FR+ Daygame blonde girl came straight over for "drinks"

[DoWhatWorks]

TLDR: I missed an easy lay here lol... Hopefully I can help someone avoid my mistakes

Context

This is the girl from this thread where the community gave great advice. I number closed a girl from D.G, went on 1 park date then proposed cocktails at mine for the 2nd because it's "warmer" and easier. Had to keep my cool when she didn't respond to my initial text after the first date by following up with a casual voice note saying:

"I'm going shopping on my lunchbreak... What do you think of tropical fruits for our drinks?" 1 day before our planned 2nd date.

She responded with her own voicenote saying "sorry I didn't get back to you, that sounds really good & I look forward to it"

I also get her to bring juice to increase her investment in making cocktails too.

The Date

She comes in wearing black jeans and high heeled boots, a beige playsuit jumper and a white lace lingerie (I fucking love lace) which I noticed but didn't comment on to not look thirsty but I complimented her outfit overall.

I kiss her 5 minutes in and carry on with casual conversation like nothing happened to just set the vibe right from the get go.

Where I fuck up

We have good conversation and we go from the kitchen to my room where she sits right on my bed as the one chair is tucked away into my table. Things get heavy quite quickly and rather than going for the kill by removing her trousers after we're kissing/dry grinding I hesitate and keep kissing which loses momentum.

I then basically go back and forth between chill conversation, lots of laughs , grinding then rinse and repeat.

Why I didn't push harder

• I was being a pussy - this girl asked for my address and came straight over, wore a white fucking lace lingerie and I didn't seal the deal. At this point I'm only annoyed at myself but it is what it is
• She was the kind of girl that nervously laughs when things get sexual. Not too sure on how to tackle this. Probably just warm smile and continue
• I also offered a massage but she refused and gave me one instead (have never had this happen before lol)

How it ended

• She had to leave at 1am to "walk her dog" and I let her go. The vibe is still fun and light and we agree for drinks next Friday
• I also stole a line from skills and get her to text me when she's home and she does with "home! Thanks for having me had a lovely evening xx"
• I mess up a bit by saying "no worries, I enjoyed your countryside company" which was an inside joke that I should of avoided as it was me teasing her for being 6 years older and in her 30's

Nail in coffin

• She sends me a voicenote this evening saying I'm "lovely" and she had fun but she thinks the age gap is too big a.k.a back rationalizing why she didn't sleep with me
• I know from experience this is 99.99% dead so I say "Thanks for being upfront feel free to hmu if you change your mind" to which she replies with "will do x"

What I could have done better?

• Strike while the iron is hot. If we're grinding and her legs are wrapped around mine and she's into it - go for the kill and don't drag it out
• Also when I found her not allowing herself to get carried away I should bring it up in a warm compassionate way like it seems like you're holding back... I only want to be in the company of someone who's fully enjoying themselves etc.
• Build yes ladders of: you find me attractive, we get on, we're both adventerous and open minded let's go
• Got her hand on my dick
• Basically all the techniques for LMR all over this site
• I also think I didn't want to seem too "keen" but if there's any time to put on the pressure and stop being "chill" - it's when you're in bed with a girl who clearly likes you.

Positives?

• There is a pandemic/countrywide lockdown going on and I'm still getting new & local pretty girls in my bed
• Quality of girls I'm bringing in since focusing just on daygame is significantly higher than online. In fact this girl had matched with my house mate on tinder who's 31 but they never got to the date stage only exchanged numbers before she went quiet haha. Cold approach puts you to the top of the pack and opens up your options a lot.

Anyway report/rant over... Hopefully this helps someone else avoid the mistakes I made!

 

[Velasco]

Also when I found her not allowing herself to get carried away I should bring it up in a warm compassionate way like it seems like you're holding back... I only want to be in the company of someone who's fully enjoying themselves

Think you hesitated cuz your instincts told you she'd push your hand off, were you to try and take her pants off cuz she wasnt 100% there yet.

Why I keep saying, get her to a point where shes dying for it before you go for the kill. Cuz sometimes you'll find that turning her on, turns you on. Rinse repeat.

I.e. You feel shes ready to go (from u having turned her on so much) => motivates you to want to take her clothes off and get down to business (no hesitation).

She then sees that you're turned on, from aggressively escalating on her (and not hesitating)=> motivates her to want to take your clothes off in return.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

Think you hesitated cuz your instincts told you she'd push your hand off, were you to try and take her pants off cuz she wasnt 100% there yet.

Why I keep saying, get her to a point where shes dying for it before you go for the kill. Cuz sometimes you'll find that turning her on, turns you on. Rinse repeat.

I.e. You feel shes ready to go (from u having turned her on so much) => motivates you to want to take her clothes off and get down to business (no hesitation).

She then sees that you're turned on, from aggressively escalating on her (and not hesitating)=> motivates her to want to take your clothes off in return.

Yeah good spot, that makes sense.

When girls purposely stop themselves from getting horny e.g. soft kissing, taking deep calming breathes, stopping to talk in between how’s the best way to approach it?

Is calling it out (gracefully) before addressing the objection & escalating the way to go?

As just pushing physical escalation seems clueless & something a guy who doesn’t get it would do.

I rarely get LMR these days but if I do it’s this style of “don’t let myself get horny” type.

 

[topcat]

Yeah good spot, that makes sense.

When girls purposely stop themselves from getting horny e.g. soft kissing, taking deep calming breathes, stopping to talk in between how’s the best way to approach it?

Is calling it out (gracefully) before addressing the objection & escalating the way to go?

As just pushing physical escalation seems clueless & something a guy who doesn’t get it would do.

I rarely get LMR these days but if I do it’s this style of “don’t let myself get horny” type.

With "don’t let myself get horny"-types, I tend to make it a game. Get playful and mischievous.

Treat her like a whore that's pretending to be a prude. In an endearing way.

Way I see it, if she's actively trying to not make herself horny, it means it's in there to start with. You're not starting from zero. All you need to do is make it bubble over to the point she can't hold it down anymore.

You make it a game, push her boundaries just a tad, get her worked up, and then back up. Devilish smile, bedroom eyes, mischief and all that.
I might touch her pussy quickly then pull back, while giving her a impish smile as if I were a naughty, cute kid she just can't be mad at. Steal quick deep kisses.

"Oops did i do that?"

Your excuse is you just couldn't help it, she turns you on far too much. And then you feign holding back your own horniness, for a bit. As though you've come back to your senses. Then you start again.

If she objects. Back up a bit and get bored. Your goal is to get the horniness stirring in her head and loins to where, her rational mind loses the battle to her primal one. Where she misses and actively wants the pussy-tingles you were giving her not a moment ago.

But also if she isn't ready to play ball after a few attempts, be ready to call it a night.

Verbalizing might work, I just don't like it. Rather speak to the animal in her instead.

 

[DoWhatWorks]

With "don’t let myself get horny"-types, I tend to make it a game. Get playful and mischievous.

Treat her like a whore that's pretending to be a prude. In an endearing way.

Way I see it, if she's actively trying to not make herself horny, it means it's in there to start with. You're not starting from zero. All you need to do is make it bubble over to the point she can't hold it down anymore.

You make it a game, push her boundaries just a tad, get her worked up, and then back up. Devilish smile, bedroom eyes, mischief and all that.
I might touch her pussy quickly then pull back, while giving her a impish smile as if I were a naughty, cute kid she just can't be mad at. Steal quick deep kisses.

"Oops did i do that?"

Your excuse is you just couldn't help it, she turns you on far too much. And then you feign holding back your own horniness, for a bit. As though you've come back to your senses. Then you start again.

If she objects. Back up a bit and get bored. Your goal is to get the horniness stirring in her head and loins to where, her rational mind loses the battle to her primal one. Where she misses and actively wants the pussy-tingles you were giving her not a moment ago.

But also if she isn't ready to play ball after a few attempts, be ready to call it a night.

Verbalizing might work, I just don't like it. Rather speak to the animal in her instead.

Thanks man! Makes sense to keep it light and playful yet still persistent.

“Not my fault... you just turn me on” is a vibe I could have done a lot more of which is also congruent to what I’m like too.