Girls give away with the high value male (even if you do not have game). So why the hell do you want to improve game?
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You are either willfully ignorant of, or have never experienced, the side of human interaction that does not have anything to do with money or status.
This is because the ability to generate this other, more personal type of interaction is mainly determined by one's relationship with oneself, which most people leave by the wayside, even as they pursue things ostensibly for their own benefit.
You (and most people in the world) are completely unaware of how much capability an individual has for shaping the reality that surrounds them, and consequently of the people around them. Because you operate in a reality of money and status, that's all you see. And when someone has influence on you, you rationalize it away according to this reality.
This is how women operate, their actions are influenced by dominant, reality-shaping individuals, and then they backward rationalize their actions according to whatever reality that is comfortable to them. As men, we cannot afford this, we must operate in the real world, because there is no safe illusion for an ambitious man in a competitive world, he will simply not succeed.
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The problem with things like money or status is that they do not fulfill certain needs. Would you trade your mother or father for a certain sum of money or a certain status? I doubt it, because they provide something to you in your life that money or status don't provide. The same thing goes for one's friends. And lovers.
The other thing is that a woman who is presented with a man who has money or status does not often get any of it herself. And the more of a deficit there is between her 'value' and his, the more pressure there is on her, the more implicit obligations there are. In a world where everyone is already jockeying for status with other people, who needs to bring the problem into their own house, or deeper into their personal world?
Most times, people want to escape this aggravating reality altogether. That's why a rich, beautiful girl will go and get banged in some hippie's camper van, because she desperately needs to experience a world in which all these pressures and obligations are gone, where she can be free to be an adventurer of life, where she can at least feel like she is approximating herself to the only thing that wages eternal war on the superficial and the materialistic - meaning.
If you want to experience an interaction that is not to do with money or status, you must ask yourself: what is it that a woman finds meaningful?
This is because the ability to generate this other, more personal type of interaction is mainly determined by one's relationship with oneself, which most people leave by the wayside, even as they pursue things ostensibly for their own benefit.
You (and most people in the world) are completely unaware of how much capability an individual has for shaping the reality that surrounds them, and consequently of the people around them. Because you operate in a reality of money and status, that's all you see. And when someone has influence on you, you rationalize it away according to this reality.
This is how women operate, their actions are influenced by dominant, reality-shaping individuals, and then they backward rationalize their actions according to whatever reality that is comfortable to them. As men, we cannot afford this, we must operate in the real world, because there is no safe illusion for an ambitious man in a competitive world, he will simply not succeed.
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The problem with things like money or status is that they do not fulfill certain needs. Would you trade your mother or father for a certain sum of money or a certain status? I doubt it, because they provide something to you in your life that money or status don't provide. The same thing goes for one's friends. And lovers.
The other thing is that a woman who is presented with a man who has money or status does not often get any of it herself. And the more of a deficit there is between her 'value' and his, the more pressure there is on her, the more implicit obligations there are. In a world where everyone is already jockeying for status with other people, who needs to bring the problem into their own house, or deeper into their personal world?
Most times, people want to escape this aggravating reality altogether. That's why a rich, beautiful girl will go and get banged in some hippie's camper van, because she desperately needs to experience a world in which all these pressures and obligations are gone, where she can be free to be an adventurer of life, where she can at least feel like she is approximating herself to the only thing that wages eternal war on the superficial and the materialistic - meaning.
If you want to experience an interaction that is not to do with money or status, you must ask yourself: what is it that a woman finds meaningful?
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Theres an inherent contradiction here.
Being a good seducer MAKES you high value. If you have the ability to influence a womans emotions postively, she’ll want to be around you. Money is not the only thing that has value.
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Amen!
About the OP...
I'm reading a book called Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman (Nobel prize winner).
In the introduction he says that we have two types of decision making:
1) fast and intuitive
2) slow and deliberate
When you are seducing a new girl, you are triggering the first system, which is based on 3 things:
- her own past experiences (with men)
- her intuition (which is a very very fast mechanism for decision making)
- her risk assessment (this is linked to biology and her primal brain = survival mode: "is this guy a threat, can he hurt me?")
System 01 is FAST AND AUTOMATIC.
We as human beings are not aware of it.
Only after careful deliberation we activate system 02.
THE FIRST STEPS OF SEDUCTION ARE ALL ABOUT SYSTEM 01:
- approach and show you have value (=you are a real lover, thus different than other men with whom she has failed before/been bored with with)
- present yourself as a non-treat (=not triggering survival mode)
- develop sexual tones to trigger sexual desire (=follow your "guts" girl and you gonna have a great time with me)
You may be a zilionaire or sleep at your friends couch, you can tell a story like Jammie Fox or be a borderline aspie, but if you can trigger those things THE RIGHT WAY, especially in that particular first moments of getting to know each other, her decision making is probably gonna be favorable to you...which in turn is gonna cascade to sex and maybe a relationship.
This is why it's pointless to try to diss seduction like you did, even using biology/determinism/material value as an excuse.
On the contrary: biology+past experiences+intuition+lack of threat is what makes a woman sleep with you.
After a while, if you keep seeing her and a relationship is established, she then starts to think about you using system 02:
- should I keep seeing him?
- where is this going?
- will I be emotionally hurt in the long run?
- should I stop seeing other guys and be faithful?
And so on.
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