How to pass the age test (for guys over 30 talking to younger girls)

kristian

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Because I look 10 years younger than I do, flirting with women down to 17 is very easy. But teenagers seem to dismiss me when I straight tell them my age.

So I've come with a good response to make then comfortable with the idea of being with me (after failing a couple of times).

So how old are you, anyways?
Me: How old do you think I am?
I dont know, 24 maybe?
Me: You are so sweet. I am actually so old I was hanging out with the dinosaurs (laughs). ¨
This makes her interested but instead of judging you, she starts being more defensive on your behalf.

You are not that old! I think its fine to hang out with people with experience anyways.

Now, if she starts qualifying herself to you. You become the one who decides by this time. You could always say "Maybe youre too young to hang out with me" to sement this feeling and make her protest. If she does, you say your actual age (mine is 33). Usually she will reply:

Wow. you seem so young. A lot younger than my uncle/brother.
Me: I think feeling young has everything to do with how you percieve the world


If she accepts this notion, age is not important anymore.
For you guys looking your actual age, if she is talking to you, she is interested. So instead of making her guess, the dinosaur-comment works wonders. You show her you're not defensive about your age and make her qualify herself to you. People over here say you could lie about your age, but I don't like withholding the truth. If you say things the right way, she accepts it. After all, she likes you and wants you to pass her test.

kristian
 

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You know it's funny to find out you're only 33. I guess it could be normal for a 17-22 year old to think you're "old". But it still doesn't seem that old where girls wouldn't talk to you.

What seems to be the youngest age of women who don't get into the old young thing?

And I'm guessing you're in another country because of the 17 year old thing.

Would you say that where you're at is better or worse than the states when it comes to dating younger women if you happen to know?
 

kristian

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What seems to be the youngest age of women who don't get into the old young thing?
Girls over 24 don't seem to care anymore, if she is younger than 20, age will most definitely be a topic.

Would you say that where you're at is better or worse than the states when it comes to dating younger women if you happen to know?
Never dated in the states. In Norway, the age of consent is 16 so you wouldn't face any charges at all. I've talked to girls confessing having sexual encounters with "older" men when they where around that age, it is a little taboo tho.

The youngest I've had a sexual encounter with, was 17 years old from a social circle. We never discussed age at all, we where just two people vibing and having a good time.
 

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And I'm guessing you're in another country because of the 17 year old thing.
16 is age of consent in 30 US states, 17 in like 10 other states, so that is almost 40/50 states where it is legal to interact sexually with a 17 yo. Perfectly possible in US.

Girls today do not care at all about age if you are physically attractive, and sexually attractive, and have and can build rapport with them. If they are all of a sudden having an issue with your age there is something you are doing to make them use that as an excuse to eject. I am older than 30 and girls in that age range never even bring up the age topic, ever.
 

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I am 45, so you can brag to all your friends that you've taken an older lover.
I have used this many times. It is a good springboard.

I would not use 45 on say, Tinder, tho. Because you are filtered out.
 

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I guess the trick is to lie about your age, but once you hit 30's, it's the wrinkles and hair loss and stuff that put them off I think.

If she's super attracted though, I guess age isn't a huge deal?

I have a friend (more friend of a friend) who has male model looks, and I was at a night time 'street BBQ' thing with him about a year ago. Some girl on her sixteenth birthday who was just gorgeous basically opened him, flirted with him and pulled him within about 30 mins and he was like 33. He banged her in her neighbours garden lol
 

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When I lie to women I tell them I'm 34. I used to tell them the truth, but after 35 it started to cost me lays. There is a truth that you'll lose some access to those younger women just because they put up mental roadblocks "What will my friends think?"

Don't worry about being 33, it's still considered young by everyone except the dumb dums.
 

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yes most guys lie about their age, you can get away with a 8 to 10 year age lie difference....

There is real age and there is looks age......

the best neutral age to use is 35 if you are way older than that..... again you need to look younger to pull this off, but is not a polarizing age... Guys in the 30s look like they are in their 20s, a lot of the time...
 

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how old are you?
guess?

she clearly likes you enough to know what age you are at the age she guesses so agree. be like that’s exactly right. unless the guess is so young her friends would never believe it. so if a girl guesses i’m 26 i’ll be like i’m actually 29. maybe she likes 37 year olds. if she guess my real age i got with it too.
 

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When I lie to women I tell them I'm 34. I used to tell them the truth, but after 35 it started to cost me lays. There is a truth that you'll lose some access to those younger women just because they put up mental roadblocks "What will my friends think?"
yes most guys lie about their age, you can get away with a 8 to 10 year age lie difference....
Again. Location, location, location. Age may be such a huge deal that you have to, I mean you really have to lie about it in such a feminist-infested country like the UK or the US (or Canada) but in my experience in a more balanced place like Continental Europe it should be that much less of an issue.

Girls Chase, the mother site is supposed to be a truly international place with visitors from over 90 countries but this place, the Skilled Seducer forum based on the number of requests from various parts of the world in the Wingman Finder section and the general tone in the forum overall is still too much UK-US (or Canada) aka. of Western Game flavor to me. Guys, I start getting bored here. I mean literally all posts are discussion is based on the US-UK worldview here and I have to explain myself in great detail in every posts that the world I operate in is quite different from yours. Maybe it's not so different in a way as we are all human, but in the sense you put it and describe your interactions, yes, it's different.
 

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Kristian - why not reframe the situation? At the moment you seem to be defending yourself and trying to prove you are acceptable to her standards. That's a bad place to be in.

Turn it around and make it a plus point that you are older and more experienced and question if she is mature, experienced, fun and intelligent enough for a man like you. Do this in a light hearted way and it will help you a lot.
 

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I do write with Western men in mind, even though I spent the last 9 months of the year in South East Asia, and Eastern Europe, where age doesn't matter much at all. However, this isn't a travel forum and the majority of readers are from the United States.
 

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how old are you?
guess?

she clearly likes you enough to know what age you are at the age she guesses so agree. be like that’s exactly right. unless the guess is so young her friends would never believe it. so if a girl guesses i’m 26 i’ll be like i’m actually 29. maybe she likes 37 year olds. if she guess my real age i got with it too.
Yeah IME as long as you throw them a hoop(guess) they'll be cool with it. Probably because you spiked some attraction.
 

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I don't try and pass the age test. If she asks I tell her, if not we flirt about other things.

I had a young hottie come bouncing up to my last August wanting to chat. I'd met her before in passing but she came over on her own leaving her friends, we chatted for 20 minutes and she played the time constraints card on me that "she was off to freshers week at uni next week". With an offer like that I couldn't refuse so spent the weekend with her. She wasn't short of offers from other guys but they were all playing for her, acting like puppy dogs. I was quiet confident, friendly and a bit of a challenge.

I'm 49, not the best looking, going a little thin on top, but keep in shape. If you think something is a problem, it probably will be because your belief system said it was.

I am actually so old I was hanging out with the dinosaurs
is a great line, I shall be using that this weekend
 

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Question for the guys who lie about their age- does the truth never come out? I mean, for one, if she doesn't believe you, she could ask to see your driver's license? Or if you start relationship with her, someone you know might say or she could look you up and your education/years of experience on your employer's website could hint that you were lying

But I gather that this never happens? Or does it?
 

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Extremifying it selfdeceptively works well - im treehundred year olds, wanna tocuh the wrinkles is good

Older lover is good

i tend to use
- i tend to date age xxx insert her age or around - frames that women her age is into me and that its normal
- yeah, my x was whatever she is around
both frames you regularly bed girls her age or young girls and that youre liberated on the mindset of age

i just nonchalantly drop it along convos, i dont wait for the age talk. i tend to talk about it when i discuss the joy of single life or liberatedness of affectionate life and alikes

Add in sexual frames and set her free around you and itll work well alongside the above
 

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I'm in the same boat. Women think that I'm 7-10 years younger than I really am (I'm late 30s btw). But I'm not willing to lie about my age either. But it definitely cost me (yes I live in the US). It's a mixed bag too. Some 25 year old women have a problem, while some 20 yrs old don't (usually ones with kids don't care). I think that if it's acceptable for 2 guys or 2 girls to date, why can't 2 straight intelligent adults? What happened to the love is love argument? When I get the "your old enough to be my dad" trope, I respond nicely with an anecdote. But it's a phrase so popular that people forgot who it's insulting. When a woman says this they are insinuating that they don't know who their own father is, and that this is potentially incest. This guilt by association fallacy needs to end. It's so dumb.
 

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I think if you can relate on family, career and interests, age is not an issue. Case in Point , my buddy at 52 was still running and mountain biking right with the late 20 year olds. One of them finally got him to marry her (or Vice versa I dunno). Key point...She didn't want kids...neither did he.

Actually the long term couples I know with big age differences are all very athletically active. I'm looking at mostly 5-10-15 years age differences.

Don't say it is because they have money either...these guys are working very physical jobs 5 days a week. The women might make more than them..


During my bachelorhood I became acquainted with a 20 something whose younger sister was on my daughter's team. She definitely was a daddy's girl and I could tell she enjoyed the attention from her dad's friends riding motorcycles, or drinking beer (judging from the social media). When she sat behind me at a game, and massaged my shoulders, (while telling me she had her own place) I thought that might be a window but I wasn't in a position to pursue it, and the relationship with her parents was more of a roadblock than anything. My point here is THAT is the kind of woman who appreciates an older man. Maybe not her dad's buddy, but not afraid to hang out with an older crowd.

Look for a younger woman who hangs out with older women. I'm thinking little sisters with older siblings. There are also personality types often known as "Old Souls"




One of the best "lines" I heard was a young lady said "sorry I have a boyfriend" and the fella straight up serious pointed to himself and said "Well you let me know when you are ready for a MANfriend."
 
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