"I'll never be able to see you"

[PaulieFlyn10]

Hey guys, how's it going

Pretty fucked up that my first post after a while is a problem I encountered given that I have some LRs lined up plus some posts I'd like discussed...


But this issue is pretty recent and I don't want things to get stale.


So I met a girl on Friday and we went on a date on Sunday. The vibe was amazing, sexual and pretty fun. However, one thing I did notice about is that she jokingly/playfully said she'll "stress me" or "frustrate me" While being very compliant. She's a sweet girl and I could tell she really liked me. I didn't seal the deal due to logistics issue plus her having to get ready for a class(this is true btw and she didn't lie about it)

After the date, I told her to call me when she gets home. She did and we chatted for a bit then told her we'll talk later

Didn't call or text for like 5 days cuz I was busy. Then I call her at night. Here's how part of the call went

Me: Hey it's been a while

Her: Oh you realize it's been a while huh (in a disappointed tone)

Me: Been busy with lectures and stuff

Her: well that's not really excuse tho

Me: anyways, I'd be coming around your area and I have some good news for you so you'd probably come out and we can talk a bit

Her: I won't come out

At this point I'm stunned cuz I could tell from our date that she really liked me so this new attitude was strange.

Regardless, I show up around her area and tell her I'm around and she says she won't come out to see me in a very cold way like I offended her.

So I asked why she's sounding like I offended her... she was like "oh so you don't know" then she said she's busy and can't come see me still sounding angry

I have tests coming up and this was the last thing I needed so I just told her we'll talk later and bye.

As I was leaving I decided to call again and try again. This time she was even colder lol... and hit me with "I'll never be able to see you" Then she added that I can tell her the good news over the phone cuz I wanted to tell her in person.

At this point, I just told her never mind and good bye.


Now I have a female friend I'm tight with I asked and she basically said the girl felt I don't take her serious. I was suspecting that but I don't think that's enough for her to act that way.

So I decided to ask for your opinion. Why do you think she acted that way? And what's the best way to handle it? Give it a few days and send a text?

 

[Will_V]

Lol you didn't have sex, only saw her once and she thinks there's 'no excuse' for not calling? She's playing games, and even gave you a heads up at the start.

I would simply not take her seriously, tease her a bit and lightheartedly call it out. She'll likely chill out when she sees it's not working.

Female opinions can be useful sometimes but they never take into account a girl just acting silly. OK maybe she wanted to be taken more seriously, but her approach is immature and comical.

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

Lol you didn't have sex, only saw her once and she thinks there's 'no excuse' for not calling? She's playing games, and even gave you a heads up at the start.

I would simply not take her seriously, tease her a bit and lightheartedly call it out. She'll likely chill out when she sees it's not working.

Female opinions can be useful sometimes but they never take into account a girl just acting silly. OK maybe she wanted to be taken more seriously, but her approach is immature and comical.

Thanks for the reply.

She definitely is immature. She's 19. Went to an all girls high school and her first time in Uni.

And yh, she definitely likes playing games. Will follow your idea of not taking her seriously and teasing her.

Cuz rn I've got a lot on my plate and i just feel like not contacting her till I bump into her again which I definitely will next week, since our lecture halls are pretty close by

 

[Gladiator]

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Thanks for the reply.

She definitely is immature. She's 19. Went to an all girls high school and her first time in Uni.

And yh, she definitely likes playing games. Will follow your idea of not taking her seriously and teasing her.

Cuz rn I've got a lot on my plate and i just feel like not contacting her till I bump into her again which I definitely will next week, since our lecture halls are pretty close by

@Will_V is right but I'm going off on a tangent and might be leaning a bit towards the girl's behavior based on what you did.

So, as I understand you went on a date and it was clear to her that you both wanted to bang. What was the reason you called her out of the blue to meetup in her area? You do that with your buddies to just "catch-up" and exchange pleasantries especially to share that good news instead of just meeting her. I don't know what you wanted to do with that?! She might've thought the same.. wait.. is he friend-zoning me? Or he wants to come to my place? What does he want? etc etc

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

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@Will_V is right but I'm going off on a tangent and might be leaning a bit towards the girl's behavior based on what you did.

So, as I understand you went on a date and it was clear to her that you both wanted to bang. What was the reason you called her out of the blue to meetup in her area? You do that with your buddies to just "catch-up" and exchange pleasantries especially to share that good news instead of just meeting her. I don't know what you wanted to do with that?! She might've thought the same.. wait.. is he friend-zoning me? Or he wants to come to my place? What does he want? etc etc

I see... interesting take. Thanks man

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

@Skills @Chase @TomInHo

Do you mind chiming in. Would love to hear your thoughts

 

[Skills]

@Skills @Chase @TomInHo

Do you mind chiming in. Would love to hear your thoughts

Well is simple you had a good connection with the girl, she got all exited about you, and you let her down by not contacting her in 5 days,...

So from excitement she went to disappointed(she got midly hurt by the way and try to move on aka auto rejecting)..... Anyways, i recommend you do a strategic type position weakness on the 5 day lack of contact, and learn how to ping so you dont go 5 days without contacting a girl, cause you lose momentum specially if you have not fuck 3 times... now during dating women are looking for ways to disqualify you and your not contacting her shows her you are not reliable to be trusted sub, and if you get together is a preview of how it will be, so check mark in the i don't want this dude red flag...

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

Well is simple you had a good connection with the girl, she got all exited about you, and you let her down by not contacting her in 5 days,...

So from excitement she went to disappointed(she got midly hurt by the way and try to move on aka auto rejecting)..... Anyways, i recommend you do a strategic type position weakness on the 5 day lack of contact, and learn how to ping so you dont go 5 days without contacting a girl, cause you lose momentum specially if you have not fuck 3 times... now during dating women are looking for ways to disqualify you and your not contacting her shows her you are not reliable to be trusted sub, and if you get together is a preview of how it will be, so check mark in the i don't want this dude red flag...

Thanks a lot. Appreciate the help... the strategic type position text feels it could work. Will try it out

 

[PaulieFlyn10]

Minor update guys:

She uploads a 3 sec video on her whatsapp status of her thighs and legs only showing a bit while sitting with the caption:

"Sadly, you can't see me unless I want you to see me!!"


Lol . Quite comical

Anyways, does this change, shift or reassure your perspectives on things?

@Will_V @Skills @Gladiator

 

[Gladiator]

She's definitely a nutcase and an attention hoe but she's invested in you. Unless you're sure you don't become too invested in her, you can just play the game for fun. Fractionation works the best for such kind of chics. Once you bring her out 1:1 with you, she'll be a putty in your hands but she'll keep playing silly games over text. So, send very minimal investment pings to keep her invested in you.

For that story, I'd do one of 2 things:
1. Send a very very minimal investment response with one of these emojis: 🐿
These are obvious and to get a response
2. Or if you want to mess with her head a bit and make her think what you meant, send something which is completely not relevant like one of these or anything silly: