is not really applicable to gen z, it was more a gen x stuff
That's an interesting point,
@Skills.
Secret society is communicating to girls who like to hook up and party, or sneak out and have affairs away from their borefriends (old seduction name for "boyfriends"), that you are just like them, you also fool around and hook up, and do not want it getting out just like them; that you are on the level -- they can hook up with you and no one will ever know. Plus, you are in that environment, so you know how to take care of them sexually, in ways their borefriends and the other nice guy providers chasing after them do not and cannot even imagine exists.
With girls not really going out nearly as much, and people dating less in general, having sex less in general, having affairs less in general, and the social skills decline making all this subcommunication much less effective (she doesn't have the social skills to pick up on all the subtext of what you are saying), much of the secret society flies right over the average girl's head now, just like it flew over the heads of inexperienced girls decades ago.
The other side of it is there is not the kind of sexual double standard that was present decades ago. Partly that is how open everything is sexually... partly it is how cowed men have become; if some guy tries to shame a woman sexually, everyone just piles on and calls that guy a virgin incel.
Women used to gossip about their sex lives over Sunday brunch and try to keep their voices down. Now they just blast it out everywhere the same way men do -- louder even. Guys are afraid of being put on blast for talking about sexing women ("Misogynist!"). Girls have no such fear today.
Men in general used to have this "pure princess" idea about the girls they really liked 20 years ago. "Not my girl; she is not like that. She would never do such filthy things with a MAN!"
Whereas today it is mainstream for men to assume every girl is a nympho, they all have 20+ partners by age 25, every single one cheats, etc.
So if you are going up to a girl like, "Hey -- not me. I know how it is. We both know women like sex.
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She is just going to assume you got that off Reddit, TikTok, IG, X, etc., like every other guy who tries talking to her about that.
The Secret Society has become the Public Society.
(Which is not to say "Don't talk about sex." But it is a bit tone deaf now to be talking about it like you know some big secret the other guys don't know, which nowadays every guy knows, and actually assumes too far in the opposite direction.)
WEIRD POLARITY OBSERVATION: until circa 2010 or so, the "male default assumption" was "girls don't like sex, they only want relationships, most girls are good girls who only have sex in committed relationships, one-night stands are rare, female cheating is very, very rare." But then with the rise of red pill, by about 2020, the "male default assumption" had become "girl love sex with Chad, they want to get pumped by Chad, most girls are sluts for Chad who only make simps wait for sex, every girl has tons of one-night stands with Chad, female cheating is epidemic."
The earlier one was an extreme black-or-white position... but so is the current one.
That's the mainstream for you. It's either one extreme or another.
No nuance or accuracy for The Masses.
(It is also funny to me that the pre-2010 view is actually closer to today, with people hooking up less and having sex later and having few partners and divorcing/cheating less, whereas the post-2020 view is actually closer to the past. So, so weird.)
Chase
