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Lets agree to disagree then , I think my view on the matter is quite clear
I think I understand a bit where Op is coming from. This seems like a turning the other cheek situation. If a girl would have turned nasty like that I would probably reply with "you seem like a loser" and then eject and then she can hurl any insult she wants.
Not everyone has the state control to handle insults, it demoralizes them and makes them feel like they lost something, have become bruised. The very experienced guys dont take things personally and thus this is easier for them to handle. I notice that I tend to deflect things on auto pilot (still keep my eyes open for if I have to take action/intervene)
We must not ignore winner momentum. So yes, in my book if someone goes hard at you (assuming you didnt do anything wrong or weird), putting them in place in a CALIBRATED way is the way to go.
I thought this community didn't have amogs and trolls.. anyway good one manJust to derail Abit.
I saw the name, Shawn. I had to. Sorry man. I had to.
Was literally going to call this crazy bitch a virus lol.It is best to see them as infectious,
I was fine in ejecting but part of me was saying that I should've put the bitch in her place. Now that you mentioned your experience at the coffee shop, I think in my case as well it could've turned bad if I had tried confronting her. I'm now convinced about what I did and put my mind at ease. ThxWas literally going to call this crazy bitch a virus lol.
Why would anyone need to fire shots back at someone like this? Just walk away. Trying to correct crazy is like having an internet fight, except out in the real world the word of a woman is higher than that of a man.
So just imagine this (which it sounds like wouldn't be too far of a stretch, she already sounds off her rocker to do something like this):
you try to correct her behavior but then she just starts yelling for help because some guy is harassing her. Do you think anybody in the area is going to take your side over hers?
I had a run-in with a crazy bitch myself a few months ago. I just looked at her like she was retarded and completely ignored her while she went on some stupid rant for a few minutes. Then, because I was in a coffee shop I did some damage control by talking about it so that people would hear my side of the story to protect my own reputation.
But it sounds like OP was just out and about and didn't even need to protect his reputation (seriously, who is going to come after you, the park police lol?)
Anyone talking about how they need to put a crazy bitch in her place is just coming from a need for validation in my opinion. There's only one reason to ever attempt to correct crazy, and that's in some kind of social circle situation where you need to nuke her ass from orbit. But it's not to correct her behavior, it's an argument for the social circle itself. You're not trying to win against her, you're trying to win over the crowd at that point.
Because let's be honest, you have a better chance at winning an internet fight with a five year old than you do for 'correcting her behavior'. Bitch is crazy, just imagine her as the black plague and get away before it infects you
But all jokes aside, what do you win/gain by trying to correct her behavior? Her undying love and always-moist vagina? Why thank you kind stranger for pointing out how much of a cunt I was, please, may I suck your dick? lol
And here's a better question, what can you lose by even trying?
Yes, you have suffered a testosterone hit in this scenario. Thats why you had the urge to put her back into place. It has nothing to do with "validation" or "correcting" her. This is why you felt bad, this is why you started this post. In a way this post is actually seeking validation (nothing wrong with that right now), "did I act well?". It is natural to wonder these things and ask for support. Especially when you are new into the game. Or any game.I was fine in ejecting but part of me was saying that I should've put the bitch in her place. Now that you mentioned your experience at the coffee shop, I think in my case as well it could've turned bad if I had tried confronting her. I'm now convinced about what I did and put my mind at ease. Thx
Although I know it's not common for this to happen and I hadn't experienced anything like this in the past, it still kinda shook me (I'm very conscious of spotlight effect) and has definitely affected my vibe. Does anyone here know any TRE for this?
For sure man, we're not robots. I'm not the best around or anything but I've been doing this for years at this point and I've only ever had my one crazy reaction. I can stomach rejection pretty well at this point and the girl I mentioned shook me for a few days. I'd never had someone just go psycho on me like thatI was fine in ejecting but part of me was saying that I should've put the bitch in her place. Now that you mentioned your experience at the coffee shop, I think in my case as well it could've turned bad if I had tried confronting her. I'm now convinced about what I did and put my mind at ease. Thx
Although I know it's not common for this to happen and I hadn't experienced anything like this in the past, it still kinda shook me (I'm very conscious of spotlight effect) and has definitely affected my vibe. Does anyone here know any TRE for this?
Thank you. I honestly believe that when someone is shook as OP describes you probably had the feeling you really lost something. I mean the guy mentions wanting to TRE to shake it off a day after starting the post. In other words he is a bit traumatized by the affair.darknight has the right idea in his answer with the momentum stuff as well.....
This is obviously gear towards me. Deep sigh. Escalating is something completely different than what I wrote. Retorting and leaving is not staying around and throwing haymakers. Retorting can also be nonverbal but I already wrote this didnt I? You just skimmed probably read testosterone and replied. It is obvious you didnt get what I tried to get across, then again I dont care that much.If you escalate it because you must "save your testosterone" nobody here would be there to save you if things get really nasty.
Yes, we are extremely fearful... Have a nice day!This is obviously gear towards me. Deep sigh. Escalating is something completely different than what I wrote. Retorting and leaving is not staying around and throwing haymakers. Retorting can also be nonverbal but I already wrote this didnt I? You just skimmed probably read testosterone and replied. It is obvious you didnt get what I tried to get across, then again I dont care that much.
Also if things "get real nasty". I swear you people hugely overblow things. What is going to happen by retorting to someone, is a mob going to pursue you with pitchforks and torches?
Laughable. How fearful are you people really?
Great argumentation. I am impressed. Yeah gonna have that nice day now after this laughable distraction.Yes, we are extremely fearful... Have a nice day!