From lame ass to badass. My transformation

[kristian]

Tired as fuck after working on new projects, going out almost every evening and working through some inner beliefs that have hindered my progress in game.

The cool thing with A-jays visit so far has been that I, in a way, can combine going out a couple of nights every week with the other things I am currently doing.

So lately I've been only approaching those who send me signs, like the one I wrote a couple of posts ago. But first, let me recall some of the clear ones I've got the last 24 hours.

*The one that looked my way as she was leaving the club.
*The one that looked at me and really listened to what I was talking about as I approached a couple close to her. I later fucked up my interaction with her (which I will write about in the next post).
*The Arabic girl that let me touch her and kiss her neck as I led her to the dance floor. She danced my way before I invited her to dance with me.
*The blonde girl with curls.
*Miss Tights. We locked eyes and I just delivered a compliment (which she liked I did not do anything then and there and realized I could have just have started a conversation).
*The blonde girl who was going on the bus as I was leaving it. I turn around, only for me to see that she smiles back at me. If I were alone I would have got back inside.
*The brunette inside the club. I couldn't get anywhere with her because her male friend came along. And she got weird.

And these are the most obvious ones so far. Imagine if I had talked to all of these. Imagine when I become better at reading and acting on those signs.

So I will sit down and write about my interaction in detail tomorrow. But the two things I will start working on from next week are:

*Moving forward with those who give me signs of interest. And moving fast.
*Online game.

Well, that's enough for now. More will come the next couple of weeks

 

[kristian]

The biggest difference between day and night game is that girls in night time test me harder. It could be the alcohol involved in conjunction with higher guards because they're in a club.

Girl 1: Why don't you understand Danish when you speak Norwegian? That's dumb.
Me: Because I don't. And I never bothered to know

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Girl 2: You ask me where I am from, only to say that you've never been there? That's interesting.
Me: I don't know...

Girl 3: So you say you when to Tøyen to go out? I don't get it because you're clearly some other place than Tøyen.
Me: No, I said I went to Tøyen and then I went out.

So in girl 1 and 3, I passed the test, making girl 1 horny (but I saw that she and a-jay where flirting as well so I let him have her).
Girl 3 wasn't interested but wanted to test me, she gave me more compliance after that.

The thing is that tests come very surprising at me, startling me from time to time. I guess that's their nature.
But the thing I see with them is that it has nothing to do with what I say, but rather how I feel at that moment. So the more tests I get the better I become at passing them. Exposure and experience are key here.

Testosterone and confidence

This one is huge because I can clearly see the patterns here. I've been working out for a week now but the increased testosterone has made me more sure of myself and certain. Girls seem to sense this and they like how I act.

My day-game approaches are more direct, to the point than before. I get over rejections a lot faster.

I am also not afraid of rekindling things with past girls. It seems like testosterone makes me take more chances and work harder.

However, I get more tired after a workout, making my night game a little challenging. Day game, on the other hand, is getting easier.

And I am starting to do some online game as well!

Caring less for girls

A weird thing has happened as result of my daily meditations and visualization: I care less for the outcome.
That means I do not run after girls like I did before.

Instead of chasing I am persisting, the difference? There's not an emotional attachment to any girl. Instead, I devote my energy on becoming better at the skill.

Things to improve:
*Sexual tension.
*Touching.
*Passing tests.
*Night game.
*Getting dates.

Things that are good:

*Fundamentals.
*Voice (is getting better).
*Finding interested girls.
*Getting numbers.

 

[Lover]

The Arabic girl that let me touch her and kiss her neck as I led her to the dance floor. She danced my way before I invited her to dance with me.

I love how you just went over to her like 1 or 2 seconds after we saw her. Seeing an opportunity and instantly react on it has done many wonders for you when I saw you in both day and night time. And this is probably the most inspirational lesson I'll take with me from my visit here.

 

[kristian]

"It's nice to see you again, my friend", she says after the kiss in the mouth I give her. She wasn't expecting that when we met, although I was very flirty on texts. Later she lets me lick her nipples, while she touches my cock as we make out.

Testosterone makes me take more chances wouldn't have taken otherwise, and all because I am working out 3 times a week and only doing big, compound movements for no more than 40 minutes every time. It seems like girls sense it, I am not kidding at all, things are changing a lot lately...

So I quit thinking about lays, instead, I am looking for ways to improve, push it as hard as I can and explore new things every time I encounter a woman.

This week has been about two things, approaching and being genuine and working on tension on dates. The former makes me have balls and bounce back from rejections -the latter makes me comfortable with awkward silences. The two dates that I had this week has been successful in that regard, both girls knew what I am about.

*Warmth and deep dive make them trust me.
*Tension make them see me as a sexual option.

You don't even need to be horny to create sexual tension, although it helps. Now mind you there are some girls that are so used to tension that they don't flinch or get nervous (like AK, who btw came back from ignoring me, warmer and flirtier than ever and wanting me to invite to things, I guess the guy she is dating is making mistakes and now she wants to explore me a little) but all in all, tension makes them much more excited when we talk.

Girls seem to appear from nowhere as well and they pick up in my vibe.

The truth is, I have no successes yet to get that vibe. Instead, I am visualizing success, making my micro expressions and unconscious body language cues be like a guy with actual success. I think I just need more exposure to women and see where I can take this vibe.

Other than that, I feel like I became outcome independent. A girl not wanting to sleep with me, rejecting me or flaking on me really doesn't make a difference on my happiness and that's perhaps the nicest lesson I've gotten since embarking this game.

What I want more of is more women to talk to, more encounters, flirts, make outs, lays and fun stuff. I am really excited at the future right now.

 

[kristian]

Just because I don't feel afraid when I approach or kiss and move fast doesn't mean I am not uncomfortable when taking chances.
I still get nervous, but since I am a lot more outcome independent and used to tension things seem to move "slower" I can see patterns and act accordingly.

Kissing AK for the first time

So on my way to a female friend, I spot AK at a restaurant I was going to drink water at. I give her a warm hug, follow her outside.

Me: I think I am falling in love.
Her: In yourself?
Me: No, I am standing right in front of her.
Her: (Giggles).

And then I kiss her on the mouth for the first time. She "tries" to move out and just give me the cheek, but can't move away. My verbal game and our mouths engaging startled her.

Me: Well, I have to go now. It was nice seeing you, AK
Her: Yeah, thanks.

So a girl that was resisting me. That even auto-rejected several times, suddenly sees me as a romantic option. Interesting.

Moving forward on high points
Meeting Miss E, one of my female friend was also cool. We used to be lovers but she has a boyfriend so we decided to just stay friends. But I saw her in a different light now; hot and sexy. So I planted a few ideas in her head. "And if everything goes wrong with your current bf I can be the reserve, so you don't need to worry".

The thing is, I only escalate when she is laughing or when the connection between us is good like I did two days ago with the girl that came over to my house.

And of course, it's better to start off escalating with my eyes first.

But the main thing I've seen in all my interactions, escalations and talks this week boils down to one thing: Confidence.

That's the ingredient that makes me trust my gut feeling and act accordingly is confidence and it can't be faked.

A couple of examples:

Me: So Ida, I won't lie, I saw you here and started a conversation with you because I find you cute, sexy and after talking to you I also see that you're smart.
I really want to give us a shot.

Me: You see, Maren. I really like you and want to see you again. I am glad we finally met and I can't wait to make this happen again.

Me: I find you cute Miss N. What do you think about getting together some day and go out for a coffee?

I would never say those things with that calmness. All because I started to meditate and visualize success. My heart starts feeling it and my body language and consciousness act accordingly. Fear becomes excitement about the future. The unknown sounds fun because it gives me a chance to prove myself.

A test from Ay


She comes to my house, with pain on her neck, grumpy not giving me any value. But since I am now outcome independent I started to do other things, listening to music, looking out of the window, and last but not least, calling my female friend and set up a meeting with her.

Ay: Who was that?
Me: (smiling) That E. We are going to meet up tonight. But anyways let me follow you out, I really want to go for a long walk before I met her.

And just like that, her mood changes. I start undressing her and we start having sex and now she is more cuddly and loving than ever...

Hmmm... Girls arent that hard to figure out.

 

[kristian]

We have kind of a special bond, AK and I and sort of a weird relationship. One day she is auto-rejecting and moving away, only to try to chase me once more all of a sudden. Sometimes I see her as a girl I want to move fast with, while other times she just "meh" and I friend zone her.

And then we have the time when she is really into me, only to make me a little unsure of myself and self-conscious, then she auto reject me again.

So I meet her at a coffe house near my job. She is really glad to see me, look at my mouth and was almost waiting for me to kiss her again. The thing is, I haven't slept last night (because of a nightmare about Miss J appearing out of nowhere chasing like a monster, haha) so I wasn't in tune and aware at all. My energy was off so all could rely on is technique and fundamentals which are sort of okay.

*When I am well rested, socially warm and happy, speaking to girls and moving fast seem easy (like the Swedish girl last week who tried to friend-zone me or kissing AK)
*When I am tired and stressed out, I miss opportunities, make mistakes and let girls, I otherwise would have moved fast with, go.

So today was one of those days and because I had so much on my mind, I did not even approach those few girls who was signaling their interest to me. It's been like that this whole week to be honest, I just don't seem as inspired as I did and even stay at home instead of going out talking to girls. Am I burned out and do I need a break? Perhaps....

A few cool things, though. Since I am very outcome dependent, my honesty is making big impacts on how girls receive me. I want to find out what the deal is and I want to do it fast.

Her: Cool that you want to meet up, Kristian. Why don't we just text this weekend and we can go out with some friends from work?
Me: I don't want to hang out with your friends, Carol. I want to spend an evening with you.

Another example, with a past lover that now is a friend.

Her: (On the phone) I am still not ready yet. I am naked getting right now.
Me: You're naked and I am not there?

And this was from a street approach two days ago.

Her: You see. I am not interested in dating right now (after explaining that she is in the process of breaking up with her BF).
Me: You are not dating because you aren't looking or is it because I am not your type?

The cool thing is that I am done playing games and pretending, instead I just say whatever comes to mind trying to move fast both physically and verbally. Girls get startled and some even see me in a different light after this. Now, I haven't slept with anyone new since June and that was a Tinder date, but I am making some improvements here and there at least.

I have to go for a little date now, but I can write more about the mental aspects I am figuring out and an undiscussed topic here: Sexual availability and timing in game.

 

[kristian]

When I pay attention to what I am doing, instead of overthinking, I tend to learn a lot more.

So yesterday was definitely one of those with different approaches that gave me a couple of lessons and reminders.

*Girls on a rush are often a waste of time. First of all, they aren't looking to attract and then they don't have any interest in accessing your value/attractiveness.
*The cool thing I found out is that girls tend to send me signals as I am out minding my own stuff. I recognize the look they give me.

1. I was sitting at a festival here in Oslo, eating a meal and talking to a friend I haven't seen for many years. Out of nowhere, a cute girl passes me by and give me that look. I was in a conversation so I couldn't run after her. When I left my friend, I went looking for that girl, but never saw her again.

2. As I was at an indoor concert, a girl smiles slightly and looks my way. I say hi and introduce myself. She likes my vibe, but the concert was a classical one, and she was with her mother (she might be around 17 or so) making it hard to talk. I catch her looking at me several times after her mother came to "save her".

3. I went to an information-tent and spot a cute girl sitting at the table looking at me. Again, that stare. I walk over being honest: "Hey. I don't know what kind of information you give out here, but I find you cute so I had to strike a conversation and get to know you. Kristian is my name". She loved my vibe and as she was telling me things about her work I was just imagining myself being her lover. That made her excited. I later found out she has a boyfriend so I did not move from there, although I could have.

4. As I was watching another concert (now outdoors) I spot another girl looking my way. I open her and we start chatting. However I couldn't engage her enough and although she turned me on, the lack of interest from her side did not make me excited. "Okay, we can text and maybe meet up". I am not a fan of "maybes" so I wamly left and forgot about her.

5. And then we got the latina-looking girl that stares at me from one of the tables at the tent. It turns out she is Russian and she loved the way I approach her:

Me: Hi, I just saw you here and find you cute. So I had to come over and introduce myself. Kristian is my name.
Her: Thank you. My name is Miss A.

We start talking about the situation she is in. It turns out she works for the festival and tell me she's been living in Norway for 6 years. 7 minutes I tell her this.

Me: So miss A. I find you attractive and interesting. I would really like to take you out.
Her: Oh, I would love to.
Me: Why don't you give me your number so we can reconnect and go out?

Which she gladly gave me. Hopefully, she will meet me after "work" this evening. She says she can't drink tonight, and that's fine. That means I will see this as an informational date with aims to close it even more next time (but I will try to close tonight anyway).

My date on friday

Let's call her L. We had an amazing connection when I met her through social circle (those are easier to get along with). I sent her a message saying I wanted to see her because I find her cute, she agreed and made room to meet me even when she was tired and had to work late (along with time constraints because she has a kid).

*Creating tension, by looking intensely at her eyes, speaks louder than words. Even louder than touches, although eye contact and touch combined is killer.
*But sometimes you can't touch. When you are with friends or she is sitting opposite of you. However, looking at her eyes makes her a lot more excited when you finally touch.
*Like Bruce Lee says: "It's all about cutting the dialogue as much as possible" (Referring to his movies). I think this can be applied to seduction.

I invited her home anyway, but she declined. No worries, I found out I am still not being the kind of lover to get all girls at home the first date everytime. So date compression is needed. And besides, I really want a little harem with several awesome, cute and intelligent women.

Additional thoughts:

I've been a little too strict to "rules" here. Like not responding to girls if they don't get with me on the first date, not persisting enough (because I confused it with chasing) and so on. So now I am looking for ways to be more flexible.

Sometimes, life gets on the way with women. So I send then a message here and there checking in if she is too busy to date for a couple of weeks.

And another times I do everything just right, but life gets in the way, and she starts dating someone else thats a little better suited for the boyfriend role. (It has happened with several girls now, in fact). I say I can be the "super-sub" if her main guy fucks up and she need someone - which they always seem to like the idea of.

Okay, we will see what will happen later on tonight. Cant wait.

 

[kristian]

Main sexual and romantic markets

Events are great. I get to know many girls from my market and number-close several in a night. So whats my main market?
*Girls that are into arts, music, dance and/or acting.
*Spiritual girls.
*Progressive women who are on the left side of the political spectrum.
*Girls that like and prefer brown guys, Latinos and Latin flavour.
*Nerdy girls.

And those aspects are some of mine as well. It seems like women sense these commonalities, making them attracted just by the mere sight of me. I just need to enter the room and I can already see which girls will be into me before we even start talking and what kind of girls they are.

I am also working on becoming more attractive on a new market: Women that are into fitness.
*The more I work out, the more I exude the energy of a fitness guy (I don't need to be buff, but I think they react to my forwardness and testosterone?).
*But as I pack a little muscle, I will start attracting more of these kinds of girls as well.

And then we have the market I can't get a date with to save my life.
*Girls on the right side on the political spectrum.
*Conservative girls (some are easier than others, though).
*Bussiness inclined women.

It's interesting to see how specialization makes you get some types of women. I know Chase talked about it on a post and I think guys have to be more aware of this aspect in game.

My date with miss A


I meet her by the main scene at the festival and wow, her body was packed with nice curves. An amazing ass, tits almost exploding from her skirt. She tells me she doesn't drink because of a physical illness, I took this as a new challenge and a way to see what I can away with when alcohol is not involved.

We sit at a cafe nearby, talk about her. I touch her a little, build sexual tension a couple of times (eyes contact and silences are key here). I notice she tries to dilute tension faster than I prefer her to, but okay, she gets my point now; I want her as a woman.

I ask if she wants to go for a walk and from there invite her to my house saying I can play piano if that's okay. From here things start getting interesting.

As I start touching her (I take her directly to my room, we havent kissed yet) she resists my touches. I relax lie with my head on her thighs, touch her arm and start talking to her.

Her: I know what you want, Kristian.
Me: Miss A, I really like you and I am very attracted to you. But is it mutual?
Her: It is, I am just not as used to being intimate with guys I barely know.

A little thing about her. She is Russian, and like women from eastern Europe, she is a little conservative. My experience with these girls are that they often boyfriend zone me and are looking for something more substantial making it a little harder to move fast.

I stand up and so does she, and we start dancing a little. I see she wants to kiss me but moves away. I kiss her cheek, her neck, the upper part of her breast. Then I lift her up turn her around and slowly put her lying on the bed, she gets very excited. We make out.

Her: Aren't you going to sing for me?
Me: Yeah, but first...

I can't get past her bra, so after several attempts, I start playing piano and guitar my singing makes her even more excited. We start talking some more and I follow her to the metro station. She says she wants to see me again.

Other lessons


I meet Ay at a local bar where I usually sing at the open mic session. My singing makes her horny and we have the best sex in our relationship so far. I sleep over.
*My singing made other girls excited so she got excited. And horny.

And at the festival I meet an another girl, let's call her M. She has great fundamentals, with a toned body, great makeup, and behavior that guys get excited at.
Mr G, the guy who is mentoring me a little was flirting with her a couple of months ago, only to stop doing so when he realized she was bf-zoning him.

She flirts back, so when I am on my way to meet up with Miss A I give her my phone. She puts her number in it.

Her: But you have to know that I have a boyfriend now.
Me: No worries. I really like you and find you attractive. Let's say this: If he fucks up and you need some fast love, you know who to call.
Her: (Laughs with excitement). That sounds great if you mean it.
Me: I do. I will check in on you in three months to see how your relationship is and if you don't like it, you know who to booty call.
Her: Deal!

Another thing: One of my exes appeared out of nowhere, her name is Ana, and along with Miss J is the only woman who rejected me well into our dating. We are on friendly terms now (4 years later) and my carefree nature, sexual tension, and improved fundamentals made her excited to be with me. We are working on a thing together as well and started touching more and more, and at the end of it we both started triangulating.

I don't know if I want to move forward or not. It could be a nice little, something extra and proof that attraction never really dies.

*Like when I meet Miss J on occasion, I can see there is sexual tension and attraction every time. Her ego (and mine as well) stops us from taking it forward.
*Girls that flirted with me before can be re-ignited all of a sudden.
*Auto-rejection is really hate disguised as love, like the girl 3. on my last post here, I saw her yesterday and she was cold and aloof all of a sudden. Was it because she was protecting her ego?

Girls seem excited when we talk. And that's nice.

 

[kristian]

Haugesund, a town on the west part of Norway, gave me some new lessons.

First of all, no girls are like the ones in Oslo, they are hotter but harder here. On the other side, the impact I think I can make on women outside of Oslo might be greater - this is just what I feel at the moment.

The second thing I am seeing here is that now that I come across as attainable, girls seem to want to be with me. Not just to seduce but to have me in their life as a partner. That might be good, but that also means they want to take it slow or could it be that I now attract a different type of girl, those higher quality girls? I still don't know.

And lastly, girls that notice me and like me are young (18- 25) so this is totally different from what I am used to.

However, I am still not there where I get girls consistently in bed, although I am certainly getting closer (kissing more, touching and being sexual). You know how it feels, you think you're there, only to find out you still have some more mountains to climb? Well, that's me and it sometimes sucks.

Instant date with new lessons

On the positive note; I am pushing myself to exhaustion. So I was exploring this new city when I spot a cute blonde girl at the local coffee house because I had to go to the bathroom. On my way out I say hi and deliver a genuine compliment asking as well for compliance. She says it's okay to let me sit by her table and we start talking about what she was doing (studying) and life in general.

Me: So Ellisabeth, I don't know what your schedule is like right now. But if you have time, I would love you to take me somewhere where we can grab a cold drink or something.
Her: Yes, that should work. I just have to get back home in a couple of hours.

So she agreed to "get me out" and we go to a bar close to the harbor. We sit there and I sit beside her, I start escalating a little more but also realize that she doesn't want to look at me in the eyes (building sexual tension).

Her: I am sorry. I did not put on any makeup today so I am feeling a little insecure when you look at me like that.
Me: No worries. You're cute anyways.
Her: (Laughs nervously).

At least girls get a little intimidated by my presence. Heres one cool thing:

Me: Speaking of Netflix, why can't we just bounce to your house?
HerSurprised) What?
Me: I was thinking we could just get to your place and chill. You say you only live a short bus ride away.

My response and lack of nervousness got her by surprise and she was constantly saying "this was totally new" for her. And she never "agreed to date someone just like that". So that was cool. I did not have any hotel room by this time so I couldn't take her to my place. I asked her for more compliance and we started walking around the city before we went to the park.

Me: (after failing to kiss her): Who can blame a brotha for trying?
Her: (Smiles nervously): I am just not used to moving THAT fast.

I think this was due to us being completely sober, on daytime which for her seemed very out of character. I decided to kick back then and close my eyes (since I was exhausted by lack of sleep at a hotel room). She tried to reconnect again since she couldnt handle the tension. I follow her to the buss station and hug her goodbye.

The cool thing here is that I am not scared to try anymore. I experiment and try to learn as much as possible by pushing the limits.

I think I will start night gaming again. It so much easier to escalate.

 

[foggy]

Me: (after failing to kiss her): Who can blame a brotha for trying?
Her: (Smiles nervously): I am just not used to moving THAT fast.

I think this was due to us being completely sober, on daytime which for her seemed very out of character.

What was the mood like between you guys when you attempted to kiss her? Was it serious, or was it really fun and lighthearted?

 

[kristian]

What was the mood like between you guys when you attempted to kiss her? Was it serious, or was it really fun and lighthearted?

Good question, backstory.

The mood between us was serious like it tends to be with girls, a lot of tension in the air.

 

[kristian]

You know when you're too tired to post something but you have to?

Well now is one of those moments. I am getting a lot out of my comfort zone at work and then I make some mistakes with girls that give me lessons but also stress me out.
For how long do I have to continue making mistakes to really get consistent lays?

*Like the girl that I dated two weeks ago. She appears at a local music scene only to see me flirting with another girl. She goes from interested to cold.
*Or about Miss A, who all of a sudden did not answer my message because we were too back and forth trying to figure out logistics to date. I could have just asked her "what time works for you?" Plain and simple.
*Or the other girl I dated last week, who did not answer my message, only for me to get a little emotional telling her if "you don't want to meet up, let me know". I think she lost some attraction from there.

On the other hand, I am at least not confusing girl or getting friend zoned. I am also pushing it forward every time, escalating and inviting them home. At least I create so much attraction that there always will be another girl waiting in line to meet up. I just need to spend some time lining them up as I improve and make mistakes. Its all about streamlining my game, I guess.

 

[foggy]

What was the mood like between you guys when you attempted to kiss her? Was it serious, or was it really fun and lighthearted?

Good question, backstory.

The mood between us was serious like it tends to be with girls, a lot of tension in the air.

Interesting....lately a few minutes before I plan to kiss a girl, I lighten the mood. I'll tell her a silly story and or banter with her a little bit so she's laughing and smiling. Then I lean in to kiss her and it's just fun.

I think in this case you might have had better luck by doing this. Especially because she's not used to these situations. But I wasn't there so I can't be sure.

 

[kristian]

I new day game-lay, finally!

Remember Miss A the Russian girl I had a date with that gave me some resistance last weekend? Well, we agreed to meet up this Saturday and she was around 30 minutes late for our meeting at the park (close to me). When I saw her I found out why; she looked fine and her clothes were nicer than last time. A good sign. She apologizes for coming late, I lay her on the grass and start kissing her.

Her: Be careful, there are children here.

I saw this as an opportunity to lead her all the way to my place, but first I wanted to show her the botanic garden nearby. We walk a little, find another spot only to get interrupted by a security guard saying we can't sit on the grass where we were lying at. So I show her some of the green houses.

All of a sudden she was a lot more affectionate than last time. Holding my arm a little bit, letting me touch her hands in between sessions.We kissed a little as well, but I wanted to keep my distance at times, making her chase for more affection. She does the same and we had a little back and forth going on with kisses, touching and eye flirting.

Me: So I am going to a festival soon, and I have to put my stuff back home before I go. Why don't you join me? I can walk you to the station after that.
Her: That sounds good. You live nearby after all.

The thing about transitions: when I walk from a place to the next, conversations tends to halt a little. Good I know how to deep dive, because she was more of a talkative person, I only needed to lead the conversation here and there.

We get inside and I was eager to rip off her clothes, she starts playing with my cats (animals can be cock-blocks sometimes) so I put some music, and waited on my bed.
We start dancing a little.

Her: You move too fast for me. I don't know if I want to do it yet.

I ignore her resistance and instead try to kiss her, she turns her cheek on (of course) and I start laughing. We talk a little more and I see this as a sign to get going to the festival I wanted to see.

Me: Okay, let's get up and start bouncing.
Her: Good idea.

As we are about to leave the room, I hold her close to me. Lift her up (as I did last time), she starts laughing and when I put her on the bed again, we make out. A lot.

I start undressing her and all the resistance melted just before my eyes. We have sex for two hours straight, only with 5- 10 minute breaks. And wow, she looked amazing.

Her: I love you cock. Let's do this again.

And all because I spent my time making good love to her. She was almost in love, climbing at me, touching me and kissing a lot. It almost got me a little worried, but I guess I make a big impact on certain girls.

Girls and emotions

The thing is, the better I become at understanding women, the more I can make them feel certain ways. Many like how I act with them and I can recognize the signs girls send me when the emotional impact is strong.

But guys here don't as much that girls also can be triggered negatively as well. In a sense, this is good, because at least girls have feelings for me, and hate is just love in disguise. The festival was like that, with girls ranging from being cold and aloof (because I met up with Ann, a girl that auto-rejected last year on a date) and a couple of other girls. To a little confused, since Miss J appeared as well. To really digging me, like the black girl and a bigger girl letting me touch them a lot.

And then we got all the girls that dig me as well. At least I make impacts on girls nowadays.

Texting after number closing

So lately, I've been experimenting with my text game. I loose dates here so after talking to a cute girl on a bus station and taking a ride with her as well, I send her the following text.

Me: Nice to meet you Tonje. It was so random. I hope your chair fits well in your apartment. You will hear more from me.
- Kristian.

Her: Nice to meet you too. Have a fun evening at the festival.

Before this, I've been too concerned about taking my time playing a little hard to get. Fuck that! When a girl responds, she is usually keen to respond in a quick succession, making it easy to set up a date then and there.

The next day I send her a couple of photos from the festival.

Me: From the festival yesterday. How are you? Reading to exams on a Sunday? (Referring to what we talked about on the bus).
Her: It looked like a nice evening (referring to the pictures). I am good, had a moving in party. And now I am reading a little. What about you? Hows your Sunday?

From here I see she is investing as well. We start having a little conversation about my day and I ask her how her week is. She says she has some plans Monday and Tuesday, but nothing special after that (a clear escalation window).

Me: Me too. Ended up reading psychology now which is my favorite topic at the moment. Maybe we should meet up and take a coffee after work/school one day?
I am currently free Wednesday and Thursday.
Her: That would be nice. I think Thursday works for me.

And from here I just set up the place and logistics. I say I am looking forward and so does she.

I think I am getting really close to my dream now: A harem with several cute girls. Miss A, Ay and tonight the northern Norwegian beauty I meet four weeks ago. If I manage to have sex with her I am on my way. The only thing is that I hate using condoms, so I have to be a little careful here.

The thing is, I am putting the pieces together now. Girls send me signals, and I am not afraid of trying anymore. The next months will be awesome.

 

[kristian]

"Wow, you move fast!", she says as I kiss her on the lips. 20 minutes ago she entered my room with two bottles of ginger beer.

We kissed several times on our two-hour session, but like many girls I have over, she was resisting my advances to move beyond that, stating "she still doesn't know me that well".
Northern Norwegian Beauty (we'll call her NNB) isn't used to sex on the first date and that's fine, according to my stats, around 1/3 of dates that end with make-out also end up in sex the same night. I believe I am showing some love value, but not enough to screen out and seduce every girl the first night.

And that's totally fine, at least I am getting dates consistently, almost all from cold approach. And some times we have sex, even on our first encounter. The funny thing is that I am also realizing one more thing, for the first time in my life - especially now that I am accustomed to cute girls wanting to be with me - I am looking for the real stunners.

And they're looking more at me as well, I believe that's my new goal in the future, but first I want to get comfortable with cute girls.

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I also feel comfortable with myself, as opposed to before when I felt like shit if I did not talk to any girl for a day, that frees up a lot of needinesses and mental energy because when I finally approach; I am inspired and a lot more genuine.

I've been working a lot as well but growing in my abilities with women. That's fun!

 

[kristian]

In two weeks, I've had much more success than the past half year. It's not even close.

The thing is; summers have always been kind of dry in the past. Also, this year, although got more stuff happening in the seduction department - like Ay saving me from unwanted celibacy and a couple of nice experiences in Berlin.

August, on the other hand, has been amazing so far - imagine how September will look like.

New lay. Again!

So a new lay since last post and this one is also a cold-approach one. Remember the girl I was referring to about a couple of posts ago. The one I've been experimenting with my text game on? Well, let's call her Miss T. As I mentioned earlier, we met at a bus station last Saturday (after my last encounter with Miss A) I gave her a compliment on my way on the bus, telling her I liked her style and asking what she was up to that evening. She was on her way back home from buying a chair to her new apartment. And six minutes later, I leave the bus with her number on my phone. I text her as I get off to remind her that I will get in touch again.

*I was deadly honest from the get go.
*I said I wanted to know her better as I sparked a conversation.
*I asked her if she was single, making her understand that I wanted her as a sexual/romantic option.

So when she arrived at the spot where we met, she knew what it was all about. I was still unsure if she wanted to kiss or get intimate, but I always go for that - no matter the circumstances.

We get our spot at a sofa near the entrance of a very cozy bar. She orders soda - as she doesn't drink either (just like Miss A.). I order a non-alcoholic beer.
As we stand in line she takes off her sweater, revealing a nice looking dress underneath. Bare back, nice, toned arms. This was a good surprise as girls that get undressed that way often are prone to get intimate with me.

I move closer as we stand in line, in order to see if she stand her ground. She does and I can even spot that she wants me to kiss her? Nah, it's too soon.

So we sit and talk a little on the couch. On high points, I touch her arm, she doesn't move away, and we've been only talking for 15 minutes in total. Could she be down for it? Nah, still don't believe it.

But when a girl still holds her ground, even when I touch her hands I see that I can kiss. And rightfully so, 30 minutes later, we were on my way back home. It doesn't even take 5 minutes and we start having sex. We made love for two hours or so. And I want to see her again since I am getting closer to my goal of having a cloud of girls to have sex with.

Afterthoughts
It could be my improved fundamentals, combined with sexual vibe that made her (and other girls) see me as a sexual option. Mix it with attainability and she wants you to seduce her.

The nice thing about it as well is that girls now are so much different from girls before. No more trading relationships for sex I guess. Girls love sex as long as it come from the right guy. I believe I am becoming that guy for an increasing number of girls.

That's the beauty of sticking to cold approach. The feedback I get is instant and that makes me grow at a faster rate than all my peers. I am starting to think I might get to my goal faster than I thought as well, maybe in a year or so? Let's see what happens.

Now, the other thing to work on is not becoming too attached to the outcome. My identity has to be grounded and that is something I will work on the more attractive I am percieved as.

 

[kristian]

I remember thinking to myself that I would date multiple women by August. I think I made it by the end of that month. If the girls I have slept with last week continue meeting me.

I was also thinking about past failures: Miss J, Ester, and another girl I have not treated well a couple of years ago. I finally understand how those mistakes were a part of my journey so far - every time I have the opportunity to learn and embrace those, new girls seem to appear in my life and those with new lessons that I yet had not gone through.

I understand that this path of meeting women will never end, my challenges seem to change, and there only higher quality challenges - like trying to hold on to the girls I am seeing now, or not being satisfied with the ones I have now. I think this is just a normal thing with every journey, but I have to remember that no matter how "real" it seems - it still just a game.

So I will have fun playing it.

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Other than that, I've been having the time of my life this week. Girls appearing from all over the place, women signaling their interests, other being flirty by text and everything in between. The girls that I had sex with this week seem eager to meet me again, and I am also working on other, promising prospects. Weird how it all can change in a matter of days.

But I also have some new levels to reach, consistency and quality. I decided to spend this fall on working on the basics again because I am still making mistakes with a new set of women and see holes that need to be patched, especially in my openers/ first impressions.

So working on approaches, from scratch and improving fundamentals will be my two "home works" the next months. Girls will come as I do this- obviously.

 

[kristian]

A little conversation with a girl I've been flirting with for a couple of months now.

Me: So how was the course you were going to last time we met?
Her: It wasn't a course, it was a meeting. I told you.
Me: So did you come up with good ideas?

A test from her part, but I did not even flinch so I passed that. I was also looking intensely in her eyes as she was talking a little bit. It was clear to see she was nervous around me.

Me: So let's meet up other than randomly running into each other.
Her: I know. But I don't know what your intentions are. It makes me a little uncomfortable.
Me: (after staring her down): You're smoking hot. And I find you cute.

Pause.....

Me: So are you single?
Her: No, I told you that last time we met.
Me: A lot of things can happen in a month or two.

This reminds me that girls remember. Sometimes very well.

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Other than that. I think I am becoming a fucking fuck-boy! The way some women look at me. It's quite different from what I am used to. Like living in a universe I did not know existed. Ay is thankful for the sex I give her, and women I've slept with seem so into my sex. This is getting quite fun.

 

[kristian]

It's not that I am a stud. I still get rejections and perhaps more than usual, but that's because I take more chances:

*Like messaging new and old prospects.
*Approaching girls that I think are sending me invitations.
*Being bolder on my delivery and sexual tension.

I just decided I want to get this handled once and for all. I am 31 years old and want to spend my 30s having fun, meeting girls and working my finances and music as much as possible. What are 3 more years studying this worth for a lifetime of female abundance?

I want to find the girl. And I want to keep her, but first I want to encounter as many demons as I can. By attracting new women into my life for the years to come.

The more I meet myself through women, the better it gets, I feel more at ease with myself. More centered, have a better handle on things and I am not as confused anymore.
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Because I am too horny and forward girls seem to sense this. Many like it, I never knew girls really wanted to be seen as sex objects. If you're in a position to do so of course (it might be a reason importance fundamentals can't be stressed enough). I believe girls complain about objectification when you're creepy, once you're the right guy, they like it. A lot.

So I am working on checking them out in a discreet way, but its a little difficult, haha!

Now let's continue working on fundamentals and approaches, it can only go one way from now on

 

[Sub-Zero]

Do you feel anyway about your age? Or have you been doing this for a while?

It's not that I am a stud. I still get rejections and perhaps more than usual, but that's because I take more chances:

*Like messaging new and old prospects.
*Approaching girls that I think are sending me invitations.
*Being bolder on my delivery and sexual tension.

I just decided I want to get this handled once and for all. I am 31 years old and want to spend my 30s having fun, meeting girls and working my finances and music as much as possible. What are 3 more years studying this worth for a lifetime of female abundance?

I want to find the girl. And I want to keep her, but first I want to encounter as many demons as I can. By attracting new women into my life for the years to come.

The more I meet myself through women, the better it gets, I feel more at ease with myself. More centered, have a better handle on things and I am not as confused anymore.
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Because I am too horny and forward girls seem to sense this. Many like it, I never knew girls really wanted to be seen as sex objects. If you're in a position to do so of course (it might be a reason importance fundamentals can't be stressed enough). I believe girls complain about objectification when you're creepy, once you're the right guy, they like it. A lot.

So I am working on checking them out in a discreet way, but its a little difficult, haha!

Now let's continue working on fundamentals and approaches, it can only go one way from now on