going out alone to the same bar too much?

[PatriotsRule]

Hey gentlemen,

I have my favorite bar in town- i will either go by myself or with coworkers after work. I usually dont make plans to go with friends/coworkers when im not working but sometimes i will go alone knowing that i might see them there. Anyway ive gotten to know all the bartenders well, and have made friends with some and established attraction with a couple of the other regulars there- mostly others in the restaurant industry, during late night hours. Anyway, i feel like i have developed a pretty good reputation for myself around there, but i dont want to overdo it by heading in too often by myself, especially now that ive started to form closer relationships with the people ive met- some of them have invited me over for a fire on a random night, or to afterparties, etc. so i am just wary of losing that establishment by continuing to lone wolf it. Or appearing like just another regular with nothing to do but wait for late night happy hour. I dont really worry about going after work though everyone needs a beer after work but on nights off i dont want to appear like a loser. I dunno maybe im just being paranoid due to being there a lot lately and meeting a lot of new people there lately but i just wanna think things through before i blow up my own spot. Or even get a bad reputation at work for being the guy that goes to this bar every night. Anyway what you guys think- i have a great time here and always find interesting new people to chat up or flirt with but dont want to overdo it.

 

[PatriotsRule]

Yeah its been a great place especially moreso lately because getting to know the bartenders (and paying it forward, i take great care of them usually 10-15 bucks per bartender no matter the bill) i get soo many free drinks lately, the other night i probably had ten drinks and they charged me two beers, i laughed my ass off and threw down $40 for my $15 check lol. Ok excuse the shameless brag...Anyway i appreciate the encouragement to keep at it, perhaps im anxious the situations too good to be true- i have daily anxiety of hanging out with friends, hitting people up or taking the lead on plans, etc, so its a comfortable place to head over to by myself and just seeing whats up- whos working the bar, whos there tonight, who sits next to me, who approaches me, etcetc...lately sometimes ive just been being patient in my seat keeping it mild with the people around me waiting to see who approaches me and talks to me. Ive met some cool people this way. But i want to keep the ball rolling there because each night is different and fun and i have good social momentum there lately with a lot of cool interesting people men and women.

Now im also wondering, say i head in and my coworkers come by when theyre out and they say "why did you come alone you should have hit me up!" Or something like that. Or they laugh because they walk in to discover that im here once again, by myself. Whats a good approach for something like this? I genuinely enjoy going out myself because it leaves me free to chat up whoever i want or go whatever direction i want. I think its funny that people will never ever ever go out alone but as you can see i dont want to be so polar opposite that i am disrespected for it.

 

[HellAtlantic]

Don't be afraid to do things on your own.