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- Apr 24, 2015
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Yea, I've been reading the articles fairly religiously for about 7 months, but did my first real approach today! I focused mainly on solving other problems of mine (addiction to meds, depression,etc) because the only thing positive in my life was the fact that I had really good grades in school. Now, that I feel clean and healthy I'm ready to start this journey for real! I worked my fundamentals a lot too, from my body language to my walk, to the facial expressions and my style,etc. I also improved my social skills a bit. I turned 18 2 months ago btw!
What I have going for me naturally are the byronic traits and the sense of humor. I also notice now that hot girls look at me and play with their hair, brush up against me,etc. My problem is more about adding the light and sexy je-ne-sais-quoi to conversations.
I noticed that, before, when I was talking to girls, I had lame fundamentals and was always being the entertainer guy or the super-boring-not-even-friendzone-material guy. And that's when I wasn't super high like a loser! So, right now, my main focus regarding approaches is really the conversation itself. I wanna be more of a challenge to girls (flirty, chase frames, compliance,etc) like a sexy guy is, while also being relatable (effective deep dive, humble)! If I achieve this, I think I'll have the hardest part done. Anyway, I had super approach anxiety today, but eventually said fuck it and went to approach a girl:
-Me: (nudging her arm, looking elsewhere)
-Her: (looking at me with a hint of curiosity in her eyes, seemed a bit shy) Helloo
-Me: (look back into her eyes with sexy smile) Shy?
-Her: Shy about what?
-Me: nevermind haha, i'm OnlyShallow, what's your name (didn't extend for hand)
-Her: I'm Hailey, how are you? (not too friendly, but definitely not rude or creeped out)
-Me: As fine as one can be soaking wet from heavy rain
, you?
-Her: I burnt my fingers
-Me: Wtf haha show me
(didn't think of something witty to say, so tried to build compliance)
-Her
Takes her gloves off, and show me the burns, which were almost nonexistent. Unfortunately, I didn't use this as a pretext to touch her hands)
-Me: I'm supposed to see something
? so, what do you do when you dont talk to strangers?
-Her: I play with hot wax
-Me: Ohhh, you like it hot ;p (didn't really wink, but the feel was the same haha)
-Her: (laughs genuinely, not at me too, doesn't seem to dislike it from my perspective)
-Me: Seriously though
-Her: How old are you?
-Me: What do you give me?
-Her: (Doesn't reply, suddenly seems less excited and leaves)
So yeah, that's basically it. I'm happy to know that my voice and body language was good. I spoke slowly too and made an effort to use more interesting words and phrasing. However, I'm happy that I made some sexual comment (like it hot ;p) and was less of a boring, nice guy without being too much of an entertainer, but I'm wondering if I was too much on the teasing-cocky replies (wanted to be a challenge) or if I wasn't clear on my intentions (didn't compliment her,etc). Tell me what you think, about the strenghts and weaknesses I displayed here and I'll try to work on em tomorrow!
What I have going for me naturally are the byronic traits and the sense of humor. I also notice now that hot girls look at me and play with their hair, brush up against me,etc. My problem is more about adding the light and sexy je-ne-sais-quoi to conversations.
I noticed that, before, when I was talking to girls, I had lame fundamentals and was always being the entertainer guy or the super-boring-not-even-friendzone-material guy. And that's when I wasn't super high like a loser! So, right now, my main focus regarding approaches is really the conversation itself. I wanna be more of a challenge to girls (flirty, chase frames, compliance,etc) like a sexy guy is, while also being relatable (effective deep dive, humble)! If I achieve this, I think I'll have the hardest part done. Anyway, I had super approach anxiety today, but eventually said fuck it and went to approach a girl:
-Me: (nudging her arm, looking elsewhere)
-Her: (looking at me with a hint of curiosity in her eyes, seemed a bit shy) Helloo
-Me: (look back into her eyes with sexy smile) Shy?
-Her: Shy about what?
-Me: nevermind haha, i'm OnlyShallow, what's your name (didn't extend for hand)
-Her: I'm Hailey, how are you? (not too friendly, but definitely not rude or creeped out)
-Me: As fine as one can be soaking wet from heavy rain
-Her: I burnt my fingers
-Me: Wtf haha show me
-Her
-Me: I'm supposed to see something
-Her: I play with hot wax
-Me: Ohhh, you like it hot ;p (didn't really wink, but the feel was the same haha)
-Her: (laughs genuinely, not at me too, doesn't seem to dislike it from my perspective)
-Me: Seriously though
-Her: How old are you?
-Me: What do you give me?
-Her: (Doesn't reply, suddenly seems less excited and leaves)
So yeah, that's basically it. I'm happy to know that my voice and body language was good. I spoke slowly too and made an effort to use more interesting words and phrasing. However, I'm happy that I made some sexual comment (like it hot ;p) and was less of a boring, nice guy without being too much of an entertainer, but I'm wondering if I was too much on the teasing-cocky replies (wanted to be a challenge) or if I wasn't clear on my intentions (didn't compliment her,etc). Tell me what you think, about the strenghts and weaknesses I displayed here and I'll try to work on em tomorrow!