Invite girls properly
Hot tourist yesterday. Argentinian, tall, trim and naturally beautiful. She tells me shes single and free for the day. We vibe, tho shes quite a logical gal and seems a bit distant. But we bounce around and we talk about the usual good stuff, such as traveling, living in the moment, the importance of connection and how hard it is to find it.
We agree on all of this and she follows my lead, so all is good. Still, i second-guess myself: is shes just being friendly?
Therefore i dont invite her to my city properly. I feel we dont have the right energy, plus shes staying at some relatives and so i think shes logistically not independent. So i tell her, lemme know if u visit my city one of these days, well get some wine in the evening and sit at the lake.
Its not the first time i make this mistake. Inviting a girl this way DOES NOT WORK because it sounds tentative and ure asking her to take the initiative.
The correct way to do it is to be committed, take full ownership, and tell her, hey what if i invited u to my city right now?
I was scared of rejection. But thats not playing to win. Its playing not to lose. Playing defensive.
I invited girls the right way multiple times in the past, so its not a breakthrough. But i MUST make it 100% part of my programming.
(Btw really, forget about inviting her for the evening. Just invite her for "right now". It doesnt have to be a big, romantic thing. U might just go for a walk and then invite her home "for tea". Casual and simple.)