What's going on.
Wanted to use this being a journal and jot some notes down. Unfortunately work has taken precedent over the task last week. Went grocery shopping thursday thinking I could complete it then but the whole area around me is just dead. Didn't want to just lame out and ask the clerks how their day was going (did it with one) with me only seeing one attractive female after coming out of the store. So planned doing the task next tuesday or wednesday keeping in mind that late morning wasn't a good time to go hunting. A field report of sorts will follow with some observations I wanted to explore.
Met up with a few acquaintances yesterday. Drank at one of their houses, went to a bar and finally into a club. Originally planned to complete the task then but got so hammered that I just let myself have fun. Wore proper earrings for the first time and looking in the mirror for the first time wearing them was pretty jarring because they were leaning far on the feminine side, but I liked the idea of wearing em and thought they were perfect peacocking material for my more classy sense of style. Also wore a pretty extroverted shirt I love, got complimented for both which was nice.
Acquaintances planned to leave at 3 am so I said my goodbyes early and went to a different floor that fit my musical tastes more.
Was just vibing, really high energy which together with the fact that I was probably dressed better than 95% of the men resulted in a girl telling me how pretty I was. I smiled, hugged her back a bit and continued. Had a 3 set with a girl I danced with come back later saying they had missed me.
Later girl that complimented me gave me her phone with the Instagram search open. Laughed and said "I don't have Insta sweetie" to which she asked me why that was when I was so pretty. Gave her my phone and let her enter her number, which she did including her full name. Wrote her a message on WhatsApp, gave her a kiss on the cheek and left.
On the way home I realized I probably could have pulled her, but I was sleepy af, drunk and she wasn't that hot, I just liked her energy. Being further in my pick-up journey I imagine I would have pulled her automatically, just because it would have been easier than not doing so.
A couple things I have learned from this.
1) Gaming drunk would be both way easier and way harder. I loose way to many filters when (super) drunk, talking unattractive stuff and sometimes just mumbling my thoughts aloud. Easier in the way that it obviously gets me loose and less inside my head, which I have massive problems with. It is like my smooth self gets out when I am (lightly) drunk because the constant introspection I have going on finally stops. In day-to-day life I filter myself constantly, sometimes stumbling over my words, always with a second voice inside my head distracting me from forming sentences. Drunk I am in the moment, bolder. I don't want to rely on alcohol like a chump however, plus it would be really pricy. Wasn't yesterday because I constantly had drinks handed to me, but the entrance fee already was on the high side for me. I want neither the extra costs nor the reliance on a substance to game properly. It also worsens my strategizing ability.
2) Being high energy helps immensely with opening up other groups. Everything about me yesterday screamed non-needy extrovert on the dance floor and who doesn't want the fun person to be around. I just loving dancing in general, so maybe I should frequent clubs rather than bars to keep my energy high?
3) Giving value like the girl did instantly made me believe her to be an amazing person. Now I know we both were drunk, but it was super helpful to see this in person happening to myself. Definitely will look to eliminate my unattractive behaviour and remodeling my interactions to be that positive.
What I probably could have done better was interact with her a bit more after her giving me the number. As it stands I wouldn't be surprised if it's a flake, her being disappointed I didn't pull her, me leaving early, I'd get it. If not, maybe I'll even invite her out somewhere, get the first date experience out the way. Maybe she is a boon to my social life, with her looking as extroverted as she was. I wouldn't mind getting invited to a few extra parties or smth. If you read till here I thank you, though this was probably more for me than for you. Maybe you have managed to learn something anyway.
Cheers!