I'm thinking at the macro levels. There's basically 5-6 game "arenas"
Quick Summary
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Night Game - expect less venues to survive, more festivals, and girls that go out to be a bit more adventurous.
2.
Day Game - Schools and Businesses that normally have people, will have less. So Day Game opportunities will plummet. Additionally, risk aversion may increase.
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Dating Sites and Social Media - Has been on a general increase. Veterans need to learn the new ways and change some of their thinking to get initial meets, but can go back to the norm when she shows up. Rookies need to learn offline game to close their online meets.
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Social Circle Game - Will become more useful, especially when augmented with social media. But pump and dump/splash and dash, which is always a bad idea, will be punished more.
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Passport Game (which might not mean anything to the European guys on the forum) - Less opportunity to travel, more aversion, but those that do travel will probably get greater reception because of rarity. Basically a reset to the 90's.
My extended thoughts on the matter, if you're bored.
Night Game - I expect a lot of clubs, bars, hotel bars/clubs, restaurant bars - did not survive the shut down, and a many more don't have the type of money to handle months/years of less business. As profitable as many of these places were back in the day, commercial land lords have raised rent or they have sold to condo developers. The virus is going to accelerate this trend.
So even less venues.
The girls that go out to night clubs and bars at this point - there's some additional risk associated with them - the fact that they go out suggests that they're more risk tolerant. That was the silent case before. Church girls usually stayed home, party girls went out.
Same level of risk aversion, but for a time,less girls.
I do expect the "sausage" fest factor to increase. Cause it's clear that guys will basically do anything to meet women (anything but actually improve themselves conventionally or learning pick up). More "furniture" that I have to move past in order to talk to a nice woman.
That said - A lot of us have been dealing with the overall slide in number of night life venues for years now. Personally, i've been doing more "happy hour" and social circle things - but that goes with age, imo. But I still love the life of a club.
"Events" play a much bigger role in pulling.
Things like Coachella or any sort of Festival are much more common than they used to be (remember when Lollapalooza was special?) - and they bring in lots of girls who don't do the night life. I've always thought of Festival game as a subset of "concert game" which was a subset of night game.
Guys that are good at courting attention, group game, solving logistical problems, social proof, and pres-selection thrive in the festival/event environment. Remember IVL's, in venue lays, much more common when everyone's drunk and high - because a lot of people have blankets and tents.
For those of us who prefer a more controlled environment, "afterparty" is the magic word here.
Day Game - One of the selling points of day game is that bitch shields are lower, because the girl isn't in her "war paint". I've never found that to be the case. I'm guessing the guys writing ad copy didn't grow up in truly dense cities. But that's a debate for another time. Just note, i've never been bullish on Day Game, so take what I say hear with a huge boulder of salt.
My questions?
- Will girls be more risk averse?
- Will there be less girls going out and about?
- Will we get fooled by the "pretty" girl in a mask?
I think the future of day game is up in the air. Offline game is still more powerful than online game, but the macro trend is moving towards online being the primary source, though many women lament on not being talked to in person.
The online scuttlebutt about girls being bored in the house, suggests that some girls sitting alone in their rooms, have realized the need for male company, not just attention.
I wouldn't bet on that. I will probably craft my date offerings to take advantage of girls needing to go out, if I notice the girl is particularly stifled.
Online Game - Dating Apps and Social Media
A lot of different minds are hacking online dating as a whole, and all of us will eventually have to adapt. In my view, OLD is much more marketing/advertising and taking advantage of internet thinking than in person game is. Instead of calibration in the moment like offline game, the online substitute is volume with only some measure of personalization.
The question remains, will girls turn to Tinder and Instagram DM's to meet guys over the people they encounter offline?
That gets back to
why people are interacting in public in general.
If I go back to working downtown, am I going to run into nice young ladies by chance, like I do now?
My job is increasingly looking like remote work might be permanent. All of the latest listings are saying that the positions are remote.
If the corporate overlords realize that 1) remote is working, 2) they can save money by reducing their office space - they will do so. And I wouldn't doubt that wages will decrease in my industry and many others because the pool of workers has increased to the globe, not just the city. I might be in a position where it makes sense to move to the burbs, rather than stay in the city if my compensation changes. And game in the suburbs....argh.
With college - I personally don't find distance learning to be great - some of these smaller schools that had to send people home - and now those students are learning online - the idea of a "school" is diminished. I expect more people doing online degrees, and eventually the businesses will have to take them.
So we might be seeing less and less places where people gather. Public gatherings to do important functions won't disappear entirely. Less folks on the train, at offices, in schools - the tide is going out and exposing hazards that we didn't see.
So at the macro level, there's this push into online and push away from offline.
What more online dates means?
That said, getting the girl to come meet you someplace, to come straight to your house, still has offline hurdles to jump.
If I meet a girl offline, take her number, and then get a date letter - there's some initial attraction and trust, and there's a residual of that during the date. I just blow a bit on the ember and it turns into a fire. I'd say most of us "close" on the first date, and definitely by the 3rd.
When you meet a girl online, she liked your pictures and texts - but does she like "you"?
Again, a veteran PUA can run his sequence and make the connection in person - and the things that attracted her online may or may not be the things that attract her offline. And in many ways, offline behavior is way more engaging than online behavior.
The rookie? He had a much better chance of making the connect offline. Online to meet? He now has to pass her "smell test". And her basis of comparison was the guy online (which exists in her mind) and the guy in person. Without that offline experience of connecting with girls, the Rookie has to now "learn on the fly", and exhibit offline behaviors that get the girl engaged. Cool multi-millionaire travel guy on the 'Gram (which attracts girls) now has portray that expected lifestyle to the girl while they sip lattes at Starbucks.
Obviously this issue of expectation vs reality happens with guys that don't do pickup at all. But it's an area of improvement for the average Keyshawn and Dre.
Social Circle
I think a lot of PUAs back in the day, created new social circles from meeting girls and guys in the night life. They had their family and friends from school/work, and girls met through those sources. But the girls that they dated/friends met via pickup - didn't often mix with their original social circles. Unless that girl became your actual GF/Mono/LTR.
For me at least, there was only the occasional mixing of the worlds. To this day, my family thinks i've only had 5 gf's in my life. They're always trying to give me advice.
I digress.
Right now, I'm seeing a lot of people getting closer to friends and family. I don't know how long this degree of F&F is going to last, but it will be higher than it was before.
So for a time, making connects via friends and family will be better than before. But since the meets have more social connection - the risk of blowback is higher. Setting up two friends is not about hook ups, but about traditional LTR's, imo.
To engage in this opportunity, I think is a personal decision. There are probably techniques to use to minimize damage, I don't like to add additional risk.
Passport Game
It's funny, but meeting girls in new lands has been a part of the PUA community since the beginning. The community has been global, and a lot of the Asian and European contingent is very familiar with dealing with girls from different cultures.
The Anglosphere part of the community (US, UK, Canada, AUS, NZ) is generally less cosmopolitan. So the idea of traveling to Portugal, Malaysia in order to meet girls like you would meet them at home was a bit foreign. The English Speaking community has basically come around on this. Just having a structured approach and lowered Approach Anxiety has been a boon for guys that don't want to really learn.
I know I just get a lot better reception to girls in Brazil, than Brazilian girls in the US. Clearly it's because i'm so handsome (lol)
But taking advantage of being either a rich Westerner (developing world) or an exotic (first world) is a big part of Passport game. I see this in the States. A girl in the appropriate age range, (25-40 for me, maybe 18-22 for you) gets so many "points" if she has a nice accent. Many a London girl has gotten my attention by saying "tea". Whereas with no accent, I'd be less enamored.
And reducing your game to the nonverbal aspects because of cultural/language limitations, actually makes your game better at home. There's a natural sort of interaction between man and woman that gets uncovered when you can't speak the language.
I think that in the coming months, Covid will enhance the extremes of this for guys that travel. Those averse to foreigners will increase, and those that welcome will increase.
So the passport player, the balance has always been, are the highs worth the lows? Is the affection from this girl in Mexico City or Manila worth the headaches of being with her? (and learning her language, usually means she has additional thoughts to express to you - positive and negative - which affects you positive and negative)
Those are my general thoughts.