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Was hanging out with my friends, we're a big and crazy group of maybe 10ish people. We're heading home from the fireworks and hopped into our train. I noticed a lone girl (who i found out was with her grandma and little sister across from her) sitting by herself. My friends took the seats behind her which i was gonna take, but looking back i'm glad they took it. So that pushed me to sit next to her, and during this decision making, she made some glances at me as if she was getting ready to make room for me. I looked at her and opened:
After a few moments later i looked back at my friends and noticed how we're all crowding around her. And i started thinking about how awkward it would be for her to be surrounded by us and be disengaged during the whole ride. So I opened a conversation.
From here i can't remember how it went so I'll just highlight the interactions. We got into the basics starting with where we're from. I reminded myself to keep it a "solving a puzzle" experience by asking her to guess. She said LA (lool we're on the east coast and I've never been near the west) and I ask her how she came up with that. She said it's because of how i dress, my vibe, and my friends. So then i asked about her and she mentioned she's not from the US but she's from Costa Rica and is visiting her grandma who lives here. Funny enough, they're staying at a place that's probably a 10min drive from where i live. So i mentioned that. Then i teased and said "hmm maybe i might ask for your number but i have to check if you're a cool person first" and she was all giggly and stuff. Then randomly her eyes lit up and decided to ask for my zodiac sign (what's up with girls and zodiacs lmao), she took like idk 6-8 guesses until she said my zodiac, virgo. She started qualifying me a lot, saying how she loves virgos and thinks i'm a cool virgo. At some point she was like "oh wait i didn't ask for your name?" i gave her my name and she just repeated it as if she was in awed by it lol. Though while doing this, I went for a handshake and tried to test her by not letting go and seeing if she'll hold. She shook my hand and we kept it for like a second and she let go first. Maybe that was uncalibrated of me or she didn't feel comfortable doing that while my friends are watching.
Number grab:
Later on i went into hobbies and she mentioned reading and how she likes to read history but was a bit embarrassed to tell me that because everyone else thinks it's lame or something. I took this opportunity to "other" myself from the rest and qualify(or compliment?) her for reading history and how not many people do it. And how it's great she's taking the time to understand how things unfolded and why things are the way they are now. Then we got into how she likes to do art but is bad at it and so i decided to show her some of my art work. I pulled up my phone and showed her some of my digital painting. She was so surprised and her eyes lit up, she begin to motion her hands to grab my phone but then said:
Then she mentioned how she doesn't have a US number so i asked if she has whatsapp and she does and she was surprised that i had it lol. So i pulled up my whatsapp gave it to her to punch in her number. I asked what's her last name, but she said she didn't want to tell me haha. I tried guessing it by asking first if it's a typical latino last name but she said it wasn't, so i didn't attempt to tease and guess. She punched in her number and took a screenshot saying how her phone sometimes doesn't pick up in the subway, so she wanted me to wait until later. Later on i did some more teases saying how i was never going to text her. Saying stuff like "yeah in the next 30mins i'm not gonna text you" and "yeah we're just not gonna see each other again". She was thrown off by that and was like "oh wooow fine".
More banter and seeding a date:
So at some point we were talking about favorite latino food and she was telling me "please don't say tacos" lol so i said something like "pupusas... chipotle (lol)". And she was like "oh i love chipotle!" and then randomly asked me "wait do you get the white rice or brown rice?" i said white and she was disappointed in me lmaooo. Then I stated that she was judging me and she tried hard to defend herself and say she wasn't, and then she asked if i was judging her and then i said yeah. Started disqualifying her and how she's not as cool as i thought. Of course teasingly so she knows I'm not serious. Then we chatted more and at some point she suggested we get chipotle together. Wow seeding the date before me, love it.
Kino & Body language:
We had a lot of physical touches here and there. Whenever she laughed or made a joke, I would touch her knee or place my hand on her lap. She would also nudge closer to me with her shoulders. I learned about how when crossing your legs (was it girls chase? idk), the side that the leg is pointing to suggest your comfortable and open on that side. So i crossed my leg and had it pointing towards her and she did the same. We also were facing each other pretty close whenever we were talking. I made an effort to always keep good eye-contact with her and she did the same. At some point, we both had our masks on but she took out her lipstick and uncovered her mask. I should've taken this as an opportunity to chase frame because clearly she wanted to show me her face or lips but i couldn't think/react quick enough. Also i didn't have my head/attention towards her while she was doing it. But overall good kino.
Eventually i had to get off my stop so i said my goodbyes and gave her a huge while she was sitting and i was standing. Albeit it was kinda unnatural, maybe i should've hugged her while sitting. But oh well, i enjoyed that interaction. Though I think I'm slowly going to loose grasp on her with the date things if I continue the way I'm texting her.
Me: hey can i sit here?
HBCostaRica: yeah sure *moved her bag away from the seat next to her so i can take it*
After a few moments later i looked back at my friends and noticed how we're all crowding around her. And i started thinking about how awkward it would be for her to be surrounded by us and be disengaged during the whole ride. So I opened a conversation.
Me: hi, so what's your name?
HBCostaRica: HBCostaRica!
Me: ah, did you just came back from the fireworks?
HBCostaRica: yeah i did, did you?!
Me: Yeah blah blah---
From here i can't remember how it went so I'll just highlight the interactions. We got into the basics starting with where we're from. I reminded myself to keep it a "solving a puzzle" experience by asking her to guess. She said LA (lool we're on the east coast and I've never been near the west) and I ask her how she came up with that. She said it's because of how i dress, my vibe, and my friends. So then i asked about her and she mentioned she's not from the US but she's from Costa Rica and is visiting her grandma who lives here. Funny enough, they're staying at a place that's probably a 10min drive from where i live. So i mentioned that. Then i teased and said "hmm maybe i might ask for your number but i have to check if you're a cool person first" and she was all giggly and stuff. Then randomly her eyes lit up and decided to ask for my zodiac sign (what's up with girls and zodiacs lmao), she took like idk 6-8 guesses until she said my zodiac, virgo. She started qualifying me a lot, saying how she loves virgos and thinks i'm a cool virgo. At some point she was like "oh wait i didn't ask for your name?" i gave her my name and she just repeated it as if she was in awed by it lol. Though while doing this, I went for a handshake and tried to test her by not letting go and seeing if she'll hold. She shook my hand and we kept it for like a second and she let go first. Maybe that was uncalibrated of me or she didn't feel comfortable doing that while my friends are watching.
Number grab:
Later on i went into hobbies and she mentioned reading and how she likes to read history but was a bit embarrassed to tell me that because everyone else thinks it's lame or something. I took this opportunity to "other" myself from the rest and qualify(or compliment?) her for reading history and how not many people do it. And how it's great she's taking the time to understand how things unfolded and why things are the way they are now. Then we got into how she likes to do art but is bad at it and so i decided to show her some of my art work. I pulled up my phone and showed her some of my digital painting. She was so surprised and her eyes lit up, she begin to motion her hands to grab my phone but then said:
HBCostaRica: Wait can i touch it?
Me: No you can't
HBCostaRica: oh okay *awkward and startled look*
Me: *turn off the app and then pull up the keypad to punch a phone number. Hand it to her*
Me: But you can touch this
HBCostaRica: *eyes lit up* omg really?!
Then she mentioned how she doesn't have a US number so i asked if she has whatsapp and she does and she was surprised that i had it lol. So i pulled up my whatsapp gave it to her to punch in her number. I asked what's her last name, but she said she didn't want to tell me haha. I tried guessing it by asking first if it's a typical latino last name but she said it wasn't, so i didn't attempt to tease and guess. She punched in her number and took a screenshot saying how her phone sometimes doesn't pick up in the subway, so she wanted me to wait until later. Later on i did some more teases saying how i was never going to text her. Saying stuff like "yeah in the next 30mins i'm not gonna text you" and "yeah we're just not gonna see each other again". She was thrown off by that and was like "oh wooow fine".
More banter and seeding a date:
So at some point we were talking about favorite latino food and she was telling me "please don't say tacos" lol so i said something like "pupusas... chipotle (lol)". And she was like "oh i love chipotle!" and then randomly asked me "wait do you get the white rice or brown rice?" i said white and she was disappointed in me lmaooo. Then I stated that she was judging me and she tried hard to defend herself and say she wasn't, and then she asked if i was judging her and then i said yeah. Started disqualifying her and how she's not as cool as i thought. Of course teasingly so she knows I'm not serious. Then we chatted more and at some point she suggested we get chipotle together. Wow seeding the date before me, love it.
Kino & Body language:
We had a lot of physical touches here and there. Whenever she laughed or made a joke, I would touch her knee or place my hand on her lap. She would also nudge closer to me with her shoulders. I learned about how when crossing your legs (was it girls chase? idk), the side that the leg is pointing to suggest your comfortable and open on that side. So i crossed my leg and had it pointing towards her and she did the same. We also were facing each other pretty close whenever we were talking. I made an effort to always keep good eye-contact with her and she did the same. At some point, we both had our masks on but she took out her lipstick and uncovered her mask. I should've taken this as an opportunity to chase frame because clearly she wanted to show me her face or lips but i couldn't think/react quick enough. Also i didn't have my head/attention towards her while she was doing it. But overall good kino.
Eventually i had to get off my stop so i said my goodbyes and gave her a huge while she was sitting and i was standing. Albeit it was kinda unnatural, maybe i should've hugged her while sitting. But oh well, i enjoyed that interaction. Though I think I'm slowly going to loose grasp on her with the date things if I continue the way I'm texting her.
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