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Space Monkey
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Fooled by a girl's personality.

So I have been struggling with seeming sexual on a date because I did not understand when the girl gets aroused. I've been struggling with seeming like a lover candidate instead of a boyfriend candidate and now I understand what was my problem exactly. And I can understand that because a girl help me to.

There is a 36-year-old woman, very beautiful, as all girls in Russia are. I played my sexual Vibe with her, and she reciprocated very well. She gave me all that Sexual Energy back and now, I believe that on the next date we will just start in my apartment.

the way she heavy sexually flirts with me now over text has finally opened my eyes. Because before that I was not acting sexual because I thought a girl will not reciprocate those feelings, because most girls are not 100% okay with their sexuality, especially young girls so I thought that if she's not actively giving me seductive eyes back, not actively touching me back, not sexually texting with me that she's not interested in having sex.

And because I'm a newbie in a seeming sexual department, I was thrown off by the lack of sexual energy from their side, and I did not increase my own Sexual Energy on a date, which resulted in some very charismatic, very fun dates, where we even ended up in my apartment most of the time, but it did not escalate to sex naturally, because the cafe part of it was not very sexual apart from me touching and hugging her.

The way I am with this woman is the way that I should have been with all of the other girls, regardless of their personalities. I Now understand that I should create sexual tension, I should assume that she wants to fuck me, and Chase me, and she wants to feel my hands on her, and I should put those thoughts in their heads even if it's not obvious that she wants to do it herself.

It's kind of the same deal when you approach a girl, and she's very shy, and you think to yourself, oh, she's not really interested she's not smiling and not laughing with me she's just standing there, agreeing to everything, but not actively engaging

the same, but in the opposite sense, goes with girls who are super charismatic, but in the opposite way. They flirt with you, they touch you, but then don't go on a date, because you kind of were fooled by their openness, and and forgot to do your job as a Seducer, did not deep dive enough and did not flirt enough so she was not actually hooked on the idea of a date with you. So now I will start treating every girl on a date as I treat this 36 year old woman who openly says that she will fuck me as soon as we are on my apartment, and that's why she will not go to my apartment, but we both know that she will.

And I'll start treating every girl regardless of whether or not she shows me how much she wants to fuck me or she seems sexual at all, I will treat them all like they are barely containing themselves

I will tease them about that and I will have more sexual dates, instead of very fun dates
 

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Space Monkey
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Brah stop spamming forum and shit posting... Do a journal you have 5 post on the same autism
Are they not all legitimate questions? I agree I do post a lot, but only because I am fully concentrated on this while I'm on vacation. Vacation ends or I figure everything out, and you'll never see me again. Do people here not like activity from the members of the forum?
 

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Are they not all legitimate questions? I agree I do post a lot, but only because I am fully concentrated on this while I'm on vacation. Vacation ends or I figure everything out, and you'll never see me again. Do people here not like activity from the members of the forum?
yes, just do a journal... or add to existing post you have more related stuff vs spamming.. Spamming is low value, same with shit posts...These should answer all your recent posts:

the lover provider balance

sexual tension/physical game

how to run a date
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

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Space Monkey
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yes, just do a journal... or add to existing post you have more related stuff vs spamming.. Spamming is low value, same with shit posts...These should answer all your recent posts:

the lover provider balance

sexual tension/physical game

how to run a date
Thank you brother, I appreciate you and everybody who's answering my questions here. Thing is, I'm pretty smart, so whatever you're teaching me and helping me to understand, I will soon learn, and we'll know forever. And after I'm done I'll disappear from here. No more spam posts, just a lot of happy Moscow women
 

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Thank you brother, I appreciate you and everybody who's answering my questions here. Thing is, I'm pretty smart, so whatever you're teaching me and helping me to understand, I will soon learn, and we'll know forever. And after I'm done I'll disappear from here. No more spam posts, just a lot of happy Moscow women
I don't want you to leave, you are part of the community... Or not to ask questions, i said no to spam brother and to do a journal..
 

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Space Monkey
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I don't want you to leave, you are part of the community... Or not to ask questions, i said no to spam brother and to do a journal..
I approach girls virtually every day, I have on average one date per day, and all of my other time I spend reading the materials you can say my vacation is a superintensive boot camp. Of course I will have much more questions than anybody else, because my goal is to have a skill that is so refined, that I can get back to work in December, and not think about learning new things with girls for a very long time
 

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I approach girls virtually every day, I have on average one date per day, and all of my other time I spend reading the materials you can say my vacation is a superintensive boot camp. Of course I will have much more questions than anybody else, because my goal is to have a skill that is so refined, that I can get back to work in December, and not think about learning new things with girls for a very long time
Ideally don't disappear. Post lay reports!! Even if you hit a critical mass of knowledge and don't have major questions, you will continue improving through the process of writing and self reflection, and others will benefit from observance.
 

Marty

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Because before that I was not acting sexual because I thought a girl will not reciprocate those feelings, because most girls are not 100% okay with their sexuality, especially young girls so I thought that if she's not actively giving me seductive eyes back, not actively touching me back, not sexually texting with me that she's not interested in having sex.

And because I'm a newbie in a seeming sexual department, I was thrown off by the lack of sexual energy from their side, and I did not increase my own Sexual Energy on a date, which resulted in some very charismatic, very fun dates,
I agree. I've had the same problem many times.

There is a 36-year-old woman, very beautiful, as all girls in Russia are.
Agree. They are the best.

So I have been struggling with seeming sexual on a date because I did not understand when the girl gets aroused.
I have had the same experience.

It's kind of the same deal when you approach a girl, and she's very shy, and you think to yourself, oh, she's not really interested she's not smiling and not laughing with me she's just standing there, agreeing to everything, but not actively engaging
Ah that's a good point, it can happen at various different stages of the acquaintance, and manifests similarly.

the way she heavy sexually flirts with me now over text has finally opened my eyes.
That's impressive, and I'm glad to hear it. I've also noticed that at the early stages of a sexual relationship, the girl may be quite reserved in person, but then the "barely contained" (as you put it) sexual side of her personality starts coming out in text messages first.
 

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Space Monkey
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I agree. I've had the same problem many times.


Agree. They are the best.


I have had the same experience.


Ah that's a good point, it can happen at various different stages of the acquaintance, and manifests similarly.


That's impressive, and I'm glad to hear it. I've also noticed that at the early stages of a sexual relationship, the girl may be quite reserved in person, but then the "barely contained" (as you put it) sexual side of her personality starts coming out in text messages first.
And I have an update on the 36 year old Russian girl.

I have been on a date with her yesterday, before that I've been reading articles on tension and being sexual for 2 days straight, so when she came over I lasered her with my eyes like homelander. I am kind of ashamed to admit that it was the very first time in my life that I have employed eye contact in such a heavy way, it's almost like all the articles that I've read about seduction were for nothing. Even though I had sex with 30 women in the first date throughout the course of my life, I Now understand that I have gone about that in a completely wrong way I did not build tension, I laughed a lot and diffused the little tension that I have built, and tension wise my game was extremely inconsistent, if I look back on it.

At the beginning she was very uncomfortable in a good way, she told me that I am completely different from the first date, it seems like she could not find her place, but then, it seemed like she completely melted.

we kissed for 3 hours she touched my dick, I stroke her pussy through her pants, all of that in the Dive Bar just near other people.

and for the record, I'm not a big fan of that, I don't want any patrons coming up to me kicking me out.

All my attempts of going home she rejected, because before I told her that I am going home in 1 week, and her logic was, if we become lovers and she accelerates her sexuality, but then I disappear, it will be very hard for her to be 10 times more aroused every day than she is now. So I kind of disqualified myself as a lover as well, saying that I will give her a taste and then disappear
 

isildur1

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Man you seem to be overthinking every aspect of seduction and seem so hyper analytical

you’ve also spammed the forum with 5 posts in a short space of time - I think a big part of seduction is self awareness about how you are making others feel if you’re not self aware enough to know that posting 5 posts on the same topic on the forum isn’t spam then you might have something cognitively wrong with you

a big part of seduction is making the girl feel appreciate, safe and trusted I feel by your hyper analytical mind you might be making them tense or losing their trust - given you feel quite harsh on yourself and frustrated with how the first dates are going I feel you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and that might be causing tension on the dates result in loss of trust and lmr.

telling a girl you will disappear? I don’t really understand what you will gain from doing that - if I went up to all my previous girls and said upfront “ I want to fuck you and then leave you forever on the first date” I am sure 0 of them would have slept with me with that approach - you’re just coming across as an asshole with no self awareness like that , alot of women want a long term future with a guy I - at least try and paint some long term romantic image for them not just saying you’re gonna leave before you’ve had sex

One of the previous friends an admin recommended you meditate I think that should calm your mind down 20-30 minutes before your next date see how you feel and maybe ride out the seductions over 2-3 dates instead of trying to bang everything on the first date

you’re clearly an attractive dude who has had a lot of success maybe the pressure your putting yourself under is coming out on the dates itself .
 

Marty

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At the beginning she was very uncomfortable in a good way, she told me that I am completely different from the first date, it seems like she could not find her place, but then, it seemed like she completely melted.

we kissed for 3 hours she touched my dick, I stroke her pussy through her pants
That's wonderful, my friend. So pleased to hear it. 🤍

you’ve also spammed the forum
No, he hasn't.

All my attempts of going home she rejected, because before I told her that I am going home in 1 week, and her logic was, if we become lovers and she accelerates her sexuality, but then I disappear, it will be very hard for her to be 10 times more aroused every day than she is now.
That's so sad. I remember the same thing happening to me in Tashkent in 1999. It was a girl who worked at the embassy of one of the Southeast Asian nations. I met her playing tennis. Getting her number was easy—I just dialed the embassy from my office and asked to speak with her. She gleefully informed me that we were already speaking! It turns out she was the receptionist.

We had shashlik on a sweltering July evening up in the hills somewhere on the outskirts of the city. We got along like a house on fire, but when she found out that I was headed back home in a month's time to finish my university degree, she refused a second date point-blank.
 
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