Inexperienced girl and moving too fast

[Anonymous]

Looking for some advice here.

Went on a date recently with a 'one-itis' girl, who I've known sporadically through classes for almost a year.

Date went pretty well, the conversation was light and fun, managed to get a few 'subtle' and 'implied' innuendos and chase frames in there, but due to circumstances only got as far physically as holding her hand for a while whilst walking (forced to sit at a distance due to my 'quiet' cocktail bar escalation location being unexpectedly busy, and lack of reciprocation on her part).

I invite her back to my place (quite persistently) and she refuses. In essence I believe I've been put into the potential boyfriend category. She's 19 and I'm pretty sure she's never dated anyone before - she said she's interested in me but has never done anything like this before and we're moving too fast. Also we share a lot of classes this semester and we are studying abroad together in the new year - she didn't want to make things awkward in case "things went badly". She told me I wasn't wasting my time, just moving too fast, but I'm not sure. I put the ball in her court by asking her to think about what we'd need to do to proceed.

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Now I know one-itis is a bad situation to be in, but just thought I'd throw it out to you guys: from your experience is there anything salvageable from this situation? In terms of inexperienced girls is moving slower (ie. 2 or 3 date process) necessary, or should I move on from this one. Please be as honest as you like.

 

[Thedoctor]

Vuro,

Check out this article:

https://www.girlschase.com/content/havin ... ounts-time

-John

 

[Nova]

Why are you holding her hands when you walk with her? Do you want to marry her? Did you give her an innocent little peck on the cheek as you said goodbye as well?

Until you get really good with women and know how to persist appropriately with an inexperienced girl and set her at ease it can be battle getting her to come with you. I think with regards to your current situation and how it turned out you could either just drop her a text asking when she's free and organise for her to come around to your place to to chill and make some food, or play a game of pool or some excuse like that, with the idea that you escalate and have sex with her. Or you could organise another date somewhere else and try to push from there. The second will give you a better hit rate, but if you can make the first work she will love you for it. I would ask her around, but I think it's probably safer for you to have a coffee with her somewhere, get chatting, set her at ease, make her laugh, maintain a good vibe, mention something that you have at your place that she should come and see or do and bring her back.