How To Introduce Girls To My Pets

[Troy]

Since I was a boy, I always had a gentle heart towards animals. And over the years I have had:

Dogs
Cats
& Birds

There has even been times where I stumbled across a bird laying on the street with a broken leg or wing, and I took the bird home. I bought bird food, water pans, medication and I took care of the bird until he could fly again.

This is how I got my first set of pigeons. I founda female pigeon with a broken wing around a park area and I adopted her. And soon enough, a male bird showed up and mated with her and after a while I had more birds. Thats years ago though and I currently do not have any birds.

And I had a very nice dog years ago.

Right now the only pet I have is a male cat. Trust me this cat has got to be one of the nicest cats in the world. He is nice around strangers, I trained him to sit, shake my hand, roll over, come when I call him, etc.

How To Introduce Women To My Pets​

I know women are more loving towards dogs than cats and birds. But what I do not know is how to naturally introduce my pets to women. And how to not make my choice in pets kill attraction with women.

Dogs

I have heard of men using Dogs as props to attract women. I have even seen men claim that having small dogs will attract more women than large dogs. Hence why some men buy small dogs and walk them in the park and ask women for their number. Personally I have never done something like that. If it weren't about women, I would still adopt a dog because they are wonderful animals... I genuinely love animals.

Cats

This is the question of the day. For anyone who may be reading this and have sterotypes of cat owners...

1. No I am not one of those weird cat people whose house stinks of pee. In fact, my bachelor pad is always clean and my cat is well maintained. Even when I have strangers over, there is no sign or smell to indicate "crazy cat home". And my cat is well trained so he knows where to do his business with zero scent.

2. I am not one of those people with some bipolar or autism issues / weird crazy cat guy. Im a pretty chill guy. The same way persons have dogs and are chill, is the same with me.

Ok, I just wanted to say that to make my post more clear.
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Since I moved to my new neighborhood in 2017, I have had 5 female neighbors who hated cats. Also at my previous job, I have had conversations with women... And I casually mentioned I have a cat. And their initial reaction was to frown or outright tell me "I dont like cats, they are thieves". Even one of my previous female managers, I had casual conversation with and told her I have a cat. And she said "I never liked cats. How do you do it?"

I have probably shared with 10-20 women over the past 4 years that I have cats. From my experience about 50% of women like cats and the other 50% hate them.

So my question is:

1. How would you recommend I react when a woman says she does not like Cats/Dogs/whatever pet?

2. How soon into knowing a woman would you recommmend I let her know I have pets?

3. Would it be a wise idea to put a picture of me and my cat/dog/bird on my social media? I do not want women who hate these pets to simply "NEXT" me because of my pet decisions.

4. Are there any ways you know that pets can help you peacock with women?

I would really like to be my authentic self without scaring women away.

P.s. I train all my pets to behave well around other humans. Any man or woman could come around my pets, play with them, touch them and they would interact with you just as they do with me.

Troy

 

[topcat]

Get lock in with a girl, have her head over heels for you and it won’t matter whether you have a pet diplodocus…

 

[StrayDog]

Yeah, a lot of flack you get is just a shot test. For one its not like you have to bring it up unless she asks. For two, if she is horny enough when you bring her over any apprehension about pets will be minor especially if they are well trained. Besides, she is in your kingdom now. Just pass her shit tests with lines
"A kitty cat who doesn't like other cats, why am I not surprised. any way you can see I know how to train cats well" make your cat do a trick for her

 

[Fuck This]

If she gives you any grief, put HER on the spot....

"It's not about you liking my critters....It's about them liking you...."

And nothing more....

 

[Troy]

Get lock in with a girl, have her head over heels for you and it won’t matter

Ok I will try this

pet diplodocus…

LOL or my pet T Rex Dinosaur

Yeah, a lot of flack you get is just a shot test. For one its not like you have to bring it up unless she asks. For two, if she is horny enough when you bring her over any apprehension about pets will be minor especially if they are well trained. Besides, she is in your kingdom now. Just pass her shit tests with lines
"A kitty cat who doesn't like other cats, why am I not surprised. any way you can see I know how to train cats well" make your cat do a trick for her

I will give this a try. Appreciate it.

If she gives you any grief, put HER on the spot....

"It's not about you liking my critters....It's about them liking you...."

And nothing more....

Lol sounds like a great idea. Basically reframing it that me and my pets are the prize and she needs to seek my pets validation.

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I had one other question about this though. Not every woman I look at I want to have sex with. I may just be talking to female coworkers or women I would consider as female friends strictly. Also right now I am working from home and I do a lot of Zoom sessions.

Yeah of course some topics are taboo or unnecessary for example. I would not ever tell a woman in conversation (for example)

"Oh yeah I masturbated last week"
"I slept with 9 women last month"
"I believe in XYZ God..."

And if I am being truly honest in conversations, my pet (s) are a big part of my life. For instance as I write this, my cat is wagging his tail waiting for me to feed him breakfast.

(I work 40 hours per month at my job. Working from home and my cat basically is beside me or somewhere in the room most of the day. So he is basically my coworker at this point).

So I was wondering what is a good way to casually bring this in conversations with women I have as coworkers, female friends, or prospective female friends?

I want to not filter my brain too much during conversation. Yes there are a lot of other things I could talk about, but for me to filter off a topic like pets, it feels kind of weird to me.

 

[StrayDog]

Ok I will try this

LOL or my pet T Rex Dinosaur


I will give this a try. Appreciate it.


Lol sounds like a great idea. Basically reframing it that me and my pets are the prize and she needs to seek my pets validation.

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I had one other question about this though. Not every woman I look at I want to have sex with. I may just be talking to female coworkers or women I would consider as female friends strictly. Also right now I am working from home and I do a lot of Zoom sessions.

Yeah of course some topics are taboo or unnecessary for example. I would not ever tell a woman in conversation (for example)

"Oh yeah I masturbated last week"
"I slept with 9 women last month"
"I believe in XYZ God..."

And if I am being truly honest in conversations, my pet (s) are a big part of my life. For instance as I write this, my cat is wagging his tail waiting for me to feed him breakfast.

(I work 40 hours per month at my job. Working from home and my cat basically is beside me or somewhere in the room most of the day. So he is basically my coworker at this point).

So I was wondering what is a good way to casually bring this in conversations with women I have as coworkers, female friends, or prospective female friends?

I want to not filter my brain too much during conversation. Yes there are a lot of other things I could talk about, but for me to filter off a topic like pets, it feels kind of weird to me.

I mean, might seem kind of odd to some people if you are just talking about your pets all the time. But its like anything else someone is into and they talk too much about it. Its all about calibrating to the room. I don't think anyone really thinks one thing or another about someone's pets. Its kind of like sharing a dream with someone. Its mostly just meaningful to you. Most people will find the subject to be flat. But some people who have a very personal interest in you and or dreams will find it fascinating, or at least not off putting. I think you're fine though dude. Talking about your pets is definitely miles away from talking about masturbating. Also, if you are known as the xyz guy (inn this case pets) people often value when you are able to make the topic of xyz relevant to what's currently being discussed. Like I am a musician and if I just ramble on abkut music theory or how much I love my synthesizer it will fall flat. But if every one is talking about frustration working with certain types of people on the job and I relay a funny story about a difficult drummer I played with, and add a little spicy music knowledge in to convey the point of the stort. Well that's golden because its kind of exotic to them but still relevent

 

[Troy]

I mean, might seem kind of odd to some people if you are just talking about your pets all the time. But its like anything else someone is into and they talk too much about it. Its all about calibrating to the room.

I understand. Chase has an article about getting hung up on topics https://www.girlschase.com/content/dont-get-hung-topics

And I do my best to follow this article. Typically if I bring up a conversation topic and a person does not like it, I typically change it to something else quickly.

However the one thing that annoys me the most is the whole idea that in order to be interesting, I must be interested.

I find myself being in conversations with some women. And I talk about things that interest them and I get on common ground. I sometimes even find myself in conversations talking to women about things that they find interesting, which I know little about.

And I remain non-judgmental.

But the moment I open my mouth and talk about something that interests me eg. my pets .... Now some women outright judge me

"damn I hate xyz pet"
"ugg they are thieves"
etc

What I hate the most is I cannot even be my authentic self with some women. And usually when I find a woman judging me, I shut off and it feels awkward talking to that woman further. And I find myself filtering my conversations around some women. Which makes me more self conscious.

Im not trying to be negative nancy on here. The reality though is some women dont even attempt to reciprocate some interest. Its all about what they like and want to talk about. And zero fucks about what the man likes.

Talking about your pets is definitely miles away from talking about masturbating.

Lol I know its miles away. I was trying to give a clear of an example that came to my mind as I wrote this lol

Also, if you are known as the xyz guy (inn this case pets) people often value when you are able to make the topic of xyz relevant to what's currently being discussed. Like I am a musician and if I just ramble on abkut music theory or how much I love my synthesizer it will fall flat. But if every one is talking about frustration working with certain types of people on the job and I relay a funny story about a difficult drummer I played with, and add a little spicy music knowledge in to convey the point of the stort. Well that's golden because its kind of exotic to them but still relevent

Got it!

 

[StrayDog]

It is clear that your pets are an important piece of your life that is close to your heart and a strong element in your sense of self. It's awesome to have something like that. When we do, not everybody is going to understand it, and we don't need them too either. It could go further and they may not accept it, we don't need them to. If a woman doesn't like my xyz characteristic I get to chose where she fits in my world. If she is just a FWB It matters not one bit if she likes xyz. Sure she doesn't like my dog, but she sure loves doggy style. If she is girlfriend material, I might matter a bit more, and if we are building a life together even more. But even then a woman will not get every aspect of your life. She might even have trouble accepting it. And you still get to chose how she fits in your world. It's totally reasonable to draw a line on some aspects of our lives and determine who stands where in regards to it.
It seems like this can be a bit of a soar subject for you and maybe there is something to exam here to get a clearer self understanding a be able to come with a stronger frame.

I only show interest in what a woman is telling me if I find it interesting. If she is being boring I might even tease her about it or use body language to indicate I am losing interest. I mean, if she is gonna shit test me, why wouldn't I shit test her from time to time? Or I will find ways to move the conversation in a more compelling direction. If a woman is making everything about herself that doesn't really fly for me. At the same time, if she is clearly just feeling open, I take it as a good sign that she is comfortable to be herself. Even if herself is not the best conversationalist. Woman are just going to be more interested in how you operate over your hobbies and interests. How you operate IS your authentic self, and while your interests may be an aspect of how you handle yourself, they are not fundamental to it. If she is shit testing you. You can take this as a sign that she IS interested in you, but interested in who you really are as a man, not just an identity. That doesn't mean that she won't be interested in your interests, just that what compels her is how you handle yourself. That's why she is more interested in seeing how you manage a shit test than what you are saying about your pets.

"uuugg, they're thieves"
"Why do you think I trained them that way? you might want to go check your car"
Most of time this kinds of comments are just shit tests. You just have to pass them. Often times, after you do pass them she will all of a sudden take a deep interest in that aspect of your life. The other night I was talking to a gal and I mentioned I played a show in her home town and no one came out to it. She was like "well maybe it's just cause your band was bad" I just leaned into it as was like "How could they know that we were bad if they didn't come out to the show?" sure I kind of accepted the frame but it showed that I was unphased, and also that here logic was off. It basically highlighted that she was being rude. She then immediately apologized and was like "oh yeah, I don't know what I was talking about, sorry", began to probe me on being a musician, and was introducing me to her friends as "He's a musician!"

 

[Troy]

It is clear that your pets are an important piece of your life that is close to your heart and a strong element in your sense of self. It's awesome to have something like that. When we do, not everybody is going to understand it, and we don't need them too either. It could go further and they may not accept it, we don't need them to.

I agree I cannot expect everyone I meet to enjoy the things I like.

If a woman doesn't like my xyz characteristic I get to chose where she fits in my world. If she is just a FWB It matters not one bit if she likes xyz. Sure she doesn't like my dog, but she sure loves doggy style.

Thats true. Lol the doggy style comment is classic. She sure will like when I am digging and stroking in her sweet watery guts, giving her doggy style long and hard.

If she is girlfriend material, I might matter a bit more, and if we are building a life together even more. But even then a woman will not get every aspect of your life. She might even have trouble accepting it. And you still get to chose how she fits in your world. It's totally reasonable to draw a line on some aspects of our lives and determine who stands where in regards to it.

Thats true.

It seems like this can be a bit of a soar subject for you and maybe there is something to exam here to get a clearer self understanding a be able to come with a stronger frame.

Yes its a big deal for me. In fact, if I were casually dating a woman and she wanted to move the relationship more serious. If she were to give me an ultimatium "get rid of the dog/cat or I am not going to move this relationship forward".

I would just end the relationship there. I am choosing my pets over a woman. I make no apologies about that to any woman. She would need to accept my dog/cat/bird.

Side note: Im only giving a exagerrated situation to show where I would draw the line with a woman when it comes to my pets. In fact even though I have never been in that situation I doubt that would happen.

I guess I will need to think of a stronger frame like you mentioned. Nothing comes to mind now but I will think about it. And as @topcat mentioned, hopefully after I shag her a few times she will be able to accept some things about me she originally would have been opposed to.

I only show interest in what a woman is telling me if I find it interesting. If she is being boring I might even tease her about it or use body language to indicate I am losing interest. I mean, if she is gonna shit test me, why wouldn't I shit test her from time to time? Or I will find ways to move the conversation in a more compelling direction. If a woman is making everything about herself that doesn't really fly for me. At the same time, if she is clearly just feeling open, I take it as a good sign that she is comfortable to be herself. Even if herself is not the best conversationalist. Woman are just going to be more interested in how you operate over your hobbies and interests. How you operate IS your authentic self, and while your interests may be an aspect of how you handle yourself, they are not fundamental to it. If she is shit testing you. You can take this as a sign that she IS interested in you, but interested in who you really are as a man, not just an identity. That doesn't mean that she won't be interested in your interests, just that what compels her is how you handle yourself. That's why she is more interested in seeing how you manage a shit test than what you are saying about your pets.

"uuugg, they're thieves"
"Why do you think I trained them that way? you might want to go check your car"
Most of time this kinds of comments are just shit tests. You just have to pass them. Often times, after you do pass them she will all of a sudden take a deep interest in that aspect of your life. The other night I was talking to a gal and I mentioned I played a show in her home town and no one came out to it. She was like "well maybe it's just cause your band was bad" I just leaned into it as was like "How could they know that we were bad if they didn't come out to the show?" sure I kind of accepted the frame but it showed that I was unphased, and also that here logic was off. It basically highlighted that she was being rude. She then immediately apologized and was like "oh yeah, I don't know what I was talking about, sorry", began to probe me on being a musician, and was introducing me to her friends as "He's a musician!"

This entire block of text sounds good. I will try it out. Thanks man!