Break Ups Got suddenly dumped by an one year LTR girl with depression

[HeartOfChaos]

I understand and respect that. Which is why I said I'm not a fan of closing the thread. But I'll leave that decision to the admins.

Yeah. Keeping all my thoughts inside is painful and this thread makes it easier somehow.

I understand people offered various suggestions and I am grateful for everyone's input.

I didn't mean to offend you with what I wrote. I've been thinking it since the start of the thread, but held back because I didn't want to be that blunt. Maybe it can help you in some way.

Oh, don't worry. I am not easily offended . I've been thinking bout this myself: many people accused me of lacking empathy. But I know myself, I have a lot of empathy, I am just not good at showing it when needed.

 

[HeartOfChaos]

Like some kind of doom is hanging over it, and you're just not ready to face it yet. Until you finally break up for good.

In my previous break ups with other LTRs I told you about, this doom dispersed entirely, at least from my own feeling, with time.

 

[mirror]

Does me not getting subtle signs actually mean some autism disorder, though? Or is it simply a consequence of everything I described above:

1) Me being chronically socially isolated during childhood and teenager years (and adult years too in fact)
2) Me always hoping internally to meet a woman of my own nationality and background (as I alluded to earlier), hence not taking other women too seriously
3) Just been absent minded and in my head

Tough one, i don't think autism. But i do think almost all people can have autistic traits. So that can show.

 

[Chase]

-- THREAD CLOSED --

This thread's a month in.

Many guys have weighed in. It comes to (with this post) 524 entries!

@HeartOfChaos has had the chance to hear many different perspectives and advice, including from many senior members.

Due to the length and nature of the thread, some of the members here find it is weighing down the forum and pulling the vibe down. As most of the value that could be gleaned has already been gleaned here, we are shutting the thread.

If you're just reading this thread, or have something else you feel HeartOfChaos MUST here, you may send him a private message.

@HeartOfChaos, I'd ask that you don't start another thread on this girl / relationship, and that you avoid bringing it to other threads on the forum.

I wish you well, and whatever course of action you choose with her, I hope it leads to growth and happiness.