From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[kristian]

*Woman with kid at the tram looks at me and when I say hi in her language (because I saw she was tamil), she got very glad and had a small convo with me.
*Girl at the party (music business). Looks at me several times.
*Another girl at the same party who gives me "the look" as she passes me by.
*A lady and a young woman looking at me at the same time.

Hmmm, I am getting these signs almost daily now.

So how do I keep my testosterone in good shape?

By doing what I love and slaying as much as I can doing it. I am not doing anything seriously in my approaches because I am having a break right now, but I really feel great these days and want to start approaching again.

I think I still will be "on a break" because doing so makes me more attractive.

But when I start approaching again, I would love to be more direct with me sexual energy. That would be awesome. I think I want to learn how to do that

 

[kristian]

*Girl on the street staring at me as I sit and look at an artist.
*Girl inside a car as she and her dad drives by.
*Woman at a conference.
*A couple of girls at the conference after seeing me play.

 

[kristian]

*Blonde woman at a town nearby Oslo.
*Girl on a bicycle at the same town.
*One girl sitting at a cafe near the train station on my way back home.
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*Girl at a cafeteria as she was leaving and giving me her seat.
*Black, petite girl that passed me by (smiling and looking down).
*Teenage girl on the bus station.
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I also:

*Gave a 40 yo woman a compliment.
*Winged my female friend (who is a lesbian) when I saw a woman (with the looks she likes) staring at her. It was on the bus, so my friend got a little weird when everyone was looking and I was like, who cares?.
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Not being able to cold approach has helped me get rid of much of my approach anxiety. I know it has a lot to do with me caring too much about reactions and results, making me nervous before I even start talking. By just looking for women sending me signals, and then writing them down, I see that girl always will be abundant - they will never disappear at all.

And then it reminds me that I always will be attractive to certain girls, no matter how I feel on the inside. It a great exercise to work on my inner game.
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So since I was very horny today, I sent the following text to Miss A.

Me: Miss A, I miss you. I wish you were here with me. <3

And bam! She started asking me questions about how I am and what happened lately. Before, I just sent messages like Chase tell us to. "Hi, how are you?" and then make an appointment. So sending this message felt like chasing, which used to be wrong in this case.

Of course, after sending her this message, I made our conversation light and fun - just the opposite of being chasey and needy. My first message was enough to be honest.

We talked a little about her living in a small town and how her studies are. I told her I could go and visit her this summer and she got very excited at that (she lives 4 hours from my town and want me to go live with her while here for a couple of days).

The reason why I asked? I just love the sex we have. But it kind of feels like a big investment just travelling all the way there. And besides, it also feels weird telling Miss T that I am visiting her over there. But I don't know, she let me meet other girls so as long as I am honest and she is not afraid I will leave her for some other girl, it should work. I feel triggered by this. Some shadow work is needed.
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Okay, now I need to rehearse a little since I have a gig this evening.

 

[Lover]

And besides, it also feels weird telling Miss T that I am visiting her over there. But I don't know, she let me meet other girls so as long as I am honest and she is not afraid I will leave her for some other girl, it should work. I feel triggered by this. Some shadow work is needed.

Hey brother. Keep us updated how you handle this

 

[kristian]

Some of my most memorable interactions in the last days:

Me: You give me french vibes.
Her: Wow, I am French, actually. How did you know?
Me: I just had a feeling (laughs).

And like that, I managed to make her hook. But what if I was wrong? I would just say something like ("Are you sure your father ain't French? Cos you could be a Parisian form what I see right now"... and then made her flirt a little with me since French is sensual and so on).

And this is another one (Girl from a social circle):

Her: Kristian, one day you'll be sitting here (pointing to the backstage area at a major festival here in Norway).
Me: If you are beside me on the couch, that is.
Her: (Laughs) That would be great.
Me: I could feed you with grapes.
Her: Yeah, the red ones.
Me: That's right. Without Seeds and fresh from the fridge.
Her: I love fresh grapes. (smiling).

And just like that, I felt some sexual tension between us as well.

......

Or what about this one?

Me: Hi. Hows your day so far (talking to a girl that was working at a festival)
Her: It's been okay.
Me: You're doing a good job by picking up the trash. What you're doing is much-needed these days.
Her: Thank you.
Me: But You'll be able to see some concerts as well?
Her: Yeah, I only work for two days and then I can be here for free. But I've worked 13 hours today.
Me: Wow, that must be tiring.

And just like that, she started smiling and being positive around me. I excused myself, but I realized later I could have said I found her cute and introduced myself.

....

Some other small flirting things with some other girls:

Me: I don't know if I can just stay with only one woman. I just feel like I love women too much.
Her: Oh, so you aren't the boyfriend type, are you?
Me: (smiling) I guess not.
Her: (Smiles back).

Me: (After hugging a girl for a long time) I am so glad to see you again.
Her: Me too. Its been a long time (she checks me out).
Me: You're so hot, I get a little nervous around you.
Her: (Laughs) well thank you.
Me: I am blushing already.
Her: (Smiles even more)

Me: (After noticing the cashier I usually talk to with makeup) You look hot, any reason for that?
Her: No, I just felt like takin extra time on my appereanc today (smiles).
Me: I thought you where going out to celebrate someones birthday or something.
Her: No, will just be working this weekend.
Me: You should have been at the festival today.
Her: Yeah, I I should have (she lights up)
Me: If you work as a volunteer, youll get free tickets. You should apply for next year.
Her: Wow, that would be awesome to do (smiles a lot).
Me: (Look at her intensely and smile back).

Gazing when nobody's looking

So flirting verbally is getting more common for me. But I am also doing some non-verbal communication. How do I do this?
1. By talking to girls I like and thinking sexual thoughts.
2. By looking at them and smiling when nobody's watching.

Number one is something I am just starting to explore. But I believe being turned on close to women, I start sub-communicating my interest (which I believe is much more powerful than what I've been doing the last years). They catch my vibe and what I then say start being more impactful.

The latter is useful when you have a connection with a girl. When people are doing their thing, you just lock eyes with her and smile. This lasts for a couple of seconds but it creates a bubble between you and her.

I also:
Touch in high points.
Match body language.
Deep Dive.
And make sure to ask for information on a high note.

Speaking of information:
When you start gaming girls from cold approach, it seems like exchanging Instagram builds more trust. Norway is a very social circle country, so talking to women on the streets seem so far out from their reality. If they can get an insight into your life (like my artist Instagram) you can more easily make "maybes" comply. But it might depend on where you are and your market (I seem to hook youger girls a lot more easily than those my age).

The thing is, I am turning a little away from volume game and instead of working on aspects to make social circle girls start noticing me a lot more. Volume game (street approaches) is a good way to find girls sending you signals (which I am starting to understand from a deeper level). But how do I make myself much more sexy to women that are looking at me as a friend or on the fence about me? That's a game I am still working to comprehend.

I haven't been gaming for a while (since I have a gf which makes me think about things twice for reasons I soon will explain a little further, but that's for the next post).
Besides, I've been too concerned about my music career to game. I rarely go out these days, and I spend a lot of energy creating my future which seems, oddly enough, to make me even more attractive to women.

 

[kristian]

Nothing special, other than girls smiling back here and there and me doing almost nothing about it. It seems like street game is a little harder than events where girls are able to see me talk to other women and send more signals.

*But I made a street approach anyways. She was liking it but was running late for her job. I later realized I could just have followed her there and got her number.
*Then I had a french girl (the one from the last post) here. Nothing happened, but since we are friends I rehearsed on flirting and sexual tension, which are the aspects I want to get down a lot.

Saying things like: "You are so cute", while looking in her eyes or "you must be a devil, I can see those horns" or " I am a very nice guy" with a joking tone. Being able to flirt makes the relationship a lot more fascinating too, for her and for me.

So I think I will be working a little more on creating tension by pauses and long stares and thinking sexual thought as well (sexual transmutation). Time to google that.

 

[kristian]

It seems kind of weird, but the last weeks girls have been really into me. Like looking at me and looking away when "caught" and smiling for themselves.
The ages range from young girls (pre-adolescent) to older women. I dont know how many "looks" ive got these two weeks, maybe 80?
At first I was really surprised when this started happening because it seems to just come overnight. And besides, having a girlfriend - who really adores me - has made my itch for new women less present.

Until a couple of days ago, when I started talking to women again to see if it was just me, or if my fundamentals has taken a leap lately.

The first ever girl I talked to two day ago, hooked hard. Well, she smiled back so I knew I at least would get a nice response. After all, game is about reading girls signals before acting on them, right?

But I wasnt sure, so I had to try a little bit more.

So yesterday I opened a new kind of girl, the type I really want to sleep with. She didnt send me any invitations so it could go either way, I thought. This one hooked hard as well, we even talked to less than two minutes or so. And she is now looking for our meeting in a couple of days.

But I still wasnt sold. It could just be a fluke. And then I notice many girls looking at me and smiling for themselves. Could this be it?

So today I walked up to an even cuter girl and when asked if she "is single" she replys yes even before I manage to end my sentence. We talked for 40 seconds or so but she gives me her number before running to her bus.

And then I open a new one, she wasnt that romantically interested, but hooked either way. And then another one. And then another girl.

The last two werent looking for mr right now. But I know they wouldt be as receptive as they where, spending time with me and asking me questions back.
........

The weird thing is that I havent been practicing at all. My main goal has been my music carreer and my gf, so I thought taking a long break would leave me rusty.
Could my new sence of mission (music) in life has given me an aura if confidence? The only thing that apparently has changed is that I am going somewhere in my life.

If thats the case then I am getting closer to my goals with women, by not "gaming". Instead I am just going for what I want in life.

Well, lets see how the upcoming weeks end up before concluding.

Its getting interesting.

 

[kristian]

A couple of mistakes done on my date today:

*When asked about my age I answer 32 (which is good), but when she tells me her age (19), I start giving a long explanation of why age doesn't matter. She later replies with; "Now you got sassy". Good from her actually because I've had girls sleeping with men and not caring about my age. So why did I get defensive?

*My gf calls me in the middle of the date. She says "oh, (and saying her name that was on the screen). I replied with "Ill take that later". I tried to act cool and all, but that also ruined my rhythm.

Another thing: I held her hand for two seconds, she didn't move away, I should have just held her hand like I always do before kissing new girls?

But logistics where bad, she had an appointment with a female friend. Good for her.

So I don't know if we'll meet again. I think the chance is 50/50.

.......

I had a very interesting approach yesterday, with a girl that was crying just before she met me (she told me so).
One thing I discovered is asking permission: "Oh, are you busy? "Is it okay if I show you where the story is?" (since she was looking for a special brand of nicotine). I discovered that if you just ask things, girls will respond warmly. Don't know why, but it might be that I convey abundance (I could take it or leave it if it bothers her) so they comply much faster.

I have to experiment a little more with that.

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And of course, hot girls looking at me as well. I often skip girls because of fear and have to muster courage in order to stop them. Even with increased fundamentals, I still get scared. Maybe approach anxiety never will disappear?

.....

I am glad that I am turned on and ready to meet girls again. At the same time, I have to balance that with being in a relationship.
*The good thing is that she is very attracted to my abundance mentality.
*The more I flirt and meet other girls, the better the sex with my girl.

Then we have some drawbacks as well, like wanting to be more by myself (in order to meet other chicks) and the fear of falling out of love. I try to be there as much as I can for her - and never text other girls when we are together. But its hard to balance a relationship with seducing goals. I wish GC could post an article about that.

 

[foggy]

*When asked about my age I answer 32 (which is good), but when she tells me her age (19), I start giving a long explanation of why age doesn't matter. She later replies with; "Now you got sassy". Good from her actually because I've had girls sleeping with men and not caring about my age. So why did I get defensive?

It was unjustified of you to give such a long explanation - especially if she wasn't objecting to your age (you didn't specify whether she did or not - I'm assuming she didn't. if she did, my bad). I'm sure you know that though. Sometimes, we act weird/revert back to old behaviours. It happens all the time.

My gf calls me in the middle of the date. She says "oh, (and saying her name that was on the screen). I replied with "Ill take that later". I tried to act cool and all, but that also ruined my rhythm.

When you say rhythm, did you mean you were vibing and in a bubble with her, and then all of a sudden the call interrupted it and the vibe was ruined? Cuz that sucks! But either way, the fact that she saw who was calling was definitely good for preselection.

But logistics where bad, she had an appointment with a female friend.

If I were a girl, and I had an appointment with a female friend, I'd cancel it to go off and fuck some COOL dude I was hanging out with. Did you try to get her to cancel at all?

I had a very interesting approach yesterday, with a girl that was crying just before she met me (she told me so).
One thing I discovered is asking permission: "Oh, are you busy? "Is it okay if I show you where the story is?" (since she was looking for a special brand of nicotine). I discovered that if you just ask things, girls will respond warmly. Don't know why, but it might be that I convey abundance (I could take it or leave it if it bothers her) so they comply much faster.

Hmm, not sure if I understand, but I suspect it's something different than abundance. How old are these girls? Are they in their 20s? Considering you are in your 30s, they could automatically view you as an authority figure [giving you lowish attainability] and asking permission for things gives you a boost of attainability, which they like.

Plus, with the girl who was just crying, she needed a sensitive dude, and asking permission for things after she’s just been crying is sensitive and sweet!

Maybe approach anxiety never will disappear?

It’s never gone away for me either. Probably won’t ever go away fully. However, I’ve noticed it practically evaporates after my first approach of the day. Just gotta push through that first set and the rest of them are a breeze.

One of my favourite strategies is this: don't view it as anxiety, view it as excitement.

 

[kristian]

Thanks for pointing those out, Songbird.

As for asking permission, it seems to work on many types of girls, not just the younger ones.

About my age: I often pass for a 25 yo, sometimes even younger. And there is always someone at the store who ask me to show id when buying beer (and the age for drinking is 18 here). So yeah, that makes me give a boyish appeal that seems to work best on younger girls (17 - 22).

.......

Another interesting approach from last week:

Me: (walking beside her) Hi (smiling).
Her: Hi?
Me: I find you cute, Kristian is my name.

And the thing is the girls that are wanting to meet me don't even see me first. This one I saw from behind (100 meters away).
Not only that, they often seem eager from the very start and conversations are very short (less than 2 minutes) before they agree on meeting me on dates.

Don't know what has happened lately but I make a big impression on girls. I've had women (with boyfriends) openly checking me out. Some are just staying by my side, almost waiting for an approach. I even get long stares and a lot more submissiveness these days. Smiles, girls perking up when I enter the room.

Could it be that my fundamentals are that good? I'm I internalizing the beliefs and behaviors of an attractive guy?

Don't get me wrong, I still fuck up and miss escalation windows. But invites and chances are so abundant these days it's almost crazy.

.......

So singing at a small festival (arranged by my social circle so nothing mayor here) made me work with another concept: sexual energy.

I am not the guy who talks about sex and sexual innuendos. I discovered that the unsaid has for long been my strength but that has been something I can't quite control every time.

But lately, I've been rehearsing this sexual state. It seems like building tension and then thinking sexual thoughts make women see you differently. It's a little hard to explain but I manage to put a couple of these girls on a trancelike state almost forgetting whats happening around us. Of course, not being able to have them for myself made it hard (because nightgame, combined with a social circle made interruptions a frequent occurrence).

But I managed to have a couple of nice flirtatious moments as well.

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Another thing I am seeing lately: how socially aware I am becoming. Especially in larger groups, its like I can see a kind of a matrix that for long seemed foggy. Now I can get things from a birds perspective, and react accordingly. And that's also something I can't quite explain.

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Having a girl like the one I am dating right now is perfect. She adores me and knows I am a steal from her perspective.
I've heard people say things about her attractiveness because they have seen me with more physically attractive women. But I couldn't care less. She loves me, is dedicated to me and I trust her. Besides, she lets me be me and know I like being with other women. I don't think I could ever be monogamous, so as for now, being with a woman who loves me and wants only me in her life, while letting me go this journey seems like the best option. I am just not one of those who can stay single, I need companionship, someone to hold close, someone to love.

And that's for sure: My heart can only love one person at a time. And right now its her <3

 

[kristian]

As a result of working on my fundamentals for the last year or so, I see girls signaling me a lot more. Good reactions seem to be a normal occurrence in my daily life.

But it also been ten months since my last new lay.

And although I haven't been approaching as much (my ration is 1/3 of what it used to be) I see two things that are different: 1. Girls seem more eager on the outset, they either reject me gently or are fast to give out their numbers after a couple of minutes talks. I don't need to approach as much to get dates. 2. But they also make sure not to drink (I meet a lot more non-drinking, non-partying girls now) or have "an appointment" making logistics bad for seduction.

Could my heightened value make hookups harder for me?

When I wasn't that valuable, women either rejected me more blatantly (sometimes even harshly), but lays weren't that far and few between as they are now.

I also see that girls that signal me these days are more attractive than the ones I used to talk to.

What can have happened? Do prettier girls (the one I am meeting now) make it harder to hook up? Or I'm I being bf-zoned because I am more attractive? Or is it a combination of both or something I don't see?

Any feedback would be nice. I also write a journal with my encounters these days.

 

[kristian]

After several weeks of feeling like a social God and getting good reactions from girls, I landed on the ground again. But I see that there are several factors that contribute to my charisma:

*Such as enough sleep and time for contemplation.
*My own thoughts when I am out on the streets.
*The food and the people I am allowing in my sphere.

I've seen that the first thing mentioned above has the biggest impact on my mood. Yesterday was one of those days, and getting attention from women doesn't make me approach, lack of sleep makes me think things negatively and that impacts your state.

I even approached a girl on a bad mood to test myself. It started ok, but I got quickly off balance.

Me: Let me guess (after talking about her what instrument she might play), you play the cello.
Her: How did you know that? Are you a stalker or something?
Me: Ehem, Idk... I just felt like you might play that instrument.

I was set aback and instead of either: exaggerate (yeah, I am a stalker) or just say yeah (without flinching) or just deflecting, I opted for the latter thing, but not after getting nervous and stopping the flow. So she started looking for an exit, clearly getting scared of the situation.

I tried to save things, at least explain myself (since I saw this interaction as ruined anyways), excused myself and wished her a good day.

Aspects like:
*Listening to music.
*Having nice clothes.
*A couple of warm-up approaches.
*A good nights sleep.

And having somewhere to go (like a mission for the day) are key to put me on a better state.

.......

But having a girlfriend, and stepping out of the game like I've done, have clearly made my game rusty. I just don't pass shit test as I did before (last year I didn't even see them as shit tests and passed them easily).

However, my fundamentals have skyrocketed.

....

Another weakness I've seen are the lack of logistics and that comes from living far away from the city centre, where I used to live before. Inviting girls back then was easy.

*So I either have to invite girls to a bar closer to mine.
*Or date-compress a girl and inviting her first near to the centre and then close to my place (to later bounce off to my house).

I just haven't had that many chances to try things out, due to my lack of commitment on the approaching department.

So its time to rack up numbers!

 

[kristian]

I am starting all over.

And its kind of fun too, because being a newbie all over again makes the game more fun. As if everything just surprises me all over.

Convo some girls

Hi. Do you speak Norwegian?
Her: Yes I do.
Me: I just have to ask, are you single?

Its almost as she can't believe it and starts looking around, as if someone was filming the whole thing. I tell her, I had to be honest with her and that I hope she doesnt feel weird or creeped out (which seem to work now that my fundamentals are better).

I was too nervous, tho. She agreed on meeting later this week but hasn't responded to my message. No worries, I am just getting started all over, ain't I?

And then I made an indirect approach to a girl on the metro station, I just made an obvious remark on her bag (with bananas on it), my train came, so I wished her a good day.

But I skip the most attractive girls. That's for sure.

But two girls looked at me and smiled as we made eye contact as well. And that was cool as well.

Things to improve:

*Being more in the moment
*Eye contact

 

[kristian]

What if, instead of approaching many women to find the ones that are looking for sex, I just try to work on eye flirting, showing sexual intent and working on my sexiness and those signals?

These days I've just been trying to do this, smiling at women, reacting to the ones that I like.

*On the store, where I work now (new job, giving me some flirting opportunities) I see a girl I like and lock eyes. It often seems like I am getting to flirt on a new level, where words don't need to be applied.

*Its often in my eyes and how I see them. I stare for longer than usual and send "loving" thoughts their way. They often do it back.
*That makes some women smile back even looking at me.

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What if I get able to do this consistently and at the same time be more sexual around them?

Maybe game is about energy and not so much techniques and many approaches?

Still, don't know, but I am catching a different vibe lately.

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The other thing I am getting to realize is that I don't approach as much. It could be an ego thing, or that I don't find any reasons to do so. Like I lack the hunger I had before. It's time to do something with that. Maybe a coach would be advisable?

And another thing, state of mind has a lot to do with game (30% I believe, the rest is luck and techniques). Time to work on meditations.

 

[foggy]

The other thing I am getting to realize is that I don't approach as much. It could be an ego thing, or that I don't find any reasons to do so. Like I lack the hunger I had before. It's time to do something with that. Maybe a coach would be advisable?

bro, coaches are expensive. i dont think u need a coach to give you motivation. i think all you need is ya boy fog giving u a little bit of a ribbin if you aren't talking to any girls. you should also come take part in the 30 Day Daygame Challenge, a little competitive spirit will help reignite the flame as well

 

[kristian]

So waking up this morning, with no actual work to do, I wanted to try a little experiment with the following question:

How much can I game with my altered state?

What I mean is, when I feel great about myself, can I just walk around with no agenda and then start flirting with women I see?

As many of you may know, I have some deep issues with my psyche, making days either fantastic or just wanting to hide in my bed after another sleepless night.

I woke up this morning feeling shitty like I often do, but this time I decided to try out an app called "Calm", in there I found a gratitude meditation - since I've heard its effective at battling with depression.

20 minutes later, I felt great. Really happy I was on my way to a meeting and listening to one of my favorite artist.

Two girls smile at me at the bus. One of them looking at me for a little extra. I open them, talk a little and get off to my station. A good start, here.
And then I got many IOIs
*From the streets.
*A tourist passing me by, she even went on an instant date with me (which I had to abort 10 minutes in because I forgot I had a meeting waiting for me, haha).
*Girl sitting with her friend as I pass her by.
*Two girls at the bar.

With the tourist, I tried to be more aware of things mentioned before, like "stating intentions" with my eyes, and rewarding good behaviour with touches on her back and arm with sexual intent. It seems girls I do this to catch my vibe, and even get a little excited as I do so.

On fundamentals

Before I went out today, I meditated as I said earlier. But I also walked confidently, with my favorite music on.
I also looked at the girls I liked straight up, without looking away or being shy. Some get excited, others get nervous, but at least I was able to make an emotional impact doing this.

 

[kristian]

Knowing that pick up, for the most part, is emotional, I've been working on being on top psychologically as much as possible.

As a result, I have been listening to music of female singers, imagining I am the guy they're singing about. One of the songs is this one, it gets me in the mood:
[url=https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5CNms9_FfE]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y5CNms9_FfE[/url]

So as I am listening to this song, I am looking intensely at girls eyes. When they lock with mine, I just smile, and when that happens, they get surprised at themselves.

Me: Hi. Kristian is my name (after smiling to a younger girl).

And just like that, I start a conversation and get a girls info. I seem easy these days when I am in the mood to do so.

.....
But getting in the mood consistently is a totally different thing. Because even having an understanding that it has something to do with my thoughts, I have very little power over how to redirect my thought patterns to something useful.

I am meditating more than ever now, but I still feel unattractive most of the time. I also realized that meditation makes me even more aware of my darker sides which has made me even more stressed out at times, paradoxically.

Anyways, maybe being aware is the first step of realizing my own, innate awesomeness.

.....

A funny thing is happening lately, girls that are interested seem younger (17 - 21).

That is cool, but at the same time, the moment I tell them my age, half of the girls seem concerned and excuse themselves (on dates).
So I am wondering if I just should let them guess, and add a couple of years extra to make it believable (so if they guess 25 Ill say 27 or something).

But it feels dishonest.

....

A girl shit tested me, wondering what I believed in:

Me: I believe that nothing is random. Most of the things we stumble upon in life happen because of subconscious processes".

That's well an good, but I am still buying her frame (as she is the one whos judging). So instead, of explaining further, I switch places and as her.

"So what do you believe?" and then reward her for her answer.

You cant refuse to answer (you fail), but you can't explain yourself too much (also fail). The best option is to be short and turn it on her.

 

[kristian]

This is weird, being able to move mountains one day - and then feeling overwhelmed by strangers the other. Consistency is key here, but again how do I reach that mental state?

As Marilyn Monroe did, she could turn on her sexiness in a flick of a moment, even demonstrating how her behavior could make her extremely enticing in one moment, and invisible the next.

But what are the ins and outs of this X-factor?


So today I woke up a little non- sexy.

But I went to a mall, nearby a clinic where I went "daygaming" again. No direct approaches, but I tried a new thing: Pre-opening with my eyes

So the thing is, as you walk nearby a girl you look at her eyes, sooner than later, she will look at you and as she does - you deliver a warm smile.

Some girls get confused, of course. Others get a little nervous, but many will smile back, getting surprised at themselves as they do. These girls can be opened with a simple "hi" before you just introduce yourself and say you find her cute.

....

I just realized you can do this - and pull it off - even when you're feeling bad. Of course, you wont react as fast and easy as you do on a good day, but this is a clear fact that as long as you keep an eye with your fundamentals, you can still get good reactions.

....

Things like this, combined with sexual intent in your mundane conversations can be killer.

 

[kristian]

So on my way back to work, from the mall yesterday, I tried a couple of different stuff in order to get back in the zone.

*Firstly, I tried to talk to a girl on the bus, making an assumption (that she was German). However, this did not work as we was embarking the bus - and she blew me off. (5 and 6s are sometimes difficult to talk to).

*I felt it stung and I was a little concerned I lost my x-factor.
*Then I realized one thing; what if I walk up to a girl and without any agenda just deliver a genuine compliment?
*So I did this, I did not push for a number or anything, but making her smile (nervously) made me feel a lot better.
*Then I approached a couple of girls who had matching outfit, gave then a compliment, it felt good. I was back "in the zone".

After this, things felt a lot easier. A girl, walking with her friend smiles at me, but I did not do anything about that.
Then I got some IOIs here and there, and some nice flirtatious conversations.

And all this because I decided to give a couple of girls some value. Combined with the some awesome music and I got a killer vibe.

And meditation helps, of course

 

[kristian]

Since night game success is all about good state:

1.Start with listening to good music and feeling well. Have fun with friends, enjoy the night and think that it's all about having fun , not picking up girls.

2. As you get in, try to see if you can get IOIs, smile back and/or start a conversation with the bouncer (hi, all good?) Or the guy standing beside you at the bar (cheers! A cool bar, isn't it?) That will make you talkative and less shy.

3. Sit beside a group of people. As you do, and if you get eye contact, say hi. Smile and if they ignore you, continue having a conversation with your friend, if they engage , cool.

4. Use the first place to warm up. Listen to people's conversations, have fun imagining what they are up to and so on.

5. If the next place is a club. Go for the dancefloor the moment you enter the room. Get noticed, some girl will be into you then (even if she is there just to dance and get attention. Either way, this builds pre-selection). The more you dance and get a little physical, the more ballsy you get.

6. Be aware of friends trying to "save her".

From here I would love to see how I can isolate a girl from dancefloor to conversation. At least , I get a lot of IOIs. Maybe from increased testosterone after picking up masturbation? I am still unsure.


Sexual energy


I dont know why, but I have never been hornier like I am these days, seems like masturbation doesn't help either, because all I do is think about sex.

The good thing about it is that I am much more sexual in my interaction, not even using words, but only energy.

Today I had a couple of nice conversations. I also did practice some of the fundamentals (eye contact and sexual intent) both as I daygamed but also on my job.

The first girl was someone I met at the mall on my way to work. She barely noticed me but it was very early on the day so I did not have any option than to follow her to another store and open by giving her a genuine compliment. She hooks and she tests me a couple of times.

Her: But I am not staying here for long.
Me: Who cares that youre moving. I still want to know you better.

Test passed. But then I failed the next one.

Me: I really love Berlin (after finding out she is from that city)
Her: yeah of course you love Berlin, you're saying that because I am from there.
I also love Berlin.
Me: because you're neutral, are you? (Teasing her).

It went a little awkward from here, but I kinda saved it by not reacting as much.

Then I wish her luck with her shopping.

Later I realized I could have transitioned better from testing to something that works. Like light touches.


Still intermediate

I believe the difference between me and an advanced guy is that I really have to move fast and not say as much (to not fuck it up). The really good guys I know, like a mentor of mine, seems to create even more attraction the more a girl get to know him, creating a magical tension between them before he makes the move. This makes him, seemingly, a lot more valuable the moment he seduces her. Me, on the other hand, have to make her mine within the first date. If not,t then she might be gone.

Working on sexual tension

the "..." are pauses where I look at a custumers eyes intenselly as I tell her about some of the products we sell.

Me: We got two different types here... One Is Britax... While the other.... Is.... Emmaljunga....

This got her even more excited. Then I try to find out logistics (where she lives and if she is single).

Me: Ah, so you live together with your sister and niece?
Her: No. I live by myself.
Me: Ah, where?
Her: I live by xxxy.
Me: I live nearby that place. Next time I'll see you Ill talk to you.... You're cute and there's many cafeterias nearby....