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Greeting Ghetto-Looking/Phony type of people

ozzyakram91

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Hey. So I know to warm up approaches anywhere youve gotta start greeting strangers and as many people as you can. Male and female. But here in NYC, over time you'll see ghetto, phony-looking, standoff-ish type of people passing by. Should I greet them or compliment them, as well? Or let them pass
 

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This is a really good thread and somewhat relatable. Here in England, we don't have "ghetto" looking chicks as such, but we have chavs.

Type "chav" into Google and that you give you a quick explanation. Basically the equivalent of what may be considered "trailer park" type people in the US.

Yes, they can be very attractive, but their manners and behaviour/voices have a certain roughness that lets you know they most probably won't respond well to cold approach. They also tend to be very connected and closed off to any outsiders, particularly formal a and well spoken people. If they think you are weird enough, may put word out into the community via word of mouth or social media.

We don't have the danger of gun violence like you do in America, but there can be unwanted social outcomes or the next time they see you in town, they may heckle you or even confront you with their boyfriend.

My advice is, do NOT approach those chicks. You might be their type but if you are an ordinary middle class guy I recommend not doing it, especially if you want to get yourself in a social mood. The juice isn't worth the squeeze.

This is the first time I have ever seen this articulated on a pickup forum and it is very good and a dose of reality because sometimes I think people in the pickup world are not living in the real world.

My advice is just to approach middle class girls. Note, middle class means something slightly different in the UK than America but just approach the normal nice looking girls, not attractive but rough ones.

Like my boy Efrem of Pull University does. He can see he only goes up to the middle class looking ones in his infields. I think in one of his London infields he accidently approached a chavy girl who responded with "Wot" and he said he didn't drop off the compliment because she was rude, which I respected him for.

 

ozzyakram91

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This is a really good thread and somewhat relatable. Here in England, we don't have "ghetto" looking chicks as such, but we have chavs.

Type "chav" into Google and that you give you a quick explanation. Basically the equivalent of what may be considered "trailer park" type people in the US.

Yes, they can be very attractive, but their manners and behaviour/voices have a certain roughness that lets you know they most probably won't respond well to cold approach. They also tend to be very connected and closed off to any outsiders, particularly formal a and well spoken people. If they think you are weird enough, may put word out into the community via word of mouth or social media.

We don't have the danger of gun violence like you do in America, but there can be unwanted social outcomes or the next time they see you in town, they may heckle you or even confront you with their boyfriend.

My advice is, do NOT approach those chicks. You might be their type but if you are an ordinary middle class guy I recommend not doing it, especially if you want to get yourself in a social mood. The juice isn't worth the squeeze.

This is the first time I have ever seen this articulated on a pickup forum and it is very good and a dose of reality because sometimes I think people in the pickup world are not living in the real world.

My advice is just to approach middle class girls. Note, middle class means something slightly different in the UK than America but just approach the normal nice looking girls, not attractive but rough ones.

Like my boy Efrem of Pull University does. He can see he only goes up to the middle class looking ones in his infields. I think in one of his London infields he accidently approached a chavy girl who responded with "Wot" and he said he didn't drop off the compliment because she was rude, which I respected him for.

I'm not necessarily saying just chicks. I'm saying to greet or say good morning or good evening to a ghetto looking guy walking down your way. Would that be a good idea? Or ignore
 

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I grew up in the "ghetto" school district, though lived in the nicer area. Also, I'm not in NYC, but Long Island. "Ghetto" here might not be the same as over there, but I'll say this.

It's going to sound dumb, but there is kind of a spectrum to how "ghetto" or not "ghetto" someone is. You can vibe with some, but not all. I think some pick up guys teach you to be a sort of actor where you can and should charm everyone you meet and even feign interest, but if you just don't vibe with a certain person you don't have to force it.

If your gut is telling you there's danger or something phony then just move on.

Lastly, are you talking about just saying "Hello," to people passing by to get rid of anxiety? If that's the case it doesn't really matter. Just be safe.
 
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ozzyakram91

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I grew up in the "ghetto" school district, though lived in the nicer area. Also, I'm not in NYC, but Long Island. "Ghetto" here might not be the same as over there, but I'll say this.

It's going to sound dumb, but there is kind of a spectrum to how "ghetto" or not "ghetto" someone is. You can vibe with some, but not all. I think some pick up guys teach you to be a sort of actor where you can and should charm everyone you meet and even feign interest, but if you just don't vibe with a certain person you don't have to force it.

If you feel the vibe is right don't discriminate, but if your gut is telling you there's danger or something phony then just move on.

Lastly, are you talking about just saying "Hello," to people passing by to get rid of anxiety? If that's the case it doesn't really matter. Just be safe.
Yeah to shake the cobwebs off and get in state
But occasionally maybe get into an extended conversation to get a feel of interaction and experience
 

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Yeah to shake the cobwebs off and get in state
But occasionally maybe get into an extended conversation to get a feel of interaction and experience
Just remember to stay out of bad neighborhoods and stay safe with whatever your doing. At the end of the day you should be pushing yourself more to greeting girls your interested in. Don't get so caught up on this.
 

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I'm not necessarily saying just chicks. I'm saying to greet or say good morning or good evening to a ghetto looking guy walking down your way. Would that be a good idea? Or ignore
I live in lower Manhattan. I know who you are talking about. I usually do not talk to the riffraff unless I have seen them several times AND they have proven that they are safe. Then I’ll give them the nod.
But bro - you have a very clear eye on who the riffraff is and your main job right now is building up positive social experiences. I’d avoid them for now while you are starting out and building mana.
 
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