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Dark_Stallion

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Hey guys, I made another gym approach(wasn’t really intended) but it did result in good conversation + instagram, she never responded to my message, must have did something wrong.

On Monday, I asked this girl at the squat rack how many sets she had left, she said 1, but she didn’t feel like doing it. I told her she can’t give up on her set, and I actually convinced her to do her set.

While she was doing her set, I saw her name on her ID, and told her “good job [her name] to which she asked how I know her name. I said 2 reasons, “I’m a psychic, and much less important, but it’s on ur ID” traded a couple lines of convo, but mostly just introduced ourselves.

Today, as I was walking to my car, I saw her, and waved hi to her, she thought she recognized me from years ago, I told her we met at the gym 2 days ago, I wouldn’t have remembered you from that long ago.

Asked her about her workout, and seeded the idea of us possibly working out in the future together, by saying that “I like following people’s workouts sometimes” told her today wasn’t the day, since I didn’t want to do cardio.

Turns out we’re both going to the gym, so I actually ask for her instagram, to remember her, which she agrees.

Most of the time in the gym we’re doing different things, we wave to each other once.

Near the end of my workout I go up to her and ask her if I should hit abs, or skip them, to which she tells me I should hit them. I then ask her to work in, since she has my ab setup already. I also tease her by saying she sounds like me from a few days ago.

We then talk about a bunch of things, such as dieting, meals, and my study abroad travels. She tells me she’s Irish, and I tell her I was in Dublin for St Patrick’s Day, and that I got a ton of stories, to tell her some other time, to which she did want to hear(seed possible meetup reason). Eventually, we break off conversation, and I finish my workout.

Something to note, I didn’t touch her during the interactions, other than a fist bump today, didn’t really close space between me and her, don’t like to get too close to people in the gym during their workout though.

DM’d her on instagram, saying a nice to meet you, as well as some callback humor, she never opened it. The thing is we usually go to the gym around the same time, so I will see her soon, maybe it’s possible she didn’t check her DM’s. If so, I’ll ask for the number, after seeding a possible meetup plan next time, something more concrete, since she was super interested in my travels.

Any other advice you guys can give me would be much appreciated, going up to girls and having good interactions with them is pretty easy for me right now, daygame wise, following up with them via text seems to be tougher, and getting them out, even though I am following the GC articles on texting.

Maybe I am not making a strong enough impression? Please let me know if you guys think this is the case.
 

MrVariety

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You did a lot of things really well! Sounds like both of you were having fjn

Giving her a reason to add her on Instagram «to remember you» counterproductive.

better would have been to ask her right then and there if she wants to work out some day. The agree on a date and time right there.

Say as you’re leaving as something you thought of «let me take your number in case something comes up» like as an afterthought.

Instagram dms are weak imo
Depends on profile but most girls I add on Instagram don’t reply I don’t know you get lumped in with all the other guys who dm her and she gets dmed alot

MV
 

Dark_Stallion

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You did a lot of things really well! Sounds like both of you were having fjn

Giving her a reason to add her on Instagram «to remember you» counterproductive.

better would have been to ask her right then and there if she wants to work out some day. The agree on a date and time right there.
Yeah, I should have made a more concrete plan rather than simply seeding the idea
Say as you’re leaving as something you thought of «let me take your number in case something comes up» like as an afterthought.
Can try this next time
Instagram dms are weak imo
Depends on profile but most girls I add on Instagram don’t reply I don’t know you get lumped in with all the other guys who dm her and she gets dmed a lot

MV
Id like to think my instagram profile is decent, nothing special though.

I’m going to see her again, so I can easily course correct and plan something concrete, based on the number of things I seeded.

Thanks for the advice, just need to clean that last bit up.
 
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Dark_Stallion

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UPDATE

This was last week, I saw her in the gym and struck up a conversation, where I did a bit of basic convo, then said "I still have to tell you those stories I mentioned!" to which she agreed.

I previously asked for her instagram, this time, I asked for her number, and found out logistics.

I asked for Friday evening, to which she said she couldn't, so I then pivoted to the weekend, to which we both agreed for Saturday, since Sunday I was busy.

Normally I have things going on Fridays and Saturdays, and wasn't even free that Friday evening myself, but this is a slow weekend at the college town.

Texted her an icebreaker message, saying that it was nice seeing her again, hope her lift was good, she never responded.

I haven't followed up after this, haven't seen her after this, should I follow up again?

Girl in question is a 7/10, not really my type, met a few more girls that are my type, which is more social circle game, and haven't asked either of them out yet, so not posting any FR for this.
 

average_daygamer

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Nice gym approach my broski.

The gym is easily 2nd only to the club with hot girls.

The only problem is, I find approaching in there nerve wracking as hell.

Especially if the girl is stereotypically young and pretty. I had a situation last time where I was sat at the dumbbell rack on an adjustable bench and this petite, I'm gonna guess 20 year old (I am mid 30s) sat on a bench next me but with a big space between us.

I almost approached her but I couldn't get get the eye contact I wanted for a "pre approach opener" and she was wearing earbuds so I figured she wouldn't hear me say "excuse me". It felt awkward so I gave up and sat down on my bench to finish my workout.

I didn't want to have a cringe interaction and then have to workout next to her. I have in the past and just ignored the girl and nothing happened, but I prefer not to be distracted.

The encouragement opener was a good one. My usual opener for the gym is "You look pretty dedicated" to which you can gauge her reaction and then add more stuff such as "you clearly put the effort in here".

I should try and encouragement opener but I want to make it sincere. I also struggle with the transition to asking the girl out from a more casual opener.

The problem with a multistage approach is that it relies on seeing the girl again. If you don't see the girl again, it won't work. And it also risks a complaint if the girl isn't into it but doesn't want to tell you herself. For the aforementioned reasons, I prefer to open and close in the same interaction. That way, if it's a rejection, I know not to talk to her again.
 

gameboy

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I almost approached her but I couldn't get get the eye contact I wanted for a "pre approach opener" and she was wearing earbuds so I figured she wouldn't hear me say "excuse me". It felt awkward so I gave up and sat down on my bench to finish my workout.
Just say something situational. Something like "damn that sure is a lot of rain today" or whatever. Something that if she doesn't reply at all, wouldn't even be awkward. Low investment. If she is interested in talking, she will notice you and take out her earbuds.
 
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