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Metered retaliation when people are feeding you shit is how people test each other. It's like when puppies play bite each other to practice fighting. The little nips establishes the pecking order, and if you go to either extreme, by remaining silent, or by going nuclear overreacting, you are communicating that you are an imbalanced male unable to cope with minor stresses of life.
It's an imperfect test given by imperfect people, but it's a game that's been with us for the last 250 thousand years, and though philosophy and ideology like in the Bible tries to discourage it, it persists because it's in our DNA, especially females. So you must play, your directive to ignore them with an icy stare is an invitation for them to crank up the heat on you. Acting like nothing is wrong only works if you are several stations above them in the hierarchy of value. For example someone working at mcdonalds living hand to mouth shit-testing a deca millionaire while at a dinner outing.
I like it when people misread me and try the shit tests, it's a relief and releases tension in the room because I'm better at it then they are. If you're prepared to outwit them at these games where you harm others using words or totally legal actions then the situation never arises again because people can read it in your body language, the muscles you use to hold yourself while sitting or standing. Holding frame and smiling only works when you're very high above them, or they're so dysfunctional in the head, that their disapproval is a compliment.
It's a very complex equation, supposing you are target weight and looking good, and a morbidly obese woman shit tests you acting high above you when they're not, making you feel small, and you over-retaliate by saying: "You are 150 pounds overweight and are only desirable to the bottom 3% of men and your friends keep you around to make them look better in comparison." That makes you the bad guy when she gets totally offended and storms off with the other hotties keeping her around. The game is not so simple as you suppose. It's like offense and defense in chess, too much of one or the other puts you at a huge disadvantage to winning. It's striking the perfect balance that is so difficult, that evolution is trying to select for.
So in the grand scheme of things, everything is running perfectly. You are being put into a deathmatch of wits, and what shakes out is the social pecking order hierarchy. Refusing to play puts you in the lowest position regardless of your merit. These games are a silly sub-quest though, don't wrestle too much with pigs in shit, you get stuck there at their low-station, the pigs love every minute of it and pull you back in when you try to resume growth, and the skills you create are only those that cut people down, rather than build them up. But you must conquer this game if you are to rise in the ranks of the tall office buildings in big cities. Not everyone is smart enough to play it well enough to win.
I've been reading Chase's posts about not climbing and building up those around you. But from a social climber's point of view, they try to talk down to you or disrespect you for a little bit of social status boost. If I don't respond, I also lose the game.
How can I not be a social climber when everyone around me is a social climber?
It's an imperfect test given by imperfect people, but it's a game that's been with us for the last 250 thousand years, and though philosophy and ideology like in the Bible tries to discourage it, it persists because it's in our DNA, especially females. So you must play, your directive to ignore them with an icy stare is an invitation for them to crank up the heat on you. Acting like nothing is wrong only works if you are several stations above them in the hierarchy of value. For example someone working at mcdonalds living hand to mouth shit-testing a deca millionaire while at a dinner outing.
I like it when people misread me and try the shit tests, it's a relief and releases tension in the room because I'm better at it then they are. If you're prepared to outwit them at these games where you harm others using words or totally legal actions then the situation never arises again because people can read it in your body language, the muscles you use to hold yourself while sitting or standing. Holding frame and smiling only works when you're very high above them, or they're so dysfunctional in the head, that their disapproval is a compliment.
It's a very complex equation, supposing you are target weight and looking good, and a morbidly obese woman shit tests you acting high above you when they're not, making you feel small, and you over-retaliate by saying: "You are 150 pounds overweight and are only desirable to the bottom 3% of men and your friends keep you around to make them look better in comparison." That makes you the bad guy when she gets totally offended and storms off with the other hotties keeping her around. The game is not so simple as you suppose. It's like offense and defense in chess, too much of one or the other puts you at a huge disadvantage to winning. It's striking the perfect balance that is so difficult, that evolution is trying to select for.
So in the grand scheme of things, everything is running perfectly. You are being put into a deathmatch of wits, and what shakes out is the social pecking order hierarchy. Refusing to play puts you in the lowest position regardless of your merit. These games are a silly sub-quest though, don't wrestle too much with pigs in shit, you get stuck there at their low-station, the pigs love every minute of it and pull you back in when you try to resume growth, and the skills you create are only those that cut people down, rather than build them up. But you must conquer this game if you are to rise in the ranks of the tall office buildings in big cities. Not everyone is smart enough to play it well enough to win.
I've been reading Chase's posts about not climbing and building up those around you. But from a social climber's point of view, they try to talk down to you or disrespect you for a little bit of social status boost. If I don't respond, I also lose the game.
How can I not be a social climber when everyone around me is a social climber?