Feel Disinterested with Women, People in General, Can't Figure Out Why

[metalbird]

I don't know if this is a normal "getting older" thing, a phase I'm going through, or what. I realize it's really impacted my pickup, as well as socializing in general. I've meditated about it, but I can't figure out where's it coming from yet. Sometimes I think, maybe it's dissatisfaction with my career, or my FWB. Sometimes I think it's just a product of my current lifestyle. Sometimes I think maybe it's my body telling me it's time to "settle down" and have kids.

I definitely have a sex drive, and still feel interested in the "concept" of meeting new attractive women. But in practice, whenever I see or interact with women, I feel so emotionally disengaged.

Anybody else ever experience this?

 

[bartuda]

yeah, I have it sometimes, it's caused by watching too much porn and masturbating ( for me also by sugar). Your brain dopamine receptors are burned and you need a detox. ( no porn, sex , wanking, social media, sweets, fast food or anything that gives you stimulation for at least a week, ideally two and go for a walk instead ) thank me later.

 

[TomInHo]

It's probably your lifestyle that's causing a low sex drive. I'm older and get this feeing from time to time and whenever it happens its usually because

Excessive Content Consumption
- Watching too much porn and beating the chicken too often
- Watching too much negative content online

Living Life On Passive Mode
- Having sex with the same women over and over.... novelty increases sex drive more than variety for me
- Not interacting with women I find attractive (8+) enough
- Not taking any risks in life, or pushing comfort zone regularly
- Not having quantifiable goals, and consistently working on achieving them

Neglecting Health & Fitness
- Not watching my diet and consuming too much processed food
- Neglecting my workouts
- Not enough time in the sun to get vitamin D
- Getting too fat and f*cking up my hormones
- Getting too lean for too long and f*cking up my hormones

Usually when my sex drive gets out of wack it's because I'm doing 3-5 things in this list that are messing up my masculine momentum

 

[Skills]

I don't know if this is a normal "getting older" thing, a phase I'm going through, or what. I realize it's really impacted my pickup, as well as socializing in general. I've meditated about it, but I can't figure out where's it coming from yet. Sometimes I think, maybe it's dissatisfaction with my career, or my FWB. Sometimes I think it's just a product of my current lifestyle. Sometimes I think maybe it's my body telling me it's time to "settle down" and have kids.

I definitely have a sex drive, and still feel interested in the "concept" of meeting new attractive women. But in practice, whenever I see or interact with women, I feel so emotionally disengaged.

Anybody else ever experience this?

This happened to me in my early 40s after my 10 year break up, i did a post called "seducer menopause" or something like that, happened to me again, mid 40s i wrote this: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/the-seduction-overdose.23919/

many times it could be hormonal, however most of the times i and see others make post like this, is low momentum periods, for me usually post break ups with girls i was emotionally attached with (pair bonded)...

just make sure you don't fall into this: https://www.skilledseducer.com/thre...uction-conclusions-during-down-periods.24773/

 

[StrayDog]

How much are you winning in other aspects of your life? I have found that accomplishing ambigteous projects, both big and small, or just challenging myself in new ways , it really puts me in a zone where I just want to go out and blow some woman's mind.

Often times as men, when we lack a more clear vision for our lives, or are just kind of resting on our laurels, playing it safe, it can be tricky to have a clear sense of where women fit into the picture. I recommend just breaking your routine a bit for a few weeks. Do small but impactful things that you have always wanted to do but never got around to. Or take on a small challenging project you know will be rewarding. Take some small but meaningful risks. Do novel and meaningful things. They can either be grandiose or mundane. As long as they are a consistant pattern interrupt. Then when you have a bit of momentum/ you have a small victory to celebrate, go out and see how pick up feels then.

 

[Will_V]

StrayDog makes a great point. I've found that my drive to fuck new women comes from a general sense of winning and moving up in the world. When I dive into a new enterprise or project and I'm highly motivated and pushing hard, I strongly desire to have my impact felt in all kinds of other areas. But when I settle too much, I start trying to 'plan against the future', buffer against change, and my instincts push me away from things that signal change and risk. This is a consequence of a man's power coming from his libido, the drive for conquest and expansion that crosses from the sexual to other areas of life.

This is a very simple phenomenon, but it accounts for an incredible amount of success in pickup. Women are attracted to libido like moths to a flame. I've had fantastic successes when it's there, and constant rejections when it's not, even when I think I'm doing the same thing.

Guys (especially older guys) need to maintain their libido at all costs. We need to maintain worthy goals and strive for them all the time, so that the libido does not dry up. And we need to distribute it wisely, protecting it from being wasted away in useless pleasures and mental loops. Some good points made above - excessive wanking (or any wanking if you have women in your life), dopamine traps like social media, stuff like that drains away the fuel of your existence, leaving you hollow and unfeeling. And it allows anxiety to creep into the empty tank and bury away whatever is left.

Libido is a valuable resource, that's why women come after it, because they don't have it. It's better to be riding on a rocket when you don't have one yourself, at least you're going somewhere fast. Libido is the masculine commodity, the raw material of enterprise, of growth, of creation, of expansion, and of change - the one thing nature loves the most.

Don't lose it.