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Hue

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Started off the night with a blowy from a Tinder date, then went to have some drinks with my high school friends. Just a casual night. I go on to hit a bar with my brother and meet a cute HB6 at the bar. Unorthodox lay, I'm not sure if I'd recommend everything in here, but it shows frame control. Enjoy.


My brother and his friend text me right as we're finishing up to meet them at the bar. I've already had a few so figure why not and meet them at a dive. We shoot the shit and I flirt with the bartender a little bit. Then I stroll over to the pool tables and talk to some girls who are at the pool table. Not tryna smash just chatting, and then setting us up for next game. We eventually play for a bit with some regular that apparently hustled my brother a while back.

The "hustler" has a cute friend, who I assumed was his GF. I introduce myself and chat for a little bit, then screen to see if she is in fact his GF. Nope, just friends who live together. Cool. I pull away for a little bit and return to my brother. Then go back to her and escalate with light touch and some deep diving. The style I was working was low energy and trying to get the story behind how she got where she is now. I back off and sit back with my friend.

My brother's friend asks if I know the girl, probably from the impression I've made with us talking. I tell him no, but I think I should get to know her. I walk back over to her and sit down, going back to us talking about her old life in a small town. Then I sit back with my friend, and she leaves her seat and sits down next to me.

Things get weird from here and I don't totally recommend following this.


Her and I start talking again, and she randomly tells me that I'm underweight. My friend and I laugh at this and I just say "oh yea I'm underweight?" then go back to talking to my friend. Then I turn to her and change the subject. My brother and his friend are ready to leave and tell me they are, and I just chill and say naw I'm good staying here.

Then it's just her and I and I try to screen for her logistics by asking what it's like living with the "hustler". She starts acting really aloof and tells me I'm bad a reading signs. o_O so she wants me to move faster? I say "signs of what?" and touch her leg. She let's out a sigh and goes "I should probably go home". I say "yea you could do that, or we could go do something". And she turns and stares at me for a few seconds, then turns away again and goes back to being aloof.

Then she turns to me and goes "what do you want?", pulls me into her and says "tell me what you want". I'm taken off guard, but try to maintain composure and say "I want you to come home with me because I'm getting bored with this. Not with you, but with *this*. Are you going to come?". She gets up and walks away. I get up and get my coat, and stick around for a bit longer.

She comes back and says, "I had to check on me roommate. I'm ready now". Lol, cool, let's go.

We go to my car and get back to my place, sit on the couch and watch some music videos. She's got a shirt with a back zipper, and as I ramp physical escalation, I start undoing the zipper while talking to her, as she switches the song with the controller. She can't find the song, and so I try to just take the controller so something is playing, and she doesn't want to hand it over.

I tried to playfully wrestle with her for the controller, and we do for about 5 seconds, but then she turns and slaps the shit out of my face. Like 7/10 slap. I forcibly sit her on the couch and go "bitch! you don't slap me". She's startled and I ask why the fuck she thought she could do that. I can feel my left cheek getting red. She goes "I'm into that." Well, fuck, bitch. Screen me for BDSM or something, don't just fucking walk into my house and think it's cool to hit me in the face.

I'm inches from telling her to get the fuck out. Instead I get up and get a glass of water. I'll admit, I was pissed.

When I come back she's on the phone with her friend. I assume she's getting picked up, so I ask leading questions to her leaving. But no, apparently she got called by her friend and wanted to stay. I separate entirely and we sit there for a little bit. Then I swallow my pride and start talking to her again. I'm looking at her very intensely and oddly feel a sexual energy fill the air. I tap her leg and she says "no, don't do that."

I pause, then just look her dead in the eye and say,
Me: Why are you here?
Her: ...to pass the time.
Me: To pass the time?
Her: Yea, to see where things go.
Me: ....
Her: Why do you think I'm here?
Me: I invited you home to have some fun, which I thought we were going to do.
Her: Well no, I don't want to anymore. You shut me off.
Me: I shut you off?
Her: Yea you don't like being slapped.
Me: No. I don't. It was disrespectful as shit.
Her: It wasn't disrespectful. I just like that stuff.
Me: BDSM?
Her: ..yea.
Me: Me too, but not like that. I like giving, not receiving.
Her: So you're a hypocrite.
Me: A hypocrite? No. That means that I like giving pain and a mixture of sensations in a dominating way, it doesn't make me a hypocrite to not also like submitting and getting hit - especially when we weren't even doing anything. It would be one thing to hit me mid-sex, but you just hit me. We hadn't even kissed yet. That makes it a matter of respect, which you haven't shown me.
Her: Why should I respect you?
Me: You don't have to, but if you expect me to respect you by inviting you home and letting you hang at my house, I expect to not be disrespected.
Her: ....
Me: So, you like BDSM?


From here we talk about different sex shit and hot wax treatment and the contrasts of sensations. I make a clear note of saying that being submissive / dominant is different than the contrast of pain and pleasure, and she accepts my frame. She says that hard sex is "her vice". I think GC has made me somewhat more sexually open minded, because it was almost like she was embarrassed to tell me about her kinks, yet she slapped me in accordance with it. Talk about conflicting beliefs/actions.

Then she starts telling me to get naked. At first I'm hesitant, but then I do, telling her not to get used to ordering me around.

Next thing I know she's giving me a really solid blowjob, which turns into me fucking her in doggy and slapping the shit out of her ass as she screams to hit her harder. I move to the bed and we fuck for about 20 until I start to lose wood. A lot of throat fucking. We hang out and talk, then I slip on another condom and fuck her in adapted missionary and come after about 5. From here we actually had some good conversation. I definitely turned it around for both her and I in terms of enjoyment. She says she was hesitant to come home with me because I'm 21 and she's 27, but obviously it didn't matter too much.

She stays the night and I politely kick her out when I wake up.

All in all, that was pretty weird. Or maybe I'm looking at this a less-than-healthy way.


Hue
 

Ambiance

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That was a weird one, yeah. Angry girls are horny girls. Props for sealing the deal irregardless!

This type of stuff would piss me off so much. Women being dominant in the bedroom is ridiculous. She probably thought that she could just abuse you since you were quite a bit younger than her. I think the way you handled it- keeping your composure while showing your irritation- was the best way to handle it. I probably would have kicked her out and not gotten laid lol

If this happens to you again try to catch her arm before she can slap you. I've done this before with a glower/smirk and it got really hot after that.

Nice read Hue! Thx for sharing

A
 

Smurf

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I think you did well here man!

Showing her what you will/will not appreciate is attractive in and of itself. Shows you have boundaries and you're willing to walk.

Good shit man hell yeah!

Jake.
 

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Bad at reading signs? Do you have aspergers or autism? Just curious. Also refer to women on a yes/no basis, as yes I’d go for her or no I’d rather say bye. Don’t try your luck unless your funny.
 

Ambiance

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BetaBoy said:
Bad at reading signs? Do you have aspergers or autism? Just curious.

Betaboy? Do you enjoy tailing some female friend around the mall while holding all her bags for her and then picking up the bill? It's totally cool though, don't get offended, cuz I am just curious... C'mon man. That comment makes me wonder if you are autistic.

Also refer to women on a yes/no basis, as yes I’d go for her or no I’d rather say bye. Don’t try your luck unless your funny.

While there is a lot of truth to that before you've slept with a chick, of course you are going to like some girls more than others. Pretty sure Hue's got this covered- dude's got game:)
 

Hue

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Betaboy,

Bad at reading signs? Do you have aspergers or autism? Just curious. Also refer to women on a yes/no basis, as yes I’d go for her or no I’d rather say bye. Don’t try your luck unless your funny.
Haha dude, sweeping generalizations much?

I prefer a hierarchy of value, but if you like an all or nothing take with women / people you do you.


Hue
 

BetaBoy

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Ambiance said:
BetaBoy said:
Bad at reading signs? Do you have aspergers or autism? Just curious.

Betaboy? Do you enjoy tailing some female friend around the mall while holding all her bags for her and then picking up the bill? It's totally cool though, don't get offended, cuz I am just curious... C'mon man. That comment makes me wonder if you are autistic.

Also refer to women on a yes/no basis, as yes I’d go for her or no I’d rather say bye. Don’t try your luck unless your funny.

While there is a lot of truth to that before you've slept with a chick, of course you are going to like some girls more than others. Pretty sure Hue's got this covered- dude's got game:)
Lol, I have game unlike the op. Specifically told chase to take me off the mailing list because I’m not beta. Honestly I don’t know why I come here and post, I guess it’s because I feel bad for you all. Substance and being alpha makes you go far in life.want to hear a joke? If he rocks, I’d buy him a chair.
 

Hue

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Betaboy,

You're right, I don't any game. In fact all my posts are fake news.

Honestly I don’t know why I come here and post, I guess it’s because I feel bad for you all

That makes two of us. I'd guess you're bored and trolling.

Thanks for the feedback :)


Hue
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

BetaBoy

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Hue said:
Betaboy,

You're right, I don't any game. In fact all my posts are fake news.

Honestly I don’t know why I come here and post, I guess it’s because I feel bad for you all

That makes two of us. I'd guess you're bored and trolling.

Thanks for the feedback :)


Hue
i only kid bro. Getting slapped playfully isn’t a bad thing, getting slapped because your not picking up on social cognition is bad to say the least. Have you considered buying a book on art work of facial expressions? It helped my buddy in high school.
 

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Hue said:
I forcibly sit her on the couch and go "bitch! you don't slap me". She's startled and I ask why the fuck she thought she could do that. I can feel my left cheek getting red. She goes "I'm into that." Well, fuck, bitch. Screen me for BDSM or something, don't just fucking walk into my house and think it's cool to hit me in the face.

BetaBoy said:
Getting slapped playfully isn’t a bad thing, getting slapped because your not picking up on social cognition is bad to say the least. Have you considered buying a book on art work of facial expressions? It helped my buddy in high school.

BetaBoy is banned for trolling.

Also for making an account after previously being banned.

Also for not picking up on social cognition, such as the fact that the girl slapped Hue because slapping around turns her on, not because Hue misread some social cue.

Hue, nice report :)

Girls like that are "read my mind"ers:

Hue said:
She starts acting really aloof and tells me I'm bad a reading signs.

[snip]

Then she turns to me and goes "what do you want?", pulls me into her and says "tell me what you want". I'm taken off guard

[snip]

She gets up and walks away. I get up and get my coat, and stick around for a bit longer.

She comes back and says, "I had to check on me roommate. I'm ready now". Lol, cool, let's go.

[snip]

She's startled and I ask why the fuck she thought she could do that. I can feel my left cheek getting red. She goes "I'm into that." Well, fuck, bitch.

Every woman expects you to read her mind to some extent or other, but legitimately not-all-there chicks like this cannot understand you cannot LITERALLY read their minds. i.e.:

  • She was expecting you to take some kind of action based on signs she decided you couldn't read
  • She does the "Tell me what you want!" thing that nutty/socially uncalibrated girls do
  • She walks away wordlessly when you say you want to leave with her, then comes back and explains herself
  • She not only slaps you out of the blue, but then is startled when you react in shock/surprise/anger

Anyway, girls like this make for funky lays.

Just don't keep them around unless you want to start to doubt your sanity.

Chase
 

Hue

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Thanks Chase.

I think many users on here were wondering how much longer he'd hang around.

Every woman expects you to read her mind to some extent or other, but legitimately not-all-there chicks like this cannot understand you cannot LITERALLY read their minds. i.e.:

She was expecting you to take some kind of action based on signs she decided you couldn't read
She does the "Tell me what you want!" thing that nutty/socially uncalibrated girls do
She walks away wordlessly when you say you want to leave with her, then comes back and explains herself
She not only slaps you out of the blue, but then is startled when you react in shock/surprise/anger

Anyway, girls like this make for funky lays.

Just don't keep them around unless you want to start to doubt your sanity.

Noted. While she was definitely a little less than socially calibrated, I wonder how much alcohol played in this situation. And yea a funky lay is definitely one way to put it lol - I'm sure it being a one time thing was mutually understood.
 
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