you. This is risky, and you can always re contact her WAY later. But this shows a huge level of detachment. Ideally on a good note, but I am just hypothesizing that a good note is the best way to cut contact if you want her to contact you again.
What can be done at this point? Is your opinions?
So, here's the basic scenario. You are talking to a girl and there is a level of mutual attraction that exists. At some point in time circumstances or you fuck up, like you do something very unattractive or is a specific negative trigger for the girl. Circumstances changing against you could be countless and examples aren't really worth mentioning... Idk, an ex-bf shows up, a close family member passes away, her house burns down, etc. Basically, something makes it so she loses most (but hypothetically not all of her attraction towards you, although I do not know if it is possible to lose 100% attraction to a man after a woman has ever felt any significant amount ever before, I've never personally experienced this as far as I know, but maybe I'm just cocky).
I'm obviously missing a LOT of different hypothetical scenarios, these are just the ones that come off the top of my head. So, if these or similar scenarios occur, where a girl you're talking to has mutual attraction towards you and something occurs that makes her lose let's say most of her attraction to you, or so much so that she could say none is left without consciously being aware she's lying (because so little is leftover).
My theory is either to distance for a long time then re-connect where she has forgotten most of the negativity, but this has the downside of her also forgetting the positives, while also forgetting the negatives. So it's slightly risky. But cutting contact shows a lack of neediness and attachment to outcome, which is inherently attractive in itself. Instead of pushing and pursuing an uphill battle, you just ghost her temporarily until time has passed by for you to reassess the situation.
Another is simply to go in and be stronger. Whatever circumstances there are, do not let them phase you. Whatever behavior you did that was such a turn off to her, control it. For example, an angry outburst or paranoid jealousy, over overly controlling, or being inappropriately and uncomfortably sexual (if you haven't fucked her yet, or if she's quite reserved and you have already fucked her). To come back in and change so dramatically so quickly requires an immense amount of will power and other rare and unique qualities that only the top 1-5% of men possess. Or that you already possessed but a transient negativity within you caused you to act in ways incongruent with your more attractive nature.
Simultaneously, a short break like a week or two could be enough time to readjust yourself and come back in stronger, instead of going back in immediately.
Lastly, and just off the top of my head, ghost her 100% until she contacts you. This is risky, and you can always re contact her WAY later. But this shows a huge level of detachment. Ideally on a good note, but I am just hypothesizing that a good note is the best way to cut contact if you want her to contact you again.
What can be done at this point? Is your opinions?