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I've been experimenting with indirect openers and pre-openers, and I've found that they are working nicely. The problem is that I often won't have something to say right away, and then waste time.
Anyone else run into this? What do I do, just work on improving my improv and spontaneity? I think improving other areas of my life is helping me do this, by giving me more confidence.
I also am starting to see the importance of structuring direct openers better. In one of Chase's recent articles (maybe a few months old now), he mentioned how many direct day gamers will open with "hey I thought you were cute so I wanted to say hi". This is kind of jarring to girls and doesn't start things off well.
If instead you structure it more like "Hey, I saw you walk by and.... I had to tell you something... You have blah blah"
I'm wondering what other variations on this structure could work besides the above. Any thoughts?
P.S.
Was at the gym today, and I had nothing to say to two cuties there. I don't want to keep being a bitch about this. I can tell part of the strength of the opener is having confidence in holding the conversation. I put my all into the gym and work, and I wonder if that's sapping my energy for game.
Anyone else run into this? What do I do, just work on improving my improv and spontaneity? I think improving other areas of my life is helping me do this, by giving me more confidence.
I also am starting to see the importance of structuring direct openers better. In one of Chase's recent articles (maybe a few months old now), he mentioned how many direct day gamers will open with "hey I thought you were cute so I wanted to say hi". This is kind of jarring to girls and doesn't start things off well.
If instead you structure it more like "Hey, I saw you walk by and.... I had to tell you something... You have blah blah"
I'm wondering what other variations on this structure could work besides the above. Any thoughts?
P.S.
Was at the gym today, and I had nothing to say to two cuties there. I don't want to keep being a bitch about this. I can tell part of the strength of the opener is having confidence in holding the conversation. I put my all into the gym and work, and I wonder if that's sapping my energy for game.