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I am frustrated, but honestly. In women’s’ eyes I am the same as the ugliest, fattest and unrelatable girl in men’s eyes. Only and only reason why women really don’t like is because I am considered as "good guy". I am not that good, and don’t supplicate much but simply due to my vibe from the time women look at me/or start talking with me they slot me in this category. Despite my work on all traits real men should have, it is not even close to get any chance with any girl. Literally.
The only way when there was some initial spark and receptiveness from girl was when I was dressed like typical abusive asshole and that interest would quickly vanish when they would talk to me.
Simply, women don’t like good guys. At least not for hook ups or casual relationships. There is that female excuse assholes are more masculine than good guys but it isn’t true. At least not in my case. However, what I have noticed is when girl perceive someone as good guy, she will intentionally look for his unattractive traits or reasons to disqualify him and when she perceives someone as jerk/asshole she will intentionally look for his masculine and attractive traits. Simply asshole with average masculinity will always be more attractive than good guy with greatest masculinity, regardless women lie it isn’t case.
Many times, girls would auto reject me/friend zone me/treat me like shit/act as pure saints from the time I open my mouth. Or I would approach and they would be stone cold and can’t even say hi and walk away. I always get "no spark" or "you remind me on my cousin" no matter what I do. Especially from girls who are in social value below me. I have that feeling that they want to take revenge on me for this, claiming that I am boring and unmasculine no matter what I do.
I survived wars, practice martial arts, have inspiring lifestyle, do the hardest job on planet and women still don’t feel anything for me. Just because I was born with some sense of justice, hard work and respect toward others it will cost me to spend my entire life being single and ignored by women.
Someone would tell me to look for Cinderella type of women, i.e. very soft, kind, genuine, educated and warm type of women. Well guess what, few times I interreacted with these women. One blocked me after 2-3 short, funny messages on fb and later wrote on some forum I am "sick man" because I should give up after first message. Because she is single, she probably has some lover and is worried he will stop fucking her if she replies on someone else text. Second one was entertained with interaction with me, wasted a lot of my enjoying in interaction and refused to go even on friend zoned date. Later I find out that she is in relationship with some jerk who isn’t as half similar to her as me but who is punk and acts as bumpkin. Third one offered me lifelong friend zone.
There is that @Chase advice "learn the game", "calibrate" or "don’t be bitter". Well, no game helped me with women and all attempts to calibrate were waste of time because she would just choose some asshole who is naturally similar to her. "Don’t be bitter" is like telling "don’t feel pain after serious injury". It is impossible.
These days when some woman tells me I am "good guy" it is insult for me. I got that genuine belief that women are assholes looking for assholes. This prevents me for further interaction with them, simply I auto reject every girl I see because I know that I am not what they are looking for. And the most of all it makes me to hate women. Yes, good guys can hate someone who has hurt them too.
Anyone, please help with some advice how to recover my mental peace!
The only way when there was some initial spark and receptiveness from girl was when I was dressed like typical abusive asshole and that interest would quickly vanish when they would talk to me.
Simply, women don’t like good guys. At least not for hook ups or casual relationships. There is that female excuse assholes are more masculine than good guys but it isn’t true. At least not in my case. However, what I have noticed is when girl perceive someone as good guy, she will intentionally look for his unattractive traits or reasons to disqualify him and when she perceives someone as jerk/asshole she will intentionally look for his masculine and attractive traits. Simply asshole with average masculinity will always be more attractive than good guy with greatest masculinity, regardless women lie it isn’t case.
Many times, girls would auto reject me/friend zone me/treat me like shit/act as pure saints from the time I open my mouth. Or I would approach and they would be stone cold and can’t even say hi and walk away. I always get "no spark" or "you remind me on my cousin" no matter what I do. Especially from girls who are in social value below me. I have that feeling that they want to take revenge on me for this, claiming that I am boring and unmasculine no matter what I do.
I survived wars, practice martial arts, have inspiring lifestyle, do the hardest job on planet and women still don’t feel anything for me. Just because I was born with some sense of justice, hard work and respect toward others it will cost me to spend my entire life being single and ignored by women.
Someone would tell me to look for Cinderella type of women, i.e. very soft, kind, genuine, educated and warm type of women. Well guess what, few times I interreacted with these women. One blocked me after 2-3 short, funny messages on fb and later wrote on some forum I am "sick man" because I should give up after first message. Because she is single, she probably has some lover and is worried he will stop fucking her if she replies on someone else text. Second one was entertained with interaction with me, wasted a lot of my enjoying in interaction and refused to go even on friend zoned date. Later I find out that she is in relationship with some jerk who isn’t as half similar to her as me but who is punk and acts as bumpkin. Third one offered me lifelong friend zone.
There is that @Chase advice "learn the game", "calibrate" or "don’t be bitter". Well, no game helped me with women and all attempts to calibrate were waste of time because she would just choose some asshole who is naturally similar to her. "Don’t be bitter" is like telling "don’t feel pain after serious injury". It is impossible.
These days when some woman tells me I am "good guy" it is insult for me. I got that genuine belief that women are assholes looking for assholes. This prevents me for further interaction with them, simply I auto reject every girl I see because I know that I am not what they are looking for. And the most of all it makes me to hate women. Yes, good guys can hate someone who has hurt them too.
Anyone, please help with some advice how to recover my mental peace!
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