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Work, study, eat, sleep, repeat. More and more, I realize how little time I truly have. My new meditation mantram is, “I am going to die-and nothing I do matters.” Nihilistic optimism at its best.
Day 1
After going out on Thursday and Friday, with Friday getting interrupted by work, breaking the micro momentum I had built that night, I was a little worried about picking myself back up. But I spent the day resting, trying to get some energy back to prepare. I planned to hang out with some friends (non-PUA) and build some social momentum and get myself into a social state. I did drink a bit too much. But sometimes that’s how it goes, I kept my faculties at least.
I head out around 11 or so, along with a few friends. I mostly use them to bounce back to whenever I’m not in set and a little bored, but will take rounds through the venue and body rock open as it goes. You can see my journal for updates regarding some of those sets.
Opening
Anyway, I end up alone by 1AM. After a bit, maybe closer to 2AM, I see a girl who reminds me of a girl I had fucked once before. I stop her, telling her I noticed something really interesting about her (started using this after Bacchus taught it to me). As it turns out, she is of a similar nationality to the girl who I thought she looked similar to-accidental social proof.
I quickly immerse her and hook, then move her to a couch nearby where we sit. Do some deep diving, build the connection. Some mild physical touch. It’s a bit loud, so I’m talking into her ear (I myself am making sure to lean back and not lean into her). I also screen her logistics. She’s visiting the city for a short period of time (by herself), leaving in two days-perfect.
Venue Change #1
After talking more, and building the connection some more, it gets a bit later. I suggest moving to another bar nearby, with a different vibe that’s quieter and a bit latin. She’s down, but she needs to find a hostel friend who she was here with, to make sure it’s okay. We don’t find her, but she looks at her messages and sees that the friend is with a guy elsewhere and is okay. I assume that this will deal with the friend and put me in the clear for pulling without any wild cards.
We go to another bar, and sit at a table. She’s sitting across from me, so I tell her to come closer, she doesn’t, and I move a few seats over, then have her move the rest of the way to me. We talk a bit more, then I move us again to a nicer couch that’s better than sitting on two separate tables. I did this because I didn't want to completely move over, but I also didn't want to keep sitting across from each other. Not sure if there is a better way to deal with this.
I don’t bring up any explicit sex talk, but I bring up sexual frame conversations at various points. It’s not really hitting so well so I fractionate in and out (as suggested by teevs) with other emotional stimulating topics and random fluff every now and then. She does bring up politics and feminism at various points which I deftly navigate without issue.
Venue Change #2
I try to pull back to mine (after having seeded something that I don’t remember). She’s not down yet, so I suggest going to another bar with yet another different vibe (trying to attempt more of a compliance pull), so she can get the full spectrum of bar types in the city. It’s approaching 3:30AM or so. We grab a drink, and get another couch. At some point, as we’re talking, she just pushes completely into me and starts making out. It was a little random, but I don’t remember whether I said anything particularly sexual. I know my eye contact and physicality was quite strong, so the underlying vibe was certainly there. I do a short make out, pull back, give one more (shorter) make out, then pull out of it to avoid releasing all the sexual tension.
Wildcard
I try pulling a little bit after this, and she’s still not down. She says her friend is coming to where we are and she needs to make sure the friend gets back to the hostel safely. Nothing I can really do about this, since I’ve tried pulling a few times now and when the friend comes it basically adds a very drunk wildcard that I can’t get around. I’m not sure where they are staying, so I offer to walk them, in the hopes that the hostel is close by. However it turns out they are staying nearly an hour away. And it’s basically 4AM at this point. The girl suggests we meet on Sunday evening. I agree, and set up a wine date near my place. The girl makes a suggestive comment about how we’re getting wine at a place super near my apartment, and I just say, “yep” with good eye contact. She makes a comment again, asking whether the wine will live up to her expectations (her nationality is one that is apparently famous for good quality wine), and I reply, “guess you’ll just have to find out,” with a hint of a smirk.
Make sure they get onto the subway safely, under the premise of making sure that they avoid any unsavory characters. I did this in order to add a little bit of protectiveness and make her certain I wasn’t the type of guy who gets butt hurt if refused sex or compliance.
Day 2
I text her a funny comment in the morning based on something the friend said. She responds, and it’s fairly straightforward to set the date up. I’m still expecting that she will flake on me, but 7PM comes around and we meet up, a few minutes away from my apartment.
The date is pretty straightforward. Buy us some wine, grab us a seat, get us sitting next to each other. She’s pretty touchy with me. She makes some interesting comments that implied she noticed me first at the bar, based on my height. She also remembers that I had a pinky ring and is surprised I wasn’t wearing it.
After we finish our first glass of wine, I suggest grabbing another glass at my place (after having seeded a different reason than the previous day’s seed). She wants to spend some of her American money, so says “maybe later”. I stay non-reactive.
The most interesting parts of the date were the increase on my part in the sex talk. I focus on sexually liberated frames and discretion first. Then slowly weave in and out going more explicit, since I notice she continues to move the conversation away from the sex part, though I notice that lessening over the conversation. Until finally she starts becoming more explicit in her conversation around sex, and we’re actually having sexual conversations, with the underlying subtext very clear. 8 orgasms, slut shaming, her own likes/dislikes, and she starts to ask me more heavily about what sort of sexual things I like. At this point I have to continue to keep it a bit mysterious, while still discussing some sexual stories. I mostly focused on fictitious stories of me enabling my friends sexual escapades in a judgment free way, while implying my own strong sexuality at the same time.
She comments that I have a very quiet confidence. Easy contrasting right there. She also tells me that she is on her period. I stay non-reactive and say that a period isn’t a big deal-but I don’t say this in a way that explicitly states that I’m saying it thinking she is talking about sex. I think this was a test, but I’m not entirely sure what I did passed the test.
A little bit after we finish the second glass of wine, she says she wants to have a smoke. I suggest the balcony in my apartment, and she readily agrees.
Go to the apartment, smoke on the balcony, pull her onto my lap while she’s smoking. Back inside. No LMR.
Overall, I think I played this pretty well. I focused on Gunwitch's 3 keys, while doing some good push/pull and focusing on the basics. Since I still consider myself lower momentum, I was trying to reduce the use of super advanced game, and focus instead on the basics-as per teevs suggestion. I think I did that fairly well here. At the same time, I was focused on calibrating to the vibe of the venue, as well as to the girl herself.
There was an additional bonus of the girl being a traveler, but I think focusing on the keys is what made this an LR instead of a FR+. She noticed my non-reactivity, my congruence, and the sexual prizing as well, and so felt comfortable, and excited to meet up with me the day before she left the States.
Day 1
After going out on Thursday and Friday, with Friday getting interrupted by work, breaking the micro momentum I had built that night, I was a little worried about picking myself back up. But I spent the day resting, trying to get some energy back to prepare. I planned to hang out with some friends (non-PUA) and build some social momentum and get myself into a social state. I did drink a bit too much. But sometimes that’s how it goes, I kept my faculties at least.
I head out around 11 or so, along with a few friends. I mostly use them to bounce back to whenever I’m not in set and a little bored, but will take rounds through the venue and body rock open as it goes. You can see my journal for updates regarding some of those sets.
Opening
Anyway, I end up alone by 1AM. After a bit, maybe closer to 2AM, I see a girl who reminds me of a girl I had fucked once before. I stop her, telling her I noticed something really interesting about her (started using this after Bacchus taught it to me). As it turns out, she is of a similar nationality to the girl who I thought she looked similar to-accidental social proof.
I quickly immerse her and hook, then move her to a couch nearby where we sit. Do some deep diving, build the connection. Some mild physical touch. It’s a bit loud, so I’m talking into her ear (I myself am making sure to lean back and not lean into her). I also screen her logistics. She’s visiting the city for a short period of time (by herself), leaving in two days-perfect.
Venue Change #1
After talking more, and building the connection some more, it gets a bit later. I suggest moving to another bar nearby, with a different vibe that’s quieter and a bit latin. She’s down, but she needs to find a hostel friend who she was here with, to make sure it’s okay. We don’t find her, but she looks at her messages and sees that the friend is with a guy elsewhere and is okay. I assume that this will deal with the friend and put me in the clear for pulling without any wild cards.
We go to another bar, and sit at a table. She’s sitting across from me, so I tell her to come closer, she doesn’t, and I move a few seats over, then have her move the rest of the way to me. We talk a bit more, then I move us again to a nicer couch that’s better than sitting on two separate tables. I did this because I didn't want to completely move over, but I also didn't want to keep sitting across from each other. Not sure if there is a better way to deal with this.
I don’t bring up any explicit sex talk, but I bring up sexual frame conversations at various points. It’s not really hitting so well so I fractionate in and out (as suggested by teevs) with other emotional stimulating topics and random fluff every now and then. She does bring up politics and feminism at various points which I deftly navigate without issue.
Venue Change #2
I try to pull back to mine (after having seeded something that I don’t remember). She’s not down yet, so I suggest going to another bar with yet another different vibe (trying to attempt more of a compliance pull), so she can get the full spectrum of bar types in the city. It’s approaching 3:30AM or so. We grab a drink, and get another couch. At some point, as we’re talking, she just pushes completely into me and starts making out. It was a little random, but I don’t remember whether I said anything particularly sexual. I know my eye contact and physicality was quite strong, so the underlying vibe was certainly there. I do a short make out, pull back, give one more (shorter) make out, then pull out of it to avoid releasing all the sexual tension.
Wildcard
I try pulling a little bit after this, and she’s still not down. She says her friend is coming to where we are and she needs to make sure the friend gets back to the hostel safely. Nothing I can really do about this, since I’ve tried pulling a few times now and when the friend comes it basically adds a very drunk wildcard that I can’t get around. I’m not sure where they are staying, so I offer to walk them, in the hopes that the hostel is close by. However it turns out they are staying nearly an hour away. And it’s basically 4AM at this point. The girl suggests we meet on Sunday evening. I agree, and set up a wine date near my place. The girl makes a suggestive comment about how we’re getting wine at a place super near my apartment, and I just say, “yep” with good eye contact. She makes a comment again, asking whether the wine will live up to her expectations (her nationality is one that is apparently famous for good quality wine), and I reply, “guess you’ll just have to find out,” with a hint of a smirk.
Make sure they get onto the subway safely, under the premise of making sure that they avoid any unsavory characters. I did this in order to add a little bit of protectiveness and make her certain I wasn’t the type of guy who gets butt hurt if refused sex or compliance.
Day 2
I text her a funny comment in the morning based on something the friend said. She responds, and it’s fairly straightforward to set the date up. I’m still expecting that she will flake on me, but 7PM comes around and we meet up, a few minutes away from my apartment.
The date is pretty straightforward. Buy us some wine, grab us a seat, get us sitting next to each other. She’s pretty touchy with me. She makes some interesting comments that implied she noticed me first at the bar, based on my height. She also remembers that I had a pinky ring and is surprised I wasn’t wearing it.
After we finish our first glass of wine, I suggest grabbing another glass at my place (after having seeded a different reason than the previous day’s seed). She wants to spend some of her American money, so says “maybe later”. I stay non-reactive.
The most interesting parts of the date were the increase on my part in the sex talk. I focus on sexually liberated frames and discretion first. Then slowly weave in and out going more explicit, since I notice she continues to move the conversation away from the sex part, though I notice that lessening over the conversation. Until finally she starts becoming more explicit in her conversation around sex, and we’re actually having sexual conversations, with the underlying subtext very clear. 8 orgasms, slut shaming, her own likes/dislikes, and she starts to ask me more heavily about what sort of sexual things I like. At this point I have to continue to keep it a bit mysterious, while still discussing some sexual stories. I mostly focused on fictitious stories of me enabling my friends sexual escapades in a judgment free way, while implying my own strong sexuality at the same time.
She comments that I have a very quiet confidence. Easy contrasting right there. She also tells me that she is on her period. I stay non-reactive and say that a period isn’t a big deal-but I don’t say this in a way that explicitly states that I’m saying it thinking she is talking about sex. I think this was a test, but I’m not entirely sure what I did passed the test.
A little bit after we finish the second glass of wine, she says she wants to have a smoke. I suggest the balcony in my apartment, and she readily agrees.
Go to the apartment, smoke on the balcony, pull her onto my lap while she’s smoking. Back inside. No LMR.
Overall, I think I played this pretty well. I focused on Gunwitch's 3 keys, while doing some good push/pull and focusing on the basics. Since I still consider myself lower momentum, I was trying to reduce the use of super advanced game, and focus instead on the basics-as per teevs suggestion. I think I did that fairly well here. At the same time, I was focused on calibrating to the vibe of the venue, as well as to the girl herself.
There was an additional bonus of the girl being a traveler, but I think focusing on the keys is what made this an LR instead of a FR+. She noticed my non-reactivity, my congruence, and the sexual prizing as well, and so felt comfortable, and excited to meet up with me the day before she left the States.
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. And thank you-I definitely found the experience incredible for learning and motivation-along with simple fun.