How to respond a "How was your day" message after a canceled date?

[perpetualsun]

So I recently met a girl on tinder and went on two dates. When I proposed a third, she just said she was busy, but DID NOT offer an alternate time. This made me feel like she was just not interested. However, as a last ditch attempt, I messaged her a few days later, to which she responded enthusiastically for a meeting friday.

However, she messaged me the day before to see if I might be free that night. Lo and behold I was out of town so I told her it wasn’t possible. Come today, she basically cancels on me two hours before the date with this text:

“Sorry I am not feeling that well today, I just want to relax at home…”

I just respond with,

“No problem hope you feel better”

right after she then texts me:

“Did you have a long day today?”

At this point, I know that her interest levels are probably shot and not worth trying but I was gonna try to give her the whole “Ball in your court” spiel a day or two after this.

However, by her texting the whole “Did you have a long day”, I am not sure if I should respond briefly to this text or just to ignore it until I give the whole “Ball in your court” thing.

Should I just respond shortly like “Not too busy today” before disengaging until a few days after? What would your thoughts be?

 

[Richard]

There's always the possibility that she actually doesn't feel well and she expects you to understand that without making a hassle out of it. There's nothing in there saying that she doesn't want to see you and women don't always offer a new time to meet but if shes likes you and wants to see you then she'll make it obvious when her life is more calmed down. I dealt with this when I first got involved with my girlfriend and she only cancelled when something actually came up but she always reached out a few days later to make it up to me.

If she's texting you after cancelling then one of two things is going on;

1) She's keeping you around as a just-in-case option (which isn't what I feel is happening)

or

2) She actually doesn't feel well but wants to see you

Give her a few more days to reach out to you and respond accordingly. There's no evidence of either #1 or #2 yet so I wouldn't assume she's uninterested without a few more pieces of evidence. Just give her some time, text her if you'd like, but pay attention to what she does with you over the next few days.

-Richard

 

[perpetualsun]

Thanks Richard, that's very enlightening! I'm curious as to what your opinions are as to if she will go into auto-rejection if I don't respond back to the "How was your day" text. I know that normally this might cause a girl to do so but in this situation I feel that she may feel more power on her behalf as she was the one who canceled the date, so I'm not sure. Would you respond back to her or would you think that not responding until a few days later could create more investment from her (whatever that may be at this point)? Thanks!!