So this happened to me a while ago. I had an amazing first date with this very sexy, thin-fit, sorority girl. We met at a bar, had a few drinks, really hit it off, I was getting the eye-sparkles and everything, ended with a makeout session in my car, but she'd had one too many and I dropped her off at her dorm.
This was a Tue night so we made plans the next day to go out again Friday night at 7pm. Standard move for me. Lunchtime Fri we re-confirm when and where in the city.
Now, I had also made pre-plans to meet 2 hot girls I had recently met for drinks, one of whom I'd known for a couple months and the other was her friend I didn't know yet, both single and in college also.
I park my car and I'm walking to meet the two girls at 530, and I get a text from my date that she can't make it tonight. I am furious.
I wait 30 mins while I have a drink with the two girls, and I reply 'OK. Tks.' and nothing more.
Sure enough, 5 minutes later she actually calls me on the phone, 'Oh, something came up, I'm sorry....' then asks 'what are you doing?'
I tell her I'm having drinks with 2 blonde models, which happens to be true. 'What??' is her reply. I say, yeah, having drinks at this bar with Girl A and Girl B -who I've just met and they both model. In fact, the bar gives them free drink tix to get them in, so we're all drinking for free.
Now my date says, 'Well, I really want to see you again this weekend, but I have sorority rush tomorrow night, can I see you Sunday?' So we make plans for Sunday afternoon to hang out in the park [its August]. This all took about 5 minutes on the phone.
She's on-time, dressed sexy, we grab a drink or two and I tell her let's get in my car in go somewhere fun. After about 10 minutes of driving she smiles and says, 'We're going to your place aren't we?' Yep.
We have a great time kissing and etc on my couch, hanging out, she says she's not having sex with me just yet, but promises world-class oral in the very near future. Ok then. We repeat this Mon night at my place again, still no sex, but the next date we both orgasm many times, and she was not lying about her oral skills. Later, tells me she wanted to wait because she only slept with one bf in college who had graduated. So she had a very, very low N count but they had sex 2-3x a day.
Lessons: 1) Girls will always be flaky, and may not even know what they want after just one meet. No matter how well it goes.
2) Getting mad OR refusing to respond totally would have been 100% counterproductive.
3) But I didn't stroke her ego or give her attention. That made her even more curious and invested in me. Imagine how much attention a truly hot chick gets on campus and in the city.
4) Social proofing is the strongest 'Game' there is for hot chicks. And she wasn't there to confirm what I told her, even though it was true. You could just say 'I'm having drinks with these girls I just met,' etc.
5) You can't be pushing all the time, push-pull works way better. Had I been upset that we'd hung out 3x with no sex, I'd have missed out on probably the best sex I've ever had with a 19yr co-ed with a fantastically firm body, great ass and abs [rare] and tits still pointing up, who loved dressing up for me. Slower moves can be better, comfort has to be there for her to trust you.
6) Don't assume the worst - she wasn't spending Fri nite with another guy, but her sorority sisters drinking on the roof and working on their tans and they pressured her not to leave campus to meet me.
I'm sure others will have comments and questions. But I thought this was a good basic lesson for all newbies and intermediates.
This was a Tue night so we made plans the next day to go out again Friday night at 7pm. Standard move for me. Lunchtime Fri we re-confirm when and where in the city.
Now, I had also made pre-plans to meet 2 hot girls I had recently met for drinks, one of whom I'd known for a couple months and the other was her friend I didn't know yet, both single and in college also.
I park my car and I'm walking to meet the two girls at 530, and I get a text from my date that she can't make it tonight. I am furious.
I wait 30 mins while I have a drink with the two girls, and I reply 'OK. Tks.' and nothing more.
Sure enough, 5 minutes later she actually calls me on the phone, 'Oh, something came up, I'm sorry....' then asks 'what are you doing?'
I tell her I'm having drinks with 2 blonde models, which happens to be true. 'What??' is her reply. I say, yeah, having drinks at this bar with Girl A and Girl B -who I've just met and they both model. In fact, the bar gives them free drink tix to get them in, so we're all drinking for free.
Now my date says, 'Well, I really want to see you again this weekend, but I have sorority rush tomorrow night, can I see you Sunday?' So we make plans for Sunday afternoon to hang out in the park [its August]. This all took about 5 minutes on the phone.
She's on-time, dressed sexy, we grab a drink or two and I tell her let's get in my car in go somewhere fun. After about 10 minutes of driving she smiles and says, 'We're going to your place aren't we?' Yep.
We have a great time kissing and etc on my couch, hanging out, she says she's not having sex with me just yet, but promises world-class oral in the very near future. Ok then. We repeat this Mon night at my place again, still no sex, but the next date we both orgasm many times, and she was not lying about her oral skills. Later, tells me she wanted to wait because she only slept with one bf in college who had graduated. So she had a very, very low N count but they had sex 2-3x a day.
Lessons: 1) Girls will always be flaky, and may not even know what they want after just one meet. No matter how well it goes.
2) Getting mad OR refusing to respond totally would have been 100% counterproductive.
3) But I didn't stroke her ego or give her attention. That made her even more curious and invested in me. Imagine how much attention a truly hot chick gets on campus and in the city.
4) Social proofing is the strongest 'Game' there is for hot chicks. And she wasn't there to confirm what I told her, even though it was true. You could just say 'I'm having drinks with these girls I just met,' etc.
5) You can't be pushing all the time, push-pull works way better. Had I been upset that we'd hung out 3x with no sex, I'd have missed out on probably the best sex I've ever had with a 19yr co-ed with a fantastically firm body, great ass and abs [rare] and tits still pointing up, who loved dressing up for me. Slower moves can be better, comfort has to be there for her to trust you.
6) Don't assume the worst - she wasn't spending Fri nite with another guy, but her sorority sisters drinking on the roof and working on their tans and they pressured her not to leave campus to meet me.
I'm sure others will have comments and questions. But I thought this was a good basic lesson for all newbies and intermediates.
