Hi I need an advice about this
We met when she was a regular at the restaurant where I worked. She is 10 years older than me. Im in 20's , she is in 30's .On my birthday she surprised me with a generous gift, and that evening we talked and felt a spark.
A few nights later we met up in a bar, kissed passionately, and everything felt right. In the weeks that followed, we went on dates, shared romantic dinners, and even spent long nights together—candlelit table, movies, heartfelt conversations. But we never were in exclusive relationship. She asked me once if we are heading in relationship, and I said it was early .
She told me she’d never felt so safe or seen, and one night shared that her own partner had never done something so thoughtful for her.
We became very close quickly, sharing laughter, tears, and intimacy. Then life got complicated: she was finalizing a divorce, she has a one kid and navigating through family stress with ex husband and coping with past trauma. She leaned on me for support, and I did my best to be there. After some time, she told me she didn’t have the energy to date anyone right now and asked to just be friends.
Since that moment, it been 2 months, we’ve kept things friendly—occasional texts, a relaxed lunch where she said she enjoyed the free day, and light check-ins every ten days or so. But the romantic spark has faded. I dont want to be friends with her, I care for her but ai wanted something romantic . So I was planning to send a boundary
"Hey,
I care about you a lot and what we had meant a world to me.
But I’ve realized I can’t just stay friends. It wouldn’t be honest to either of us, and I need to step back so I can focus on building my own life right now.
I hope you understand, and maybe one day we’ll reconnect if it’s meant to be. ”
Would you let this go and can it be reconeccted in future again with her or you would do something else now
We met when she was a regular at the restaurant where I worked. She is 10 years older than me. Im in 20's , she is in 30's .On my birthday she surprised me with a generous gift, and that evening we talked and felt a spark.
A few nights later we met up in a bar, kissed passionately, and everything felt right. In the weeks that followed, we went on dates, shared romantic dinners, and even spent long nights together—candlelit table, movies, heartfelt conversations. But we never were in exclusive relationship. She asked me once if we are heading in relationship, and I said it was early .
She told me she’d never felt so safe or seen, and one night shared that her own partner had never done something so thoughtful for her.
We became very close quickly, sharing laughter, tears, and intimacy. Then life got complicated: she was finalizing a divorce, she has a one kid and navigating through family stress with ex husband and coping with past trauma. She leaned on me for support, and I did my best to be there. After some time, she told me she didn’t have the energy to date anyone right now and asked to just be friends.
Since that moment, it been 2 months, we’ve kept things friendly—occasional texts, a relaxed lunch where she said she enjoyed the free day, and light check-ins every ten days or so. But the romantic spark has faded. I dont want to be friends with her, I care for her but ai wanted something romantic . So I was planning to send a boundary
"Hey,
I care about you a lot and what we had meant a world to me.
But I’ve realized I can’t just stay friends. It wouldn’t be honest to either of us, and I need to step back so I can focus on building my own life right now.
I hope you understand, and maybe one day we’ll reconnect if it’s meant to be. ”
Would you let this go and can it be reconeccted in future again with her or you would do something else now
