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Some recap about me: female, 28, virgin, has been going out alone a lot more to find a long-term relationship.
I need some input from experienced men here about what happened today.
I went to the local spa and I immediately got creepy vibes from a guy upon first seeing him and instinctively knew he was attracted. I ignored him and focused on swimming, then went outside where he circled me twice from different directions. He deliberately looked sideways each time, but the weird vibe stayed
Before entering the spa, I’d booked the pool and the sauna—my first time at a mixed non-textile sauna (meaning everyone is fully naked). I chose to do this to see how I’ll hold myself in such discomfort, being naked around strangers.
So to avoid the creepy guy, I went upstairs to the sauna and entered one with two women, who promptly left however. A minute later the guy arrives (!) and also enters the sauna I chose. My stress level is through the roof by now. Then he steps directly in front of me with a hand covering his dick, sprays some more water onto the bench and then sits right beside me.
I was very close to a freeze response. I stared straight ahead at the clock, not moving a muscle. After 15 mins my system was close to overheating so I left the sauna first, which meant he saw my rear fully naked but I needed to get out of the heat and drink some water. I went to the sauna bar, the workers give me water, and two minutes later I walk back to the changing room when I see the guy step out of the shower.
I put my bikini back on quickly, went downstairs to the pool and immediately looked for a woman to chat with. I clicked with a nice old lady and her grandkids, we had a long conversation, and I see the guy look down at the pool from the upstairs sauna balcony.
An hour later (8PM) I got out of the pool, bid the lady farewell, and five mins later he walks past me again.
At this point I felt a sliding door moment of choice. I’d actually planned to stay at the pool till 9PM, then go to the hotel bar and have a mocktail, maybe meet a man I’m attracted to. But now I felt like that’d be untrue. I was torn between, “You paid a lot of money for this pool + sauna experience. You wanted to mingle and maybe get to know a guy your age to click with, have a nice Sunday evening and drive back home late. Do you really want to let this creep ruin your plans??” and “Every woman who’s been raped had to choose between staying and leaving at some point. Are you really going to ignore your gut feeling??”
So I left and got back home safely.
What do you guys think?
Maybe he wouldn’t have done anything. But the deliberate entering the sauna I was in alone, stepping up to my face naked and sitting right next to me honestly disturbed me, aside from his whole following me around.
Some recap about me: female, 28, virgin, has been going out alone a lot more to find a long-term relationship.
I need some input from experienced men here about what happened today.
I went to the local spa and I immediately got creepy vibes from a guy upon first seeing him and instinctively knew he was attracted. I ignored him and focused on swimming, then went outside where he circled me twice from different directions. He deliberately looked sideways each time, but the weird vibe stayed
Before entering the spa, I’d booked the pool and the sauna—my first time at a mixed non-textile sauna (meaning everyone is fully naked). I chose to do this to see how I’ll hold myself in such discomfort, being naked around strangers.
So to avoid the creepy guy, I went upstairs to the sauna and entered one with two women, who promptly left however. A minute later the guy arrives (!) and also enters the sauna I chose. My stress level is through the roof by now. Then he steps directly in front of me with a hand covering his dick, sprays some more water onto the bench and then sits right beside me.
I was very close to a freeze response. I stared straight ahead at the clock, not moving a muscle. After 15 mins my system was close to overheating so I left the sauna first, which meant he saw my rear fully naked but I needed to get out of the heat and drink some water. I went to the sauna bar, the workers give me water, and two minutes later I walk back to the changing room when I see the guy step out of the shower.
I put my bikini back on quickly, went downstairs to the pool and immediately looked for a woman to chat with. I clicked with a nice old lady and her grandkids, we had a long conversation, and I see the guy look down at the pool from the upstairs sauna balcony.
An hour later (8PM) I got out of the pool, bid the lady farewell, and five mins later he walks past me again.
At this point I felt a sliding door moment of choice. I’d actually planned to stay at the pool till 9PM, then go to the hotel bar and have a mocktail, maybe meet a man I’m attracted to. But now I felt like that’d be untrue. I was torn between, “You paid a lot of money for this pool + sauna experience. You wanted to mingle and maybe get to know a guy your age to click with, have a nice Sunday evening and drive back home late. Do you really want to let this creep ruin your plans??” and “Every woman who’s been raped had to choose between staying and leaving at some point. Are you really going to ignore your gut feeling??”
So I left and got back home safely.
What do you guys think?
Maybe he wouldn’t have done anything. But the deliberate entering the sauna I was in alone, stepping up to my face naked and sitting right next to me honestly disturbed me, aside from his whole following me around.
