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Me [26 M] with my crush [25 F] 1.5 months; we've only been "dating" for 2 weeks, but I CANNOT read what she feels!!
(BTW, I might be in love with her...? I've never been as happy since I met her...?)
So, here a brief synopsis:
There's this girl - I've known here for about a month and a half. We've only been going on dates for a few week, both of which I initiated. We are one year apart but we met in class --- she was my professor. I went to her office hours a bunch and we had good conversations. I asked to her coffee, and she said she could but only after class ended (school protocol.)
The first date was about an hour in duration and took place at a coffee shop. The conversation was good, and we made each other laugh and smile a lot. All signs were a go. I said I wanted to see here again and she told me she could in a couple weeks after a conference she had to go to.
Okay, so, I call her after that conference and, due to a comment about ping-pong she made at coffee, I took her to a restaurant with a ping-pong table. She was...strangely quiet...in the car, and for the rest of the night, for that matter. We had fun playing ping-pong, but dinner was enormously quiet. I almost felt like I was interviewing her because I had to initiate pretty much all the conversation. After dinner, however, we went for a drink in a close-by bar, and she opened up a little, but not much. She really didn't seem interested in me at all! She asked a question about me occasionally, but I feel like she just didn't have that much interest in finding out about me.
At the end of the night, when I dropped her off at her place, I was super nervous because I didn't know how to interpret the date, so, I asked her, I kid you not, "Did you have a good time?" Ugh. She said yes, lol, but then I asked her if I could see her again.
Here's the thing, she said "Yes, maybe next Monday," a week away, "or after the end of the month when I have less going on at work."
To me, this sounded like she was putting me off, i.e. letting me down easy. However, I texted her the next day to send her a link and tell her that I had a fun time with her last night. She said thanks for sharing the link, and " Me too, had a lot of fun yesterday : )" WTF? So, I said have a good night, and I'll call you tomorrow, and she replied, "You too! Have a good night : )" WTF? Another f!@#ing smily face? What the hell does that mean?
So, I call her the next day (today), and she answers with an extremely soft, timid, and almost [frightened?] tone. Again, super quiet, but I just asked how her day was, and she said she was busy with work and all that. I told her I wanted to go dancing with her on Monday, and she said she couldn't Monday, but she could at the end of the month when she finished all her work stuff. I mean, she laughed a couple times on the phone from jokes I made, but her tone really threw me off!
What is going on here? Is she into me or not? I am really very into her, but I won't pursue her if she is trying to send me signals to stop, you know? I just can't tell... I mean, is she putting me off with all this work stuff or what? Maybe she's a workaholic, which is very possible (she's defending her thesis proposal at the end of the month), but I just need some outside perspective!
Also, do I text her again? I really want to text or call her, but I don't know if that is a "smart" thing to do. People have told me "the ball is in her court," but I don't want her to stop thinking about me.
Thanks in advance, y'all.
TL;DR: She is putting off going out with me but still seems interested in going out with me; her tone, at times, is timid and scared, and she doesn't seem interested in me during conversations. What's the deal?
(BTW, I might be in love with her...? I've never been as happy since I met her...?)
So, here a brief synopsis:
There's this girl - I've known here for about a month and a half. We've only been going on dates for a few week, both of which I initiated. We are one year apart but we met in class --- she was my professor. I went to her office hours a bunch and we had good conversations. I asked to her coffee, and she said she could but only after class ended (school protocol.)
The first date was about an hour in duration and took place at a coffee shop. The conversation was good, and we made each other laugh and smile a lot. All signs were a go. I said I wanted to see here again and she told me she could in a couple weeks after a conference she had to go to.
Okay, so, I call her after that conference and, due to a comment about ping-pong she made at coffee, I took her to a restaurant with a ping-pong table. She was...strangely quiet...in the car, and for the rest of the night, for that matter. We had fun playing ping-pong, but dinner was enormously quiet. I almost felt like I was interviewing her because I had to initiate pretty much all the conversation. After dinner, however, we went for a drink in a close-by bar, and she opened up a little, but not much. She really didn't seem interested in me at all! She asked a question about me occasionally, but I feel like she just didn't have that much interest in finding out about me.
At the end of the night, when I dropped her off at her place, I was super nervous because I didn't know how to interpret the date, so, I asked her, I kid you not, "Did you have a good time?" Ugh. She said yes, lol, but then I asked her if I could see her again.
Here's the thing, she said "Yes, maybe next Monday," a week away, "or after the end of the month when I have less going on at work."
To me, this sounded like she was putting me off, i.e. letting me down easy. However, I texted her the next day to send her a link and tell her that I had a fun time with her last night. She said thanks for sharing the link, and " Me too, had a lot of fun yesterday : )" WTF? So, I said have a good night, and I'll call you tomorrow, and she replied, "You too! Have a good night : )" WTF? Another f!@#ing smily face? What the hell does that mean?
So, I call her the next day (today), and she answers with an extremely soft, timid, and almost [frightened?] tone. Again, super quiet, but I just asked how her day was, and she said she was busy with work and all that. I told her I wanted to go dancing with her on Monday, and she said she couldn't Monday, but she could at the end of the month when she finished all her work stuff. I mean, she laughed a couple times on the phone from jokes I made, but her tone really threw me off!
What is going on here? Is she into me or not? I am really very into her, but I won't pursue her if she is trying to send me signals to stop, you know? I just can't tell... I mean, is she putting me off with all this work stuff or what? Maybe she's a workaholic, which is very possible (she's defending her thesis proposal at the end of the month), but I just need some outside perspective!
Also, do I text her again? I really want to text or call her, but I don't know if that is a "smart" thing to do. People have told me "the ball is in her court," but I don't want her to stop thinking about me.
Thanks in advance, y'all.
TL;DR: She is putting off going out with me but still seems interested in going out with me; her tone, at times, is timid and scared, and she doesn't seem interested in me during conversations. What's the deal?
