Well this ended up being quite a bit longer than expected, but should hopefully be a good read. All this happened quite a bit ago, but it's something that I've often thought about as I was left confused as to whether this girl might possibly like me or not. I had already met this girl a couple of times at open mics before the story here. We both perform usually, and I've put it out there in the past that I'd be in to her with the odd joke. She responded well, with the old playful smack at such remarks, and then we'd continue on talking. I've realised that she's actually a bit older than me, but lives the life of someone my age(23) if you know what I mean.
A few months later a friend of mine, who I didn't realise knew both of us, gave my number to her, and we texted a bit. We were therefore pretty much aware that we'd both be at the next open mic. My friend said that her words about me were "that guy, oh he's such a nice man, tell him I said hi"
At the open mic, I went over to say hello to her after her songs. She gestured for me to kiss her on the cheek, and later her friend cracked a joke about us getting married. Shortly after, she insisted we dance. But throughout all this she was a bit too energetic. In one way this energy is just what I need when I go out, but it's not ideal when I'm trying to make advances on her. She asked if I would bring her home, and I said 'I guess it wouldn't hurt'.
But later when I needed to leave, she was taking forever talking to people. I didn't want to look like an idiot waiting around for her, but then again I couldn't afford to just throw away opportunities like this?? I waited a bit as I could see she was no where near ready, and I just chatted to a few folks. I then said something to her like, "I'm leaving now, if you want a lift". She then said "hang on, I must say goodbye to....", giving the impression it would take a minute. I over-heard someone around making a few comments that I was going to get lucky. At this stage we were together slowly making our way outside of the bar. One girl asked her, "Oh is this your other half". For some reason I joked that she was my sister. She took a while to realise that this girl actually believed it, and then joked "oh, no we're not brother and sister". Someone then made a suggestion that the crowd go to another bar as that one was closing. She suggested that I should go too. I looked a bit undecided for a few seconds, and then said to myself that I had to draw the line there, as I originally gave the impression that I had to go. "I've got to head" I said. She looked a bit disappointed, and made a compromise that we could drive to the next bar as it was pretty far away, and was on route to her place anyway. I, of course agreed.
Anyway, when we were finished at the that bar and when I was dropping her home, I ironically didn't really feel like kissing her. I've seen her looking better and dressed better than on that night. But I knew in the greater scheme of things, that I should try and kiss her. The chemistry didn't seem quite good enough. Although the banter was good, and there was some flirting, there simply wasn't enough touching. I could see the fearful look in her eye as she knew that thought I might try for more than a kiss on the cheek. It was a bit mechanical, the way I went in. She then blocked her eyes with her palms and bent her head to her knees in shock, as if this was completely unexpected. This looked quite childish. I'd honestly prefer if she'd given out to me, as that might have at least given me something to work with! I felt like giving out to her for acting in like this. I just said "oh come on now.." She paused and said "I'm sorry, I'm just very shy". For some reason I then said "me too" as I had my hand on her back, hoping to go in again. She said "look, just let me think about it, okay? Maybe next time". As she was then getting out of the car, I tried to be sexy by saying "are you telling me that you haven't thought about it before!" She didn't look comfortable with this question, and didn't know how to react. She then said good night and to 'be sure to drive safely', I guess in case I was distracted at what had just happened.
What annoyed me about it was that she insisted that we go together, and should therefore have known what she was getting herself into. On hindsight, I suppose I should have waited to access the moment as soon as the car was stopped. I just had it in my head that I should try and kiss her. I don't think playing the "it's now or never card" would have worked. I guess you're never 100% sure of what someone thinks of you, and when she blocked her face like that, it was as if... well you know, like I was some sort of a freak. Neither of us contacted each other since, as I thought I'd only feel like a fool if I chased after her more and still got nothing. The next time we bumped into each other about a month later, she asked "are we fighting?" I just said "oh no no", as I had moved on since the moment I dropped her home that night, and we are on talking terms for the rare occasions we cross paths, and she's as extroverted as ever. But thinking about her now, the way she was dressed when I first met her, I could well try it again with her if an opportunity presented itself. I pretty sure she wasn't trying to tease me, and more so that she's just a fun person. And don't get me wrong, I'm not that mad about her or anything, just think I could learn something from it.
So thanks for reading, and if you've any tips about how to kiss a girl in a car, you with the seat belt being on and all that, should you turn off the engine, etc, then please let me know!
A few months later a friend of mine, who I didn't realise knew both of us, gave my number to her, and we texted a bit. We were therefore pretty much aware that we'd both be at the next open mic. My friend said that her words about me were "that guy, oh he's such a nice man, tell him I said hi"
At the open mic, I went over to say hello to her after her songs. She gestured for me to kiss her on the cheek, and later her friend cracked a joke about us getting married. Shortly after, she insisted we dance. But throughout all this she was a bit too energetic. In one way this energy is just what I need when I go out, but it's not ideal when I'm trying to make advances on her. She asked if I would bring her home, and I said 'I guess it wouldn't hurt'.
But later when I needed to leave, she was taking forever talking to people. I didn't want to look like an idiot waiting around for her, but then again I couldn't afford to just throw away opportunities like this?? I waited a bit as I could see she was no where near ready, and I just chatted to a few folks. I then said something to her like, "I'm leaving now, if you want a lift". She then said "hang on, I must say goodbye to....", giving the impression it would take a minute. I over-heard someone around making a few comments that I was going to get lucky. At this stage we were together slowly making our way outside of the bar. One girl asked her, "Oh is this your other half". For some reason I joked that she was my sister. She took a while to realise that this girl actually believed it, and then joked "oh, no we're not brother and sister". Someone then made a suggestion that the crowd go to another bar as that one was closing. She suggested that I should go too. I looked a bit undecided for a few seconds, and then said to myself that I had to draw the line there, as I originally gave the impression that I had to go. "I've got to head" I said. She looked a bit disappointed, and made a compromise that we could drive to the next bar as it was pretty far away, and was on route to her place anyway. I, of course agreed.
Anyway, when we were finished at the that bar and when I was dropping her home, I ironically didn't really feel like kissing her. I've seen her looking better and dressed better than on that night. But I knew in the greater scheme of things, that I should try and kiss her. The chemistry didn't seem quite good enough. Although the banter was good, and there was some flirting, there simply wasn't enough touching. I could see the fearful look in her eye as she knew that thought I might try for more than a kiss on the cheek. It was a bit mechanical, the way I went in. She then blocked her eyes with her palms and bent her head to her knees in shock, as if this was completely unexpected. This looked quite childish. I'd honestly prefer if she'd given out to me, as that might have at least given me something to work with! I felt like giving out to her for acting in like this. I just said "oh come on now.." She paused and said "I'm sorry, I'm just very shy". For some reason I then said "me too" as I had my hand on her back, hoping to go in again. She said "look, just let me think about it, okay? Maybe next time". As she was then getting out of the car, I tried to be sexy by saying "are you telling me that you haven't thought about it before!" She didn't look comfortable with this question, and didn't know how to react. She then said good night and to 'be sure to drive safely', I guess in case I was distracted at what had just happened.
What annoyed me about it was that she insisted that we go together, and should therefore have known what she was getting herself into. On hindsight, I suppose I should have waited to access the moment as soon as the car was stopped. I just had it in my head that I should try and kiss her. I don't think playing the "it's now or never card" would have worked. I guess you're never 100% sure of what someone thinks of you, and when she blocked her face like that, it was as if... well you know, like I was some sort of a freak. Neither of us contacted each other since, as I thought I'd only feel like a fool if I chased after her more and still got nothing. The next time we bumped into each other about a month later, she asked "are we fighting?" I just said "oh no no", as I had moved on since the moment I dropped her home that night, and we are on talking terms for the rare occasions we cross paths, and she's as extroverted as ever. But thinking about her now, the way she was dressed when I first met her, I could well try it again with her if an opportunity presented itself. I pretty sure she wasn't trying to tease me, and more so that she's just a fun person. And don't get me wrong, I'm not that mad about her or anything, just think I could learn something from it.
So thanks for reading, and if you've any tips about how to kiss a girl in a car, you with the seat belt being on and all that, should you turn off the engine, etc, then please let me know!
) and that she loved my lips.