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[LemurKing]

Field Logs​

Field logs are like field reports, but... not really

FL #1 - 6th August 2022 - Saturday - Rejection is always better than regret​

August 6, 2022


Goal today was 10 direct approaches and to sustain each interaction for at least 30 seconds. Started out strong with minimal anxiety and got 5 approaches in at a Target and Wholefoods in the downtown area. Moved to the mall next with lots of people there and that’s when I started to hesitate and get a bit more anxious; fundamentals started to waver and I stopped at 8 approaches.


It seems I’m less comfortable doing approaches sin large populated venues like malls for some reason. On few bad reactions I got today, it was obvious to me that my fundamentals were lacking and that was the reason.


Some things to note

1. Don’t rush to get cheap approaches done just to meet a quota before time runs out. Nothing is learned and my performance is shit
2. Rejection is better than regret. The approaches I almost or should have done hurt me far more than any rejection I’ve gotten today
3. The difference between creep and cool guy is not what I say or do but instead how I say or do
4. A lot of good responses and engaged (they started to ask me questions and engage me) from young collage girls out alone in places like Target and WholeFoods

I need to keep going out and get more comfortable with approaching and engaging in interactions with women

FL #2 - 7th August 2022 - Sunday - Transient vs true failure​

August 7, 2022


True failure is when you’ve given up. This is not true failure, this is just a passing phase. Went out today and after 3 hours, I didn’t even do one approach.


Here’s what I’ve taken away from today

1. I need to get more serious about game. I’m much farther behind than I thought I was
2. My sexual health should be given just as much attention and care as my physical and mental health. I need to prep better immediately before and some days before Game training sessions. That could mean meditating before hand, making sure my diet and life is in place days before I game etc…
3. Social momentum. A few months ago I was telling my accountability partner how amazing a thing it is and now all of a sudden he’s the one messaging me telling me to cut the shit and get back to the basics; sports players warm up before going hard, why shouldn’t social players like us warm up with social momentum before a good practice session.
4. The gift of sexual abundance comes with a steep price; only those who are willing to pay it in full will reap its benefits but it seems like today I was just plain out unwilling to pay it. That price is being perceived as a creep, awkward, and strange; it’s being uncomfortable and embarrassed etc… Not every approach will end up like this; that I know. But some will, many more than not during the beginning phases I’m in now and if I’m paralyzed by the fear of experiencing those things I’ll never make it past where I’m at now.

Plan to make next time better

1. Make my Game practice more frequent Tuesday and Wednesday, go out and train lightly; get in 1-2 interactions. Then go harder for 5-10 approaches on Friday, Sat and Sunday
2. Get in some social momentum of any kind before a session
3. Prepare beforehand with meditation, good diet, and other healthy activities like taking frequent breaks at work to avoid building up stress, or avoiding hyper stimulating music that raises false hope and expectations

Other vital take always

1. I have a spending and eating problem. I buy shit I know I don’t need and eat food I don’t even want just to make my self feel a bit better. This is hurtful in the short and long term

FL #3 - 18th August 2022 - Thursday - If I say I’ll do it, I have to do it​

Shoddy short approach sessions all this week with some days getting nothing, that is up until today. Started off very resistant and wandering around a lot. Broke through with a few high fives, some affirmations of “I can handle anything” and “I am bold” and then got into a flow and got some approaches in.


Takeaways

1. A good trick is, when I say I’ll do something, I have to do it no matter what 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Go, I’m going to do it
2. I notice I’m a bit more comfortable, after I get into it, than before. Small change but incremental and important none the less. Over time it adds

Plan to make next time better

1. Don’t delay social momentum until the middle of the Game session. Start off with it and get those high fives in. It’s amazing how much I loosen up after a few of those
2. Use those two affirmations I can handle anything and I am bold
3. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Go, I’m going to do it. Once that happens, NO MATER WHAT I have to do it, but don’t set myself up for unknown approaches and hypotheticals.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #4 - 20th August 2022 - Desensitization​

August 20, 2022


Great day, and week, for approaches, Really pushed myself and practiced with consistency and volume. I can truly Handle Anything. Approached a daughter (in college) with her mother and got no negative reaction as I’d feared before and then approached a pack of girls with some guys. Horribly rude and anti social girl along with her friends but I came out of it completely find, not emotional scarred, or terrified of future approaches. I decided to turn that approach into a plow type thing where I keep pushing no matter resistance in order to build my ability to handle social pressure


Takeaways

1. Keep pushing and desensitizing myself
2. I can get burnt out from approaches
3. Challenge assumptions; rejection is always better than regret
4. In my interactions, things stay friendly. When the time is right (post desensitization), practice making things more intimate
5. After a day of approaches, I’m generally more relaxed and social

 

[phuasjn2]

After a day of approaches, I’m generally more relaxed and social

Yeah that's how I feel every time.

Sounds like you did a lot of approaches and even group approaches, pushing yourself way out of the comfort zone. How did u desensitize yourself enough to approach groups? It always felt really off when it feels like they are bonded with each other than to you

 

[LemurKing]

Yeah that's how I feel every time.

Sounds like you did a lot of approaches and even group approaches, pushing yourself way out of the comfort zone. How did u desensitize yourself enough to approach groups? It always felt really off when it feels like they are bonded with each other than to you

I did little approaches throughout the week to build up to the major practice sessions on the weekend. Even then it was difficult to do.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #5 - 25th August 2022 - Hungry for more​

Got 3 approaches in today and the day before that (Monday). I’m really getting comfortable now and getting in there so much faster without as much hesitation and fear. But now, I’m getting hungry for more. I want to start closing, flirting, experimenting with with different techniques etc… but I just don’t know where to start. Maybe I’ll get Gunwiches course or the course made by Chase.


Today

1. Focused on my voice and eye contact. Realized my voice, while deep like a man, is low volume and comes off timid. Need to work on that as well as eye contact and speaking slower and with pauses
2. I’m starting to give less shits. Opened this very awkward and shy girl, could tell she was not into it or was just shocked to be approached by a guy. Moment she mentioned “boyfriend” I just walked away. No attempt to come off as platonic or keep the conversation going or be nice. She’s not interested, cool, moving onto the next one.
3. Big thing that’s been helping me is, as I’ve mentioned before is “If I say I’m going to do something, I will do it” This has made me a lot more careful about what I commit to but when I do, damn it works somehow

Tommarow

1. Focus on my voice. Try to be louder and slower. This will leave less effort to focus on conversation but that's fine

 

[LemurKing]

FL #6 - 26th August 2022 - How far am I willing to go​

I went out today and did 3 approaches. Felt just horrible the whole time and got really down when every single one had a not-interested type of reaction. Couldn’t find anything to say and poor voice and fundamentals. I bailed early on them. Felt deep emotional pain as if I was a failure but this pain revealed to me that I need to change course; how funny that such deep pain can be a blessing at times.


I lack structure in my approach to Game and so I’m just fumbling around in the dark. I had structure before when my only goal was to “just approach and open my mouth” but I’m past that now. I thought it would take at least 2 months to get past my horrible AA but just two weeks of consistent daily practice seems to have done it. I need to move on now


This is a turning point. How far am I willing to go, how much am I willing to sacrifice for this? How important is this to me? How many days per week and for how long each day? And what am I giving up by choosing to use my time to learn Game?


Learning guitar, extra time in the gym, getting my degree, leisure activity, reading, social outings, pursuing my interests in tech, advancing up in my position at work

When I started down this path long ago, I said I’d sacrifice everything to become the man I want to be, so I guess that’s my answer.

What I need To Do

1. External Structure: Purchase and consume external course
2. Internal structure: Clearly think out and write down scripts and gambits to use
3. New practice schedule: 2 days on, 2 days off. Mon, Tues, Fri, Sat
   1. Every day is a full practice session
4. Venue selection: Go to large venues every time. No more tiny Target stores just to get 3 approaches in and then I’m out. I need volume to make it easier on myself and not get discouraged so easily
5. Take stim medication (prescribed) before a practice session. No need to fear tolerance build-up due to my 2 day on 2 day off-practice schedule
6. Prioritize sleep, diet moderation, and No-Fap

Also, it’s amazing how such deep emotions and sadness can reveal what’s truly important and what’s not. Trying to make sure everyone at work likes me, that I always give off a certain persona, little idocscirnces, and obsessions, entertainment, etc… These don’t matter. They don’t do anything for me in the end. What truly matters, at least now is

1. Sleep well
2. Eat well
3. Exercise
4. Practice game
5. Take a little time for me here and there

 

[LemurKing]

FL #7 - 27th August 2022 - Saturday - Validation or Sex​

I purchased and listened to the first few parts of Seduction MMA. The first episode was really eye-opening and really made me think about a few things. Mainly, a lot of my actions and goals are for the purpose of gaining validation and status, not actual end goals.


I go out and approach women to feel validated like I’m important like I matter. I always dress nice with jewelry and edge and always do my hair when I go out so that others will think well of me. I’m always trying to impress people and come off a certain way so that people will see me as the man I want to become but other people don’t determine whether or not I’m that man, I do.


From here on out, I forsake the validations of others, I forsake social status. I want sex, not validation. I go and do what I do to get sex, not to the approval of others or women.


If people think ill of me, so be it, I don’t want their opinions, I want, sex, wealth, good health, dignity, and self-respect.


He also brought to light the fact that while I can’t make myself happy or sad, I can certainly put myself in a neutral state and go from there. Very useful during difficult times in the field.

I'm afraid to start again. A new method, new skills, new styles. So much possibility for failure. But I will fail, again and again. That's the process. But failure should be seen as an indication of a way forward; like a guide for what I'm doing wrong and where I have to go next.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #8 - 28th August 2022 - Sunday - Fuck man​

Started working on Gunnwitchs SMMA today. Fuck, tons of anxiety and fear. Wandered around for so much, and missed so many sets. Today I was working on the first 2 parts “Attention” and “Immersion” and I fucked up on so many different levels.

The whole time it felt so weird and awkward trying to get near the girl and every time I got near they’d move away like they saw me coming. The times they didn’t move it felt so fucking awkward delivering the opener after pretending to notice them looking at me and my voice and eye contact wavered like hell every time.

After talking with my accountability buddy (@Don Giovanni), we came up with some things to try out next time.

1. Don’t look at them, AT ALL. They notice that. Keep vision peripheral
2. How is this more awkward than going direct (which I’m more comfortable with)? Hint, it’s not
3. I don’t have to stand so close to them in the opener. As we talk, I can move in. Keep out of their personal space bubble initial (5ft)
4. It’s going to feel awkward at first. Over time and practice, it will get better
5. Come off initially like you’re just very conversational, or imagine me like that. I’m just a very talkative and social person etc…
6. If I can’t get in a good position just go for it. Any approach is better than no approach

After a 40min nap at home, and talking with @Don Giovanni, I feel a bit better and I'm excited to go out tomorrow and try out the new things we disccuseed. I actually want to go out again today but I know better than to push myself that hard after a blowout. But now that I'm in a location and situation that allows me to Game and Game hard, I just want to practice

 

[LemurKing]

FL #9 - 29th August 2022 - Monday - Baby Steps​

Still a tone of anxiety today. Decided to change my goal to “just get near a set and stay there as long as you reasonably can”. Suddenly massive anxiety dropped and found the drills much easier. Also worked on not staring at sets but using my peripheral vision and not standing super close to them (personal space bubble). Compared to yesterday, most girls didn’t leave or try to avoid me and most looked at me when I was near them.

Made 30 attempts, and 19 were successful.

Tomorrow’s goal is going to be the same except for the last 3 sets, I’m going to add the goal of talking to them. Anything will do, just have to say something. Also need to work on my sexual voice and eyes.

The plan I’m thinking about

1. Work on just getting near girls
2. Get near and say something
3. Get near, say something, and work on sexual voice and eyes
4. When I’m comfortable with conveying sexual tones, then move on to openers, deep dive, etc…

I think that one of my problems before is I’d be walking around literally looking at every woman like I was on the hunt for a good set. They notice that shit but when you don’t actively look, I think that’s when they start looking at you.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #10 - 1st September 2022 - Thursday - Meetup​

Attended a meetup yesterday to work on my social skills. I pushed myself to be social which is good and that was the ultimate goal in the end. Then I went a bit farther than that and managed to isolate some low-value shy girl outside on the patio.

Things that I could have done better

1. I could have done better with my excessive displays of excitement, smiling, laughing, and emotion. Such things just aren’t “cool” and give off a low-value needy vibe.
   
   
2. Should have given more attention to the girl that was of interest to me instead of trying to spread my attention around and seem uninterested out of fear of what others would think
   
   
3. Assumed compliance from here when I invited her outside with me instead of being a bit shocked that she said yes
   
   
4. Next time, I want to try wandering about the group and interacting with people like I’m the host
   
   
5. Use a different second isolation method/attempt instead of saying “Let’s take a walk before I leave”. That line comes off as an attempt to lay or seduce her
   
   
6. When she immediately said “Well, looks like my bedtime” after I invited her for a walk before I leave, instead of feeling defeated, I should have looked at her like there was something wrong with her because honestly, a simple no would have sufficed instead of some timid anti-social copout like that
   
   
7. Another line I could have used (and a more realistic one at that) instead of my “Let’s walk…” line would have been “Well, this is boring, I’m going for a walk” and then go from her; and honestly, I know my social skills aren’t that good but god she was boring and dull.
   
   
8. Instead of continuing to socialize with her out of fear of hurting her feelings by moving on to a different more interesting group, I should have pursued my own self-interests and moved on. Her and anyone else’s inability to socialize and pique my interest is NOT my problem.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #11 - 2nd September 2022 - Friday - Game and Meetup​

The main goal today was to continue building comfort getting and staying near women and then near the end add in saying something to them. I accomplished this mostly but noticed that even though I’m not making eye contact or getting too close to them they still seem to leave when I get nearby. Maybe it’s that I’m dressed and look very good and it’s a bit intimidating to them or makes them nervous; had on all black with a nice tech blazer, ring bracelets, and a necklace. All clothing was tight fitting and well sized for me


Didn’t get much talking in; I just felt tired and had like no motivation that day.

Meetup again after Game. Started out good and better than the last one. I was very calm, relaxed, open, verbally creative, and a bit witty but as the night went on my anxiety built up and my verbal creativity and composure worsened. Why does my social energy not last very long, what’s going on with that?

I also noticed the host and some other people having engaging conversations with laughter and interest but I just can’t seem to do that. All my conversations are boring and dull. I just honestly don’t know what to say. Maybe it’s that I’m generally not interested in them or maybe I need to change my mindset. One thing I could try is the game technique of re-interpretation where I’ll notice something and mis/re-interpret it in order to make things interesting.

One thing I didn’t do that I wanted was to go about the room like the host from group to group.

 

[Beck Bass]

Why does my social energy not last very long, what’s going on with that?

It can go away pretty quickly, but you would be surprised how much getting some good opportunity to act or some compliance from a girl can fill it up again. Sometimes it's more about caring less, like you're hyped to go out and game, and that's fine and all, but you create expectations unconsciously. As you go along and things are going not so great (and inevitably somedays it will go this way), your mood crashes and your will to do it depletes. What you can do is try to manage your expectations, if your session is not going so great, try just to be social, if it's really going bad, try just to keep yourself in it and find value or joy in something (like just scouting the venue for an idea of what to expect next time, if your approaches really depleted you). And who knows, maybe some hottie giving you some AIs might change your mood out of the blue. It's also about managing your time for seduction, sometimes you better just really leave if you feel that depleted, but it's not always game over.

All my conversations are boring and dull.

Sometimes I feel like that as well, but generally it's with girls I'm not so much into or girls that are really different from me. If it's hard to relate, it's hard hard to get past small talk. Sometimes you just gotta shoot the shit and talk about random crap you like (not nerdy stuff lmao, though some girls are and could really enjoy it), but anything random really, you never know if people really like. And if they don't feel like talking abiut whatever you started talking about, what you said can make they change the subject to something more interesting. Conversation is one of those things that can get so complex it ends up being mostly about experience once you know the basics (there are some decent articles on that on the site if you feel like you need a brush up).

Interesting journal man, keep up the good work!

 

[LemurKing]

Interrupt​

This was a bizarre and almost lucid week. I've never gamed and socialized this consistently and on Saturday night at a social event (meetup) right before it I was so frustrated at myself and a bit sexually frustrated. I became angry and all my inhibitions dropped. At the event, I was... just wholly different, for the first time in years I was acting like the man I wanted to be, social, flirtations, everything flowing, absolutely no inhibitions or concerns for the opinions of others. I can't explain it, but it was like waking up after decades of deep deep slumber.

I want to feel like that all the time but I know that's not realistic and what hurts the most; to taste paradise and then have it taken away from you. Maybe the anger and sexual desire caused a spike in testosterone that lead to that feeling, or it could have been the body responding to pain by releasing endorphins, serotonin, and other chemicals.

I ordered the full suite of hormone tests (testosterone, SHBG, prolactin etc...) just to rule out that possibility. Thank God I have an actual career now and can afford things like that, reminds me how far I came from making $8 at Mcdonald's, living with my Mother, and then spending 3 years in the Army with no time or energy to pursue the things I wanted.

You know it's odd, the only other time in my life that I remember feeling like I did was freshmen year of high school many many years ago. I remember people during that year telling me I was different than before. I was confident, bold, and flirtatious with almost every girl I saw. I was getting a lot of IOIs that I wasn't aware of at the time.

Oh ye gods, you have chosen me, marked me apart from all other men as your beloved one, yet you mock me, giving me but just a drop of the paradise that is rightfully mine.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #11 - 4th September 2022 - Saturday - Labor Day Social​

What to say about today… Fuck I don’t know. There’s so much going on now, so much is changing and shifting and I can barely keep track of it all not to mention the fact that I’m day 3 now of my extended fast.

I wasn’t going to go out today, really didn’t want to but once again some unstoppable force inside me said to go so I did because what the fuck else am I going to do? Labor day meetup event at some really cool bar. Lots of people showed up and many attractive young women. I was afraid because I’d lost that bold unafraid energy I had yesterday.

My interactions started out dull and boring as usual. I really didn’t have any energy or motivation to socialize and I finally came to the realization that it wasn’t primarily because I was afraid (though that still played a part), it was because I was bored. We started going through the usual routine of “Nice to meet you” “What do you do” and “How long have you been here” and I honestly had no interest in such conversations; I went silent many times not out of fear or nervousness, but because I just didn’t care.

I wouldn’t let myself go home so I had to figure out some way to make this night bearable and I decided to try talking about the first thing that came to mind or that would entertain me (brings back memories of RSD videos lol). Things got a bit more interesting and I was surprised how willing people were to go along with it instead of thinking I was a freak. We started laughing and my interactions became like those I saw other people having, those I wanted to have and suddenly I had more energy to socialize; I wanted to talk to people and laugh and have fun. I became bolder, started employing a bit of light keno, and started moving around the room socializing with different groups to improve my social value/standing. Got some numbers etc.

One interaction of note was when this drunk girl and her sober friend sat with me and this guy I was talking to. I made a joke with the sober girl that she just took way too seriously and we started talking a bit. I get nervous when they approached us because I didn’t know how “normal” I should be or how “First thing to mind, self amusing” I should have been. When I asked the sober girl again for her name she looked at me strangely and asked “Why?” and then turned to her friend and told her not to give me her name? Old me would have sat there trying to supplicate, but I no longer have patience for bullshit like that. I left and just went to another group. The funny thing was both the drunk girl and her friend kept looking over at me from the corner of their eyes, it was so fucking obvious. They came there for me, not that other guy and they left soon after I ditched them.

Spent most of the night with this group of 3 girls, 2 of interest, and 1 meh. Lots of keno, joking, sexual topics fun, etc.. Got all their numbers at the end. When I asked for their numbers, the cute blonde one of the group immediately said in an excited voice “Sure” and the rest complied. Stayed with them till almost closing time and took the bold move of hugging as a goodbye instead of a handshake (god I hate those things)

Things to note

1. Realized that much of the time, I’m just bored, not nervous. It takes a bit of courage for me to go out of “normal” topics to more interesting things
   
   
2. I don’t know when and how much to go “Normal” vs “Interesting”
   
   
3. Many times during the night I felt my mind start in a downward spiral of “What’s wrong with me? Why don’t they like me” when girls started talking to other men or wouldn’t make eye contact with me etc. I had to fight very hard to keep my composure and stop that spiral
   
   
4. Eye contact? I’m talking to a girl, and then things go silent. Maybe I should make a face like “Come on girl, say something, don’t you know how to socialize”
   
   
5. I felt bad sometimes when other guys were in the group trying to talk and I just talked over them with the girls who would listen to me instead of the guy. I don’t think I should feel bad. The world is a cruel place and so is hypergamy. I have no obligation to be a little beta simp and let other men take my women. If you want something, go for it and let nothing stand in your way.
   
   
6. Noticed this other guy talking to the girls I was with acting like a dancing monkey. God, is that what I used to be like?
   
   
7. In a mixed group of men and women, how much should I give attention to the women vs the men? Is it too needy or odd to focus on the women? Or maybe I need to stop being so ashamed of my sexual desire.
   
   
8. There’s so much I don’t know and much more I don’t know I don’t know. So many things happened that night that I just don’t know how to interpret or what to make of

And finally… this is what abundance feels like.
For those few hours spent in that bar, I felt secure and safe. There were available women everywhere, I was social and attractive. I didn’t need all of them to approve of me, I could just move to another group. I didn’t need every number I got to pan out, I had so many numbers it didn’t matter. And to top it all off, I could just go out and do it all over again with new people.

 

[LemurKing]

Interrupt​

September 5, 2022

With all those numbers I got yesterday, I need to be careful not to repeat the mistakes I’ve made in the past with texting

1. Don’t try to game over text, just chill bro
2. A bit of chase framing is okay and sexual re-interpretation is okay but don’t push it
3. Stay busy! I’ll stay it again STAY BUSY! so that I’m not tempted to keep checking my phone and respond so quickly

 

[LemurKing]

FL #12.1 - 6th September 2022 - Tuesday - So fucking tired of this shit​

Wandered for 30 min around Target during my lunch break without anything. Can’t even just stand next to a woman, say hay, and make some comment then leave. Finally, anger and frustration got to me and I got 3 approaches in (hover, “Hey”, comment, compliment, etc…). Fuck this has to stop, really it does. I’m so obsessed with making progress in Game that I can’t focus on work or anything else and it’s becoming a problem. I can’t focus, I can’t think about anything else, except for Game; something inside me just won’t let me. It’s like when I do less than I know I should some force inside me springs to life and lingers, pulling me back to Game until I fulfill my obligations.

I don’t give a shit what other people think of me, I don’t care if women or people think I’m a weirdo or strange. I don’t want any of that approval shit however good it may feel. I traded all that shit a long time ago in exchange for a single-minded purist of becoming something more, an ideal or as best of one as I can.

 

[LemurKing]

FL #12.1 - 6th September 2022 - Tuesday - Just holding on now​

September 7, 2022

I’m only getting on now to write this for the sake of self-accountability. I practiced Game during lunch today as well as all day after work until just now, an hour before bed. All day most of the sets I approached left very quickly after I got near. Of the few that did respond there were some really rude ones and that shit hurt. I know we’re supposed to rise above rejection and keep going but fuck man, all I said was “Hay” and bam.


Near the end of the day, I started experimenting with approaching to see what is causing that kind of behavior. I tried different things like how close I stood to them, how my face looked (smile, neutral, frown), men vs women, attractive vs not attractive women etc…, Maybe it’s that I’m standing too close to them, or my uncontrollable wavering eyes, or it could be that I don’t look or act like I’m actually there to shop. I suppose my next few sessions, maybe even weeks will be just hammering this down and getting this right; getting close and hovering without them immediately leaving.


I expect more

I’m so damn frustrated that I’m stuck on something like this. Getting the kind of responses I got today along with likely being on this sticking point for who knows how long just makes me feel like there’s something fundamentally wrong with me like I should just give up because “Game” isn’t for me. I should be making faster progress than this, I should be braver, more courageous, and smoother; I expect more of myself.


There’s no going back

But, however much it hurts inside, however long it may take, I can’t stop. I think one thing most men entering this lifestyle don’t understand is that once you start, you can never go back. Once you see how sad and miserable you were and how much better things can be, you can’t unsee that shit, you can’t unknow it. I can’t stop because I have nothing to go back to, nowhere else to turn. It’s D-Day, I’m on the beach, and I can’t swim


Plan going forward

I can only practice Game tomorrow during lunch because I have a date after work but I feel like she’s going to flake. I also have a date with another girl on Friday but again, flake so whatever.


When I can practice Game (lunch break, after work, weekends)

1. Experiment getting close
2. Try adjusting
   1. Distance
   2. Approach angle
   3. How engaged I am with the product
   4. Face composition
   5. SMV of the target
   6. Eye contact
   7. What I’m focused on
3. Observe how these adjustments affect results
4. Repeat and repeat
5. Try not to suppress my emotions and pain with excessive amounts of fatty sugary foods

 

[Don Giovanni]

Keep going. Try the following, in order of importance…

1. Be as warm on first impression as possible. Put 80% of you brainpower into creatinga a warm smile and delivering hey with a warm voice. Hard to be rude to a warm person.

2. I repeat myself, but in order for this to work, you need to not look at her at all. If she just senses you’re observing her, she’ll feel like you want something of her,

3. While hovering take out your phone and pretend to be doing something on it while you slowly walk towards her and then stop near her like you just got into doing something more important on your phone. Like a girl digging in her purse, this is your version of plausible deniabillity.

Perhaps try out new venues? My favourite venues for daygame were vintage trift stores, then parks.

Then if you are doing malls look for places where people stop and recollect between their shopping. This could be a bench inside or outside the mall, starbucks… As well easy to approach when you’re standing in line behind her, you can just wait for her and then post up there, buying a cheewing gum or whatever. But again she must not see you looking at her before.

Good luck!

 

[LemurKing]

Keep going. Try the following, in order of importance…

1. Be as warm on first impression as possible. Put 80% of you brainpower into creatinga a warm smile and delivering hey with a warm voice. Hard to be rude to a warm person.

2. I repeat myself, but in order for this to work, you need to not look at her at all. If she just senses you’re observing her, she’ll feel like you want something of her,

3. While hovering take out your phone and pretend to be doing something on it while you slowly walk towards her and then stop near her like you just got into doing something more important on your phone. Like a girl digging in her purse, this is your version of plausible deniabillity.

Perhaps try out new venues? My favourite venues for daygame were vintage trift stores, then parks.

Then if you are doing malls look for places where people stop and recollect between their shopping. This could be a bench inside or outside the mall, starbucks… As well easy to approach when you’re standing in line behind her, you can just wait for her and then post up there, buying a cheewing gum or whatever. But again she must not see you looking at her before.

Good luck!

Back into the field today.
Thanks

 

[LemurKing]

FL #13 - 7th September 2022 - Wednesday - A kind of maybe date?​

September 7, 2022

Everything is kind of a mess right now with Game and my goals. Went on a date today with a girl but once we got there I just wasn’t motivated at all to move things along or try anything; I was a bit unsure about my attraction to her, I mean she was alright but not my usual cup of tea. I was also not sure if she thought of it as a date or was even attracted to me. Big noob mistake on my part.

We just kind of sat talking and eating the whole time until it started raining. I noticed many times through her doing things like getting closer to me, making “mistakes” that prolonged the date, etc. but I just brushed all that off. It wasn’t until we were going to my car that it became obvious that her “bad sense of direction” was just her delaying the end of it. She also said she had ice cream at her house when I complained about there being nowhere to get ice cream that late at night but then followed up shortly with an excuse as to why that wouldn’t work

That’s when I said fuck it and after some hesitation (and parking the car) I went in a kissed. In the middle of it tried the whole “we’re not having sex” thing by telling her “don’t go to far”. Fondled her breasts, kissed her neck and she moaned when I did, then put her hand on my crotch which I was really nervous and afraid to do but it went well when I did. It was when I went for her crotch that she backed off and then said that I should go to my car.

My faults

1. Ingesting a certain substance a few hours before the date that I thought would relax me but just made me tired and unmotivated for anything
2. Not assuming attraction
3. No sexualizing and escalating throughout the date with techniques like sexual misinterpretation, chase framing, keno, sexual talk
4. Not pushing the sexual conversation we had in the car farther

One thing I was proud of though is when she gave me shit tests throughout the date I just completely ignored them. I didn’t even see them as shit tests, I just really didn’t care.

She texted me later and apologized for being awkward and ending things so abruptly. She said she’s “not ready for that level of intimacy” which I know is bullshit. I don’t intend to go out with her again and I called her out, in a light-hearted way, for being so prudish and awkward.


Plan for my date tomorrow

A Different younger and more attractive girl

1. Assume attraction
2. Start the date with “Oh, by the way, we’re not having sex”
3. From the very beginning, chase frame and sexualize
4. Change venues
5. Midway through the date, find a place to kiss her while pinning her with my body to increase arousal, then suddenly stop as if nothing happened and keep going My idea here is a bit of give and take to get her aroused
6. End it all with a suggestion to go to my house to watch a movie and play her some music on my guitar movie
   1. Remind her on the way to my house again that we’re not having sex