Monday 11th April 2016
“I can't do this, I am sorry. You're too pushy and I can't take it. I have to go”. I just sat there in a state of shock, not realizing what I did wrong. She told me she did not like the fact that I was touching her thighs, she says as she was putting on her jacket ready to leave. I realized that this situation was fucked up beyond any recognition so at least I could get some valuable feedback on my game.
“I am a physical type of guy, if my touch ever insulted you from the bottom of my heart, I am really sorry”. That did not help at all, and even after asking her for some directions (eg. when did you feel that I stepped out of line) she could not answer my question. So she left and I was sitting there, in front of a lot of people staring blankly into space thinking for myself; “Okay, this is certainly a new experience. I better find out what I did wrong if I did something wrong.”
I drank up both mine and her glass of wine. And analyzed a bit. I analyzed a lot actually.. “At least my approaches are good and getting dates are not that hard anymore.”, I thought to myself. Right now, it feels like my early successes has been from sheer luck. I am a little tired of just getting dates, and feel to attached to results (since I am getting used to getting dates, I want consistent lays).
But I know what I did wrong as well.
*I was being me, touchy, escalating from time to time, and steering conversations. However, this time I was too much in my head. I am also tired of going to the same venue. I need to find somewhere else and take it from there.
*The biggest mistake I did, was not the touching part, but the fact that I ignored her signals. She was looking at my hands when I rested them on her shoulders, arms and thighs. She did this a couple of times. I did not take notes of that until I had to analyze what I did. She even crossed her arms at one point, without me ever pulling back. I think I need to pull a little more.
*When I approached her, I should have flirted a bit more with her than I did. I should also moved her and I should get more compliance from her. Chase framing should be implemented. That way I can find out who is the most eager to meet me and who is not. I don't want to waste time that way anymore.
My pride is a little hurt. And after having a three dates (two from cold approach) the last couple of weeks that did not go anywhere, I need to restore my reserves. This week I will take a couple of days off, and resume my gaming on thursday or friday.
Now I will spend time reading a lot and looking for ways I can implement push, investment and chase frames. This is nothing more than a sticking point for me.
“I can't do this, I am sorry. You're too pushy and I can't take it. I have to go”. I just sat there in a state of shock, not realizing what I did wrong. She told me she did not like the fact that I was touching her thighs, she says as she was putting on her jacket ready to leave. I realized that this situation was fucked up beyond any recognition so at least I could get some valuable feedback on my game.
“I am a physical type of guy, if my touch ever insulted you from the bottom of my heart, I am really sorry”. That did not help at all, and even after asking her for some directions (eg. when did you feel that I stepped out of line) she could not answer my question. So she left and I was sitting there, in front of a lot of people staring blankly into space thinking for myself; “Okay, this is certainly a new experience. I better find out what I did wrong if I did something wrong.”
I drank up both mine and her glass of wine. And analyzed a bit. I analyzed a lot actually.. “At least my approaches are good and getting dates are not that hard anymore.”, I thought to myself. Right now, it feels like my early successes has been from sheer luck. I am a little tired of just getting dates, and feel to attached to results (since I am getting used to getting dates, I want consistent lays).
But I know what I did wrong as well.
*I was being me, touchy, escalating from time to time, and steering conversations. However, this time I was too much in my head. I am also tired of going to the same venue. I need to find somewhere else and take it from there.
*The biggest mistake I did, was not the touching part, but the fact that I ignored her signals. She was looking at my hands when I rested them on her shoulders, arms and thighs. She did this a couple of times. I did not take notes of that until I had to analyze what I did. She even crossed her arms at one point, without me ever pulling back. I think I need to pull a little more.
*When I approached her, I should have flirted a bit more with her than I did. I should also moved her and I should get more compliance from her. Chase framing should be implemented. That way I can find out who is the most eager to meet me and who is not. I don't want to waste time that way anymore.
My pride is a little hurt. And after having a three dates (two from cold approach) the last couple of weeks that did not go anywhere, I need to restore my reserves. This week I will take a couple of days off, and resume my gaming on thursday or friday.
Now I will spend time reading a lot and looking for ways I can implement push, investment and chase frames. This is nothing more than a sticking point for me.
