I went on another dating app date. She's a student in my country from Asia, going for a career in medicine. She said on texts that she likes quiet or peaceful settings so I suggested an art museum that was convenient for both of us to reach (and free) .
When we met I greeted her with the hand clasp and noticed that she felt quite a bit less comfortable with my touch than last week's date. This put me off and I don't think that i managed to pull off the guiding touch or the compliment touch mentioned in Chase's recent article.
We walked to the museum and chit chatted on the way. How long have you been in town, how was your day up until now etc. We got to the museum and went in to see two exhibits. The key thing here is that we didn't talk too much. We just went around looking at the exhibits in silence. But she definitely liked the exhibit. Once in a while she broke the silence by asking my opinion of things or relating it to her experience. On the second exhibit, which was quieter, she was more talkative, telling me how she'd correct the medical type exhibit and telling me about her studies. I told her about my student stuff and how it related to the exhibits too.
Then (after around 45 minutes seeing exhibits) we went to sit down near the cafe and spoke about our lives, religious background and her future aims, and interests. Every time I told her a fact that she found interesting, she looked it up on her cell phone, so she was sincerely interested in at least some of it. I think that I only teased her once the whole time. Also, we were sitting across from each other so not touching. I didnt even ask about her dating history and probably talked too much.
In the end, around 2 hours 15 minutes had elapsed since I said hello and I said that I had better to go to do my last bit of shopping before the holidays. I think that I touched her on the arm to say goodbye and she still didn't feel fully comfortable. She told me to text her and said goodbye. I haven't heard from her again obviously.
Concluding thoughts.
-I was probably in a tough date and should have recognized it when I greeted her. Either my poor fundamentals got me or she was very conservative.
-I actually had enough material and stuff planned to keep the date running for 2 hours, and she was enjoying some of it. But I failed in every way during that time. There was no humor, teasing, touching, flirting or even qualification. I could have been rejected or auto rejected but I don't even know because I didn't try anything.
-I enjoyed the art exhibits too so I'm glad that somebody on here told me to try activity dates rather than beverage dates, so that even if the date is awful, I get some enjoyment from it.
-I'd be interested to know, if it is possible to know, how many minutes in I had completely blown it in this date. I think that it must have been in the first hour.
When we met I greeted her with the hand clasp and noticed that she felt quite a bit less comfortable with my touch than last week's date. This put me off and I don't think that i managed to pull off the guiding touch or the compliment touch mentioned in Chase's recent article.
We walked to the museum and chit chatted on the way. How long have you been in town, how was your day up until now etc. We got to the museum and went in to see two exhibits. The key thing here is that we didn't talk too much. We just went around looking at the exhibits in silence. But she definitely liked the exhibit. Once in a while she broke the silence by asking my opinion of things or relating it to her experience. On the second exhibit, which was quieter, she was more talkative, telling me how she'd correct the medical type exhibit and telling me about her studies. I told her about my student stuff and how it related to the exhibits too.
Then (after around 45 minutes seeing exhibits) we went to sit down near the cafe and spoke about our lives, religious background and her future aims, and interests. Every time I told her a fact that she found interesting, she looked it up on her cell phone, so she was sincerely interested in at least some of it. I think that I only teased her once the whole time. Also, we were sitting across from each other so not touching. I didnt even ask about her dating history and probably talked too much.
In the end, around 2 hours 15 minutes had elapsed since I said hello and I said that I had better to go to do my last bit of shopping before the holidays. I think that I touched her on the arm to say goodbye and she still didn't feel fully comfortable. She told me to text her and said goodbye. I haven't heard from her again obviously.
Concluding thoughts.
-I was probably in a tough date and should have recognized it when I greeted her. Either my poor fundamentals got me or she was very conservative.
-I actually had enough material and stuff planned to keep the date running for 2 hours, and she was enjoying some of it. But I failed in every way during that time. There was no humor, teasing, touching, flirting or even qualification. I could have been rejected or auto rejected but I don't even know because I didn't try anything.
-I enjoyed the art exhibits too so I'm glad that somebody on here told me to try activity dates rather than beverage dates, so that even if the date is awful, I get some enjoyment from it.
-I'd be interested to know, if it is possible to know, how many minutes in I had completely blown it in this date. I think that it must have been in the first hour.
I like those topics but they are terrible for seduction. Religion too for that matter.
