DarkKnight's quest for supremacy

[DarkKnight]

Yeah so I barely if ever post on the journal but I was kind of fed up with game and more busy with other things.

I want to rego about nofapping. Each time when I fuck this up, I pay a price. During MMA there is really an INCREDIBLE difference between how I am when I am on abstinence and when I fucked up. When I fucked up my body doesnt want to listen to my commands, I am more slow, sluggish, I dont SEE that will I mean visually with my eyes. When on nofap what I notice is that I start taking more risks, am much faster, and much more persistence and insistence. I believe these things carry on socially as well. When you are on nofap people tend to respect you more, I believe this has to do with that you come off as more prepared, because people do not want to antagonize the wrong people right? But when you have relapsed you are more restrained and it shows, it shows on your body.

Each time when I have lost it, I fucked up. My car crashed (I am serious), I didnt get the effective social response I wanted, my training sucked. All kinds of things. So the price is quite fucking heavy. Then again when you do not have release for too long time... you get pent up and angry and overly agressive... which I already have a tendency to. And it is a bummer that I always come to this conclusion that this is bad for me, after thins have already gone haywire.

So I have come with a decision. On non-game or busy days (which is the problem I am always busy), I am allowed release in a certain interval. Lets call it 3 weeks. This can ONLY be done in an evening, beause then at the very least you have the entire night to recover from the drain you will feel. This way I will keep momentum right, because nofap it just draws bad luck some way and then you need to solve that again. My car crashed, I got fined for driving through a light, always... and then I mean ALWAYS on days I fuck up. A lot of people go on nofpa in order to attrat more girls. I dont believe in that filosophy that much except that nofap does make you more insistent and dominant. I rather ee it as a protective matter in order to not draw bad luck but rather high momentum.

I have decreased a lot of this bad habit, and I notice that I recover more fast from the drain... but nothing ofsetss that on the day of relapse you basically are a lesser you. One moment I am a tiger, the other moment I am like a drugged animal. This needs to be regulated.

 

[DarkKnight]

Yeah definitely getting loads more interest and smiles and friendlyness.

Guys just to be clear: my other fundamentals are far above average as well, but regardless cut the sugar the benefits are really profound I feel very fresh as well.

I have clearly noticed that different social groups receive you in different ways... the past girls are tested in not optimal crowds... so I will have to test this in better crowds for me.

 

[BIGGUS DICKUS: PUSSY MAN]

Yeah so I barely if ever post on the journal but I was kind of fed up with game and more busy with other things.

I want to rego about nofapping. Each time when I fuck this up, I pay a price. During MMA there is really an INCREDIBLE difference between how I am when I am on abstinence and when I fucked up. When I fucked up my body doesnt want to listen to my commands, I am more slow, sluggish, I dont SEE that will I mean visually with my eyes. When on nofap what I notice is that I start taking more risks, am much faster, and much more persistence and insistence. I believe these things carry on socially as well. When you are on nofap people tend to respect you more, I believe this has to do with that you come off as more prepared, because people do not want to antagonize the wrong people right? But when you have relapsed you are more restrained and it shows, it shows on your body.

Each time when I have lost it, I fucked up. My car crashed (I am serious), I didnt get the effective social response I wanted, my training sucked. All kinds of things. So the price is quite fucking heavy. Then again when you do not have release for too long time... you get pent up and angry and overly agressive... which I already have a tendency to. And it is a bummer that I always come to this conclusion that this is bad for me, after thins have already gone haywire.

So I have come with a decision. On non-game or busy days (which is the problem I am always busy), I am allowed release in a certain interval. Lets call it 3 weeks. This can ONLY be done in an evening, beause then at the very least you have the entire night to recover from the drain you will feel. This way I will keep momentum right, because nofap it just draws bad luck some way and then you need to solve that again. My car crashed, I got fined for driving through a light, always... and then I mean ALWAYS on days I fuck up. A lot of people go on nofpa in order to attrat more girls. I dont believe in that filosophy that much except that nofap does make you more insistent and dominant. I rather ee it as a protective matter in order to not draw bad luck but rather high momentum.

I have decreased a lot of this bad habit, and I notice that I recover more fast from the drain... but nothing ofsetss that on the day of relapse you basically are a lesser you. One moment I am a tiger, the other moment I am like a drugged animal. This needs to be regulated.

I wouldn't be so quick to classify every bad thing that happens to you to be the cause of a relapse on nofap.

I believe the effects of a relapse are your dopamine levels temporarily going below the baseline (this can lead to low energy and drive, may explain the MMA problems) as well the psychological effects of going against your values (guilt, shame, depression), which I believe can definitely have a snowball effect and cause other issues.

A lot of guys get hard on themselves for relapsing but in my experience associating a relapse with negative emotions can actually trigger more relapses. I believe the best mindset is, "Yeah I fucked up, but look at how long of a streak I maintained and all of the benefits I felt. I'm going to focus on what I can do now to improve myself and not the temporary mistake I made"

I am allowed release in a certain interval. Lets call it 3 weeks.

I've tried this strategy before and it takes incredible willpower and discipline to maintain. Imagine an alcoholic telling himself he will only have a drink every three weeks. I'd imagine that alcoholic will be hooked after the first drink and won't be able to stop. He is an alcoholic after all.

Try to just go as far as you can and learn to not binge after your relapse.

I've done the 90 days before and I'm currently feeling the benefits of my streak.

on the day of relapse you basically are a lesser you

I agree with this, the oxytocin makes feel me more docile. That combined with the guilt, I feel like a pussy.

If you relapse once, your "feel good" nuerochemicals will temporarily be depleted but in a couple days baseline will return. Everything else is purely psychogical.

In my opinion, Nofap is more of a lifestyle than a permanent abstinence. Due to the accessibly of porn and our mortal flaws, on our worst days we may relapse. I even hear the nofap gurus will relapse, occasionally like after a year or two years.

The goal of nofap is to learn how to constructively deal with your urges. For example I go for walks or take a cold shower to reset my mind.

I think you already have enough of that vital intensity and drive in order to get things done, maybe some self forgiveness and self compassion when you mess up will make your streaks longer.

Best,

Lord Byron

 

[DarkKnight]

I believe the effects of a relapse are your dopamine levels temporarily going below the baseline (this can lead to low energy and drive, may explain the MMA problems) as well the psychological effects of going against your values (guilt, shame, depression), which I believe can definitely have a snowball effect and cause other issues.

No, just no. You can very clearly move much less well after relapse. If you watch the old Rocky movies the coach tells Rocky not to have sexual intercourse before his fight in "it kills your legs". My workouts are extremely intense. I know the difference, it is far beyond just dopamine which is about firing up motivation, your body simply becomes sluggish due to being drained by whatever is vital to move well. Also when someone hits you and you are on a streak you can shrug it off better but when you have relapsed or even worse binged everything hurts, you can take blows less well. I am very experienced and had plenty of time to feel and see the difference. Even your vision gets affected. When on a streak without being conscious I seek more openings with the opponent and am generally more agressive even try moves which should be considered risky but the body knows it can pull it off so it does! And I am pretty sure if this happens in the physical realm similar things happen in the social realm as well.

I wouldn't be so quick to classify every bad thing that happens to you to be the cause of a relapse on nofap.

I don't agree there is definitely correlation here. More accidents due to being more sluggish, but also more social challenges because people can intuitively sense you are not as sharp as you should be. It is a bit like sharks when there is blood in the water, not as extreme but I think it is a good example.

Try to just go as far as you can and learn to not binge after your relapse.

I will do it my way, have some experience with nofap right now we even have an accountability room in the chat.

I think you already have enough of that vital intensity and drive in order to get things done

thank you

maybe some self forgiveness and self compassion when you mess up will make your streaks longer.

self compassion and forgiveness is not my style, this is how I motivate myself. This is my way.

 

[Surveyor]

Afaik assuming you’re fit, according to studies, the hit from partnered sex lasts a matter of hours.
I’m not totally sure if it takes longer after masturbating, but IME how you do it really matters, as does how much energy of all kinds you have stored up.

 

[DarkKnight]

Wow I am kind of stunned with how much interest I am getting. So since Covid I have tried everything in my power to get my fundamentals back to the same level. Got new fly clothes, trained like hell, did everything in my power, nofap.. and apparently all I needed to do was control my diet. Ofcourse I have upgraded in other ways as well but I believe this has been the most significant change. It really felt like I was hitting a ceiling back there, apparently not. I thought perhaps it was age, or something else intangible

This is a lesson I won't forget any time soon.

 

[DarkKnight]

Another female interruptor today with a girl who was totally hooked. I think I have increased my value somehow (?) and girls start to get jealous and want to sabbotage. I got rid of the interruptor made her come across silly with a like joke and then continued with the present girl . I already knew this chick liked me a lot so am not that surprised.

Gee, as if male wannabe amogs were not enough now I got to deal with jealous women

 

[DarkKnight]

www.skilledseducer.com/threads/stages-of-desire-2010.41/
this deserves a bump