Invite Home One Girl Per Day for 30+ Days

[Grand Pooba]

This is to Journal my experience with Chase's Invite Home One Girl A Day for Thirty Days Assignment.

Start: Tuesday, January 22, 2019
End (Projected): Thursday, February 21, 2019 (unless delays)

The Rules:
1. It runs for 30 calendar days straight. No days off
2. You must invite one (1) girl to your home per day. She can be a girl you meet on the street, in a bar, coffee shop, or it can be a girl on a date with you
3. It has to be an immediate invite -- you're taking her home now (or in the next hour or so). It's an invite for her to come home "right now"
4. The girl must be one you have not slept with before, or, if you have slept with her, are nervous to invite home (maybe some girl you slept with once two years ago and now you think she wouldn't go home with you; or some girl you slept with on the last date but now think she just wants to be friends but you're going to go for it anyway)
5. This is an in-field only exercise. Online doesn't count. Though if you get an online girl to a date, or you have her meet you at your place, and you invite her up, that counts
6. Likewise, texting/calling girls over to your place does not count. However, if you get them to meet up with you, then go to your place, it counts

Caveat - If seeing a Regular Girl (mLTR, etc) one evening and I miss my invite, then:
1. I attempt to pull two different girls the next day to make up for the lost day.
2. Or, I make myself do some especially bold / uncomfortable pull attempt the next day as my makeup attempt.

Other Considerations:
1. I will not watch Porn.
2. I will not masturbate/ejaculate (unless with girl)
3. I will limit MJ use to CBD.

As my schedule is outrageously busy these days, I will try to post and log whenever I can. I will cover every day, but may make multiple posts in the same day to cover different days.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Here are some more qualifications for this assignment:

Going to the girl's place alone (i.e., it's not a party or you hanging with her + her roommates) counts. If you get to her place and her roommates are there, you've got to try to get her to a bedroom where it's just the two of you for it to count.

Getting her to a seduction location outside / in-public only counts if you try to have sex with her there; if you don't, still need to invite her home to get that day's credit.

How far along you are with the girl does not matter:
You can walk up to a cute girl on the street, talk to her for two minutes, then invite her home. That's fine.
Or you can take her on a thirty minute stroll with you and invite her home.
Or a two hour date, then invite.


Posts to start tonight!

 

[Ambiance]

This is a fantastic exercise. Greatly looking forward to seeing your results. Best of luck brudda

 

[Fuck This]

Good luck. it is an ambitious goal. What are you going to do to avoid oversaturating a particular venue ? Do you have a bunch of prospects already developed?

 

[Grand Pooba]

Tuesday January 22

Approaches: 13
Invites Home: 1
Result: Instant Date with Failed Date, Bounced to New Venue, Came Home with Her, Strong LMR caused by Timid Escalation

I went out at 6pm with the goal of approaching and propositioning girls on the street.

Approached 12 girls in about 40 minutes and failed with all. On this night my vibe was bad and nervous enough that no girl entertained me…. For anything!

Went to my local coffee shop and I saw that a girl whom I went on a failed date with in Dec 2018, and also ironically saw earlier in the day at the same coffee shop, was still sitting there working. Earlier in the day the coffee shop was empty except for her and a few people, but I was in a rush in the morning – I said hi, asked how her New Years vacation was, and then told her I had to run to a meeting but just wanted to say hello. Well, in the evening I decided to pull up next to her after I grabbed my wine and asked “is this seat taken?” She looked up and was surprised to see me, and I sat down next to her. Luckily it seemed she was actually still attracted to me, but because I had already gone on a failed date before I had some work to do. I took out my laptop and started to do work alongside her, but talked with her periodically.

I caught up on her travels and found out she went skiing the past weekend with a friend of hers who lived in San Diego and was visiting (male friend). It sounded like an ex-lover. We didn’t go too much into it, but I used the opportunity to start deep diving. Eventually she saw I got a wine and got one herself, then she stopped doing real work (so did I) and we started to talk about work and fun stuff. We started to connect very well.

My next move was to suggest we go grab drinks somewhere nearby, and I moved her to a bar down the street. By this point she was very engaged with me and was walking very close to me on the street, in my personal space. Her hand was hanging down by mine, so I grabbed it and held it like a couple, and she complied. We sat at the bar and I excused myself to go to the bathroom while I thought about next steps. Meanwhile I saw that her friend texted her and asked if she was free later, and she replied she thought he was busy. They were texting while I was in the bathroom.

When I came back I shifted the topic to relationships, and then sex talk. While I was delivering the 8 orgasms routine, she all of a sudden got very horny and started to be physical with me – she grabbed my arms and started to rub them. I in turn touched her back – but I didn’t realize that I was actually underinvesting in her here. She touched her legs to mine and kept touching me and rubbing my arms and holding them and caressing them.

It felt so good but I missed the point – she was really fucking horny.

We had already finished our food, at this point I was just waiting for her to finish her wine so we could get out of there and go home. This took about twenty minutes and I kept talking about football, relationships, and sex, and some other stuff. Once she finished I said let’s go, and we left.

Note: might have been better to tell her let’s go way sooner and forced her to drink her wine, or drank it for her. The point being – I want to get home ASAP too because I’m horny as well. Instead I took my time and was suave and smooth. Maybe this was a mistake.

On the walk home I invited her to join me for a glass of wine. I need to do more plausible deniability – like asking them if they like art and showing my art to women. She told me she’d come for thirty minutes but then has to go home. Once we got inside my building I kissed her for the first time – but pulled back quickly. She was so horny, but I didn’t realize how horny she was.

Once we got in my place she took off her shoes and toured around as I got water. As I gave her the water she grabbed me; I put it down and kissed her, and she immediately shoved her tongue down my throat.

At this point I should have escalated on her aggressively, but instead I decided to cool it and try to be smooth – and I slowed things way down. I kissed her passionately and caressed her ass and neck, and felt her body, but slowly and passionately and deliberately. She was moaning loudly but this was exactly the wrong move – I should have gone really fucking hard on her.

I moved us to the couch, then picked her up and threw her on the bed. She giggled when I threw her on the bed and kept moaning and making out with me.

I wasn’t hard, though, which was a problem. At some point while making out with me she felt my penis over my jeans and realized I wasn’t hard. At this point she started to LMR, hard, and talked about going home soon.

I flipped on our side and was warm, and caressed her and laughed, and kept trying to make out. She put her hand over my jeans again, but I was still limp. I had last cracked on porn the weekend before, which wasn’t good, so I think I was feeling very low sex drive. I got a little harder later, but it was maybe 25% hardness. She started to autoreject, and while she showed me her earrings and her birthmark behind her ear, and we laughed and chilled, this was overall very bad.

While I got the girl home, I completely botched the escalation and she either cooled off, or thought I didn’t find her attractive. Which is completely opposite of the truth – I thought she was really sexy, cool, and hot. Because I liked her, I didn’t take the risk of escalating hard and risking rejection.

I showed her some of my work before leaving, and my cameras. We walked out making out and holding hands, and she kissed me upon leaving. She knew I was going to Canada for work for the weekend, so when I texted her the next day and suggested we grab drinks when I get back, she wished me a great trip.

Fast forward to this week, I reached out to her again and this is how the text exchange went:

1/28
Me: Hey VV - how was your weekend...and your friend's visit/party?
Her: It was good. Yours?
Me: It was great - exhausted from the travel though!
Me: Let's get together this week - how's your schedule looking?
1/29
Her: Hey! I might be free to hang out. But just to be open with you, I’d be open to hanging out as friends
Me: Sure, that's totally fine with me VV . What evening works best for you?
1/30
Her: I could do tmr
Me: Cool, that works for me . I'll be home by 6:30. We can order some delivery if you're hungry too
Her: Let's find a restaurant nearby? Or we can just do a drink later

Here I was testing to see if she might have meant an FWB/FB frame when she said she's open to meeting as friends, but alas it seems like my lack of a good escalation cost me this girl.

I was super bummed about this on Tuesday January 29th; I really liked this girl, but it showed me what happens when I don’t risk rejection, and also what happens if a girl is really horny and I don’t get hard for her.

ED is a major cock-block, and that’s something I really have to fix in my life. This experience made me realize how important it is to close no matter what - I'll get rejected anyway, so might as well go for it as hard as I can. It also made me realize that I need to be rock hard and excited for a girl the moment she walks into my building - just her agreeing to come home with me means she has decided I'm sexy and wants to fuck me. At that moment, I need to stop thinking about game and just get out of my head and into sex mode.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Good luck. it is an ambitious goal. What are you going to do to avoid oversaturating a particular venue ? Do you have a bunch of prospects already developed?

FT- I'm not worried about oversaturating venues as I do Street DayGame during the days and evenings after work, and Night Game on the weekends in the same spots. As this is principally in NYC, there are plenty of venues and neighborhoods to choose from.

Quite a few women have responded well to date invites after the invite home. I still need to work on this, though.

 

[Científico]

This may sound like a silly question - but it has been damn cold in the northeast the past several days. Don't you think this will impact the success of this challenge due to women being less receptive to talking to you when its -10 C on the street? Don't you think you may be more successful doing this challenge in the spring or summer?

Let me know your thoughts - this is one of the reasons I've been psyching myself out from approaching last several days.

 

[Grand Pooba]

This may sound like a silly question - but it has been damn cold in the northeast the past several days. Don't you think this will impact the success of this challenge due to women being less receptive to talking to you when its -10 C on the street? Don't you think you may be more successful doing this challenge in the spring or summer?

Let me know your thoughts - this is one of the reasons I've been psyching myself out from approaching last several days.

You are correct, but that's also part of the challenge - remember the goal is simply to invite a woman home, and nothing else. A pull, a great interaction, etc is a bonus. The only point of this exercise is to bust a comfort zone, and to quickly gauge women's reactions when you try to invite a woman home every single day.
But as a matter of fact, I'm going to have to restart the game as I could not approach successfully yesterday without freezing my face off. I still approached, but I failed to invite a woman home.

I fully plan on doing this exercise in the Spring/Summer as well.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Wednesday January 23

Approaches: 6
Invites Home: 1
Result: Lots of Shit-Testing, Girl Declined Invite but Gave Phone Number, Discussed Date for Next Week

Tonight I met with a client that I coach on approaching and meeting women – and I decided to approach some girls on the way. While he was doing approached, I saw a girl walk by with a huge ass and had to try it. I stopped her and she started giving me a lot of shit about approaching girls on the street. By now I have realized that this is a shit test, and I staved off her concerns and reframed it around what she’s doing and who she is. This poor girl wouldn’t tell me anything about her, not even her name, so I started giving her shit about that and working with her frame to try to get to know her.

She was on the way to meet some friends for dinner, I propositioned that she drop her plans and come have some wine with me, and that I lived a few blocks down the street. Of course she didn't accept, so I downgraded that invite to a phone number instead, which she provided under the promise that I wouldn't be creepy in texting her. We laughed about guys sending dick pics and other weird texts, and after some more conversation we parted ways.

I was supposed to meet her on Monday this week but she flaked, and we're rescheduling for next week.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Thursday January 24

Approaches: 3
Invites Home: 1
Result: Picked up Girl at Airport, Slept in my Hotel Room, No Sex

Today was a really weird one - I was super busy at work in NYC and working from a combination of office and home, but I was also supposed to travel to Canada for work in the evening. My plan was to make use of the invite home at night after landing in Montreal, Canada. Unfortunately the plan got screwed up when I learned that my flight, which was supposed to land at 10:30pm, was now three hours late and would be landing at 1:30am.

Naturally this would mean that I should actually game in NYC instead, but I was super backed up with work and would need to work late anyway. I believe I did go approaching for half an hour, but for some reason there were no good targets.

Left for the airport at 10 and by the time I got there the flight was still late - it didn't leave until after midnight. By the time I landed in Montreal it was 1:15 and we still had to go through customs - I knew it would be like 2:30 or later when I'd get to my hotel. All the bars and clubs would close at 3, but it was also a freezing cold Thursday night.

On the way out of the airport there was no attractive person on my flight, and I didn't see anyone else at baggage claim that late. Options were running out.

Saw one cute blonde girl as I was walking out of the customs area and on to the curbside pickup in arrivals. She went to the info desk and started speaking French, and I noticed she wasn't wearing any jacket and had one semi-large bag. Ok, well here goes... I stood around and waited browsing my phone to see what she would do next. She stopped talking at the counter after a few minutes and went about twenty feet away to an automatic ticket dispenser for the bus. So she's taking the bus downtown, it seems. I walked over and asked her when the next bus is, and then if she's from around her. We started having a conversation and I learned that she lives in a city about two hours away in the French part of Quebec, and she just got back from a long trip to Costa Rica, and she lost all her stuff somewhere on her trip.

Oh boy.

So we talked some more, and then I told her that I just got in from New York, and I'm off to my hotel room, and that she should join me for a drink. She was shocked, and was initially saying no, but I told her my Uber is upstairs (it was) and that we should just go. She said something about taking the Uber with me and getting a drink at a bar nearby, and I said that's fine. She asked if it's a good idea and I said let's just go because she seems adventurous.

On the cab ride over I could sense a pretty strong sexuality in her; however I failed to arouse her enough to do what I really wanted to. The risk here was that this girl would just use me for a place to sleep for the night, so a lot of my game depended on how much I could arouse her at night. Unfortunately I failed here - I didn't talk about sexual frames enough on the 30 minute Uber ride, instead learning more about her trip. We did talk about how it's hard to have fun in a small town and how there's no anonymity, but what was missing was hard talk on hooking up, being discreet, anti-slut shaming, and feeling free; as well as talk about orgasms and sex.

So I did a poor job of leading the conversation, gotta work on this.

We got to my hotel by 2:45, because there was so much snow and ice on the road. With check-in and everything the bars were going to be closed. What was really unfortunate here was thus not having anything to drink - if she had drank a bit she might have felt more free, but none of us now had alcohol, the hotel bar was closed, and there was none in the room. So that was rough - she was pretty nervous when she got into my room, but we also hadn't broken the touch barrier yet. So, a lot of little mistakes here that cost this experience.

We slept in the same bed and I learned that she went on a spontaneous trip with a guy whom she had a horrible time with, it was so bad that he got all her stuff stolen and apparently she left and went her own way about halfway into the trip, just ditching him. I learned about this story, and I tried to be physical with her, but at this point it was too late - I think she was now more interested in just using me as a place to sleep for the night while she waited for the next bus which left sometime in the morning. She told me she didn't want to have sex and she just wanted to sleep.

At this point it was indifferent to me - it was 3:30am and I would need to wake up for work around 6 anyway (remember I was in town on a business trip, lol...), and had barely slept.

I tried to arouse her physically as she slept, and we spooned, but she wasn't in the mood and disconnected more and more over time. I tried kissing her and she deflected. I was too needy.

I got up at 6 and started working in the room while she slept, She left at 7am and I went to work at 7:30am. Anyway, still cool that I randomly picked up a cute blonde girl at the airport.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Friday January 25

Approaches: 6
Invites Home: 1
Outcome: Declined.

Went out in Ottawa Canada with a friend, night game at two different bars. Had some good sets but failed to move the girls. Went to McDonalds after the bars closed to try to do an end of the night pull instead.

Approached a set of girls at 3am while waiting for food (huge crowd of people drunk after the clubs closed), talked to them for fifteen minutes, and invited one home to have wine with me down the street. She declined and her friend just gave a blank disgusted look. The conversation ended soon after this.

This was honestly a really weak proposition, and I wasn’t expecting it to work, but I did this to “get it over with.” It wasn’t smooth, but at least I went for it. Honestly by this time I had worked a full 14 hour day, went out gaming for the whole night, and was tired - I just wanted to sleep.

But the truth is, I had a good set earlier in the night that I should have tried this with – they hooked my friend and I, and touched us and liked us, but we should have just moved them to the bar or something like that.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Saturday January 26

Approaches: 6
Invites Home: 1
Outcome: Declined.

Went out again in Ottawa with my friend and his wing, we did better tonight and had two two-sets who hooked, and one pair of girls whose boyfriends had broken up with them within the week. It was the perfect set of targets as they were both looking to come home with a man, and we knew it. Unfortunately we got wild carded when their friend from work happened to be at the venue as well and sat next to us, and then asked the girls how their breakups were going? This caused one of them to become extremely tense and then go to the bathroom with the friend. My girl, who was super horny, stayed with me for two minutes and then went to go check up on them too.

Very unfortunate.

There were no more sets at that bar, so instead I went home with my buddy and we were about to call it a night. Smoked some bud (yes I know I said I wouldn't) and then had an epiphany that I really just needed to invite someone home - so I took an Uber to the same McDonalds at around 2:30am and planned to invite home a girl at some point.

Unfortunately on this night the ratio was like 5 guys to 1 girl, so it made it exceedingly tough (plus this style of night game is certainly not my strength) - so I approached three sets of girls but could not hook them in enough to ask them out.

Finally I was about to give up and started walking out of McDonalds, and then saw a new target - a girl waiting in line by herself near the bathroom. I only noticed her because she looked my way as I walked by, and then again when I turned around and looked at her. I decided to approach her and asked how her night was going. It turned out she had just gotten off work at some Salon, wasn't drunk or out clubbing, and was just going to the bathroom before getting her Uber home. We talked for a bit and then since she was just going home, I invited her home to have some wine with me. It seemed like she was testing me, as she was flirting but also declined - she had a boyfriend and had work again at 7am the next morning. While I don't know if either of those is true, I persisted twice, she said no, and then I called it a night and walked home.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Sunday January 27

Approaches: 3
Invites Home: 1
Result: Phone number and Date

Again, I thought I was going to miss today. I was traveling from Canada back to NYC with a connection, and would get to my home airport at 10:30pm. This means that I’d only be able to approach in the airport, on the train home, or walking around the city after 11:45pm on a Sunday night. My gut would have been to go to Times Square.

I first approached a girl at the airport baggage claim. There was only one attractive girl waiting – and even on the approach I could tell she was Yellow-Red, only one step away from being a full on Red and walking away. I tried to converse with her but she was already nervous and not having it – the moment I asked what she’s doing after this, I effectively creeped her out and she found an excuse to walk away.

This experience was insightful because I got to learn how women auto-react when they need to find an excuse to get away from a guy – hers was that she saw her bag coming and she had to go get it. She moved towards the carousel, but the bag she went for was mine. LOL.

I left and approached a girl on the train platform, she said thanks and then ignored me.

Finally I approached a girl on the subway platform on the line to my house at 11:45pm. She hooked and responded warmly, telling me she’s getting off work at a bar and is brand new to the city. I invited her home for wine and she rejected that offer almost the same as the other girl, listing a random list of excuses as to why she couldn’t.

I backtracked on my request and suggested we grab coffee or drinks instead – and to that she responded warmly and gave me her number – and texted me back immediately that night.

So I didn’t get her home, but with this girl I actually had a date with her on Friday February 1.

This seems to be a pattern – you set a very high invite (like home) and then back down to the next level (a date) and girls will accept that excitedly. Ironically it seems like the hooks for the dates are equally stronger in this approach.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Monday January 28

Approaches: 4
Invites Home: 1
Result: Girl make a weird excuse and walked away

Today I was really sloppy – I just wanted to get the exercise over with to some level today, as I had tons of work to do this week, and also the date I was supposed to have with January 23rd girl flaked as she wanted to meet sooner in the day. I approached four girls total today, and three of those were in Day Game. I tried the invite home with the third girl – she was sitting at a coffee shop on the counter, and I sat two seats away from her. I wanted to talk to her earlier but she was busy working, then I noticed her leaving and putting on her clothes. I commented on this being a great place to people watch, and found out she was visiting for one month from Asia. We talked about living in New York a bit, and I heard she was about to go leave to meet a friend. It seemed like she was attracted to me, but I completely bungled up the delivery of my invite home.

“What are you doing right now?”
“I’m about to leave to go meet a friend on the East side”
“Well, do you like wine?”
“Umm…no” <laughing>
“Well…I live right there down the block, what do you say you come have some whiskey with me, or red wine, or beer? I’ve got all three”
“Umm….maybe next time” <Now she’s actually nervous>
“Oh, well….how about we grab coffee or drinks another time then?” <I mumbled this and it wasn’t smooth>
“Ummm….I’ve gotta go, maybe next time.”
“So, do you have a number?”
“Yes, next time”

Anyway, it was pretty god-awful delivery on my end. I actually didn’t even want this one to count because it was so bad, but alas I have too much work to spend another hour trying to invite another girl home. I did talk to the next girl who sat in her seat for like 30 minutes, but she turned out to be married halfway in the conversation, with her husband in the café elsewhere but not sitting with her.

This was a fail.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Tuesday January 29

Approaches: 5
Invites Home: 0
Result: Missed One Day

Did my usual 5 day game approaches per day but didn't invite any home. Today my vibe must have been really off as I didn't get a single hook or phone number.

Tonight I had plans with an mLTR, my only one at the moment. We met up at 6:45 and took a class at the gym. I wanted to go home with her and instead she proposed we go have dinner at a restaurant nearby, which we did. We spent the entire time catching up as I had not seen her in over a week (since Saturday January 19), and when I invited her home to spend the night with me she declined as she was tired and felt like I hadn't communicated with her enough in the time off. This was really annoying - I was really looking forward to having sex with her, but she wasn't into it.

I just went home frustrated and instead of going out to approach and invite home a girl, I took a break. So this means I'll have to restart this game.

It really made me question my sexual desires though - why am I keeping girlfriends if they won't sleep with me?

 

[Grand Pooba]

Wednesday January 30

Approaches: 4
Invites Home: 0
Result: Failed to invite a woman home.

The weather dropped like crazy today, it went to about 4F in the evening and everyone was freezing cold outside and walking very quickly. It made it quite difficult to game as I felt like I got frostbite in my face after just ten minutes of walking around. I made four approaches total and two girls hooked. The first girl that hooked was already going home - I should have just invited her home here but I got awkward and went for her number instead. While it seemed like she liked me, in the end my approach wasn't strong enough and she never texted back.

The next girl was also on the walk home, and I opened her and she hooked - and invited her to join me for coffee nearby and she declined as she had a boyfriend.

Still not an invite home. I tried two more approaches and they were both flops - after about 15 minutes I decided I had had enough and just called it quits.

I will restart the 30 days now starting from 1/31, so the projected end of the game is now 3/1.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Friday February 1

Approaches: 3
Invites Home: 1
Result: New challenge - invite home two women on Saturday February 2 including one woman from night time street game.

I couldn’t approach today and invite girls home, I really tried but it was too cold, like 10F outside and every girl was walking fast and in a hurry and sour-ish mood. All my approaches were short and the girls just wanted to leave quickly. So this was a skip day - I decided that I should challenge myself instead to inviting two girls home on Saturday. And as part of that, I would go nighttime street gaming around the clubs at 3:30-4:30am on Sunday morning (after Saturday night).

 

[Grand Pooba]

Saturday February 2

Approaches: 7
Invites Home: 2
Result: One decline and another harsh rejection.

Today was a study in both day game and also in night game - I tried to do both. It wasn't easy day gaming - for whatever reason it seems tougher to game on the weekends, and women are either closed off or spending time with their boyfriends/girlfriends and are paired up. I was out teaching my coaching client and made some approaches, but didn’t get any leads or numbers in that form, let alone getting the chance to invite a woman home.

Finally on the way back home I decided to make an approach on the subway, and the woman barely hooked but I went for the invite home anyway, just to get it done with. She said no, she has a boyfriend. Well, at least I tried anyway. It was a super, duper awkward one with an older woman. I didn’t do it properly, but never the less it was my attempt.

Then I went to bed for a few hours in the evening, and woke up at 3am to hit the streets. Time to explore some night street game, which is something I’m interested in. I just went to check out near the clubs as they closed, to see what they’re like. It was a fascinating atmosphere – lots of drunk girls, a lot of them still want to party it seems. Some leaving with guys, some drama, and some with friends. I tried approaching a couple of girls, and failed every single time. What I learned was that my vibe and energy was way too low, I need to be higher, and different, and in these situations it’s important to really move fast.

I lost faith in my approaches around 4:15am, and called it quits. By this point almost everyone had either paired up or dispersed. Lots of black guys with different kinds of girls – shows that being aggressive at night is really important.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Sunday February 3

Approaches: 2
Invites Home: 1
Result: Declined initially, traded numbers, stayed to talk more; proposed meeting for drinks later at night and she did not text back.

I walked around on Sunday in between some work and first approached a girl at the place I was having lunch. I noticed her look at me from outside on the street, and then she came in and sat near me in the food place. I was throwing out my food (at a Chipotle like place) and decided to just compliment her hair on the way out, then sit next to her. She liked my confidence, but I think she found me unattainable and I could see her start to autoreject. Granted, she was a little lower in quality than my usual (probably a 6-7) but it was a warm-up.

In the afternoon I went to get work done at my favorite coffee shop. Sat at the counter, some Asian girl with colored hair was reading a book next to me. She looked college young. I love these chicks, totally my type. I pointed to her ring and started a conversation. I learned she was just visiting for the weekend from Chicago, and was staying with a friend nearby.

She was apparently leaving town the following day, and was meeting up with friends later. I hooked her in, and even got to the part of starting to do light sex talk, and she was super hooked. She got really quiet and nervous, and then I backed off. Fractionation. Started talking about other stuff and then invited her home for wine. Obviously she would decline (even though she had an hour to kill) so I traded numbers, and suggested we grab drinks nearby after the Superbowl since she was in the neighborhood. She seemed down and agreed, so I thought I’d take a risk. We parted ways after a while of more talking, and she said it was nice to meet me. I knew she was attracted to me.

I texted her at around the start of the fourth quarter in the SuperBowl, she never replied. It was low probability that she would have met me, anyway – even though I knew she liked me and I got her horny, she wouldn’t be able to leave her friends to go home with a guy – too much risk to social frame.
Next time.

 

[Grand Pooba]

Monday February 4

Approaches: 8
Invites Home: 2
Result: Declined, got her number instead with plans to meet Thursday, girl texted later and told me she is seeing someone but wants to meet as just friends; Second girl came home and accepted invite, but I said something stupid after a first kiss that killed her self-esteem and she stormed out upset (because she liked me).

I realized today that vibe is everything – whether it be on a date, or on a first time meet, or during sex. Having had an amalgamation of failures over the past two weeks on dates and pick-ups, this is one of the major revelations. Women are actually very nervous when they meet a guy, but they’re also very excited. But, her excitement depends entirely on my vibe, and the better my vibe is throughout my time with her, the more she opens up to me.

Today I tested that by approaching about eight girls, of which six warmed up to me and five gave me numbers. That’s pretty incredible when you think about it – 8 approaches and 6 women responded well. It’s all because I calibrated my approach and vibe, and made it fun.

<In the end not too many of these women actually met up with me>

Today’s invite home was a girl at a coffee shop in the afternoon. I went to grab coffee at my local shop and get some work done. While waiting for the coffee, I noticed a girl on the bench and she gave me a warm look – I complimented her hair and sat next to her to talk to her. She was very interested, learned she was visiting from Portland to move to NYC. I love girls from Portland. Talked about this and other stuff for ten minutes, then I told her that she should come by and chat with me at home, as I had to go work. She declined but said she would love to see me later while she’s in town. We made plans for Thursday and she was excited. I spent another five minutes chatting and then left.

Later I texted her a Save my Number text, but got a long winded message about her having a guy she’s seeing and wanting to only meet as friends. I sent a long winded text reframing this, but she declined to meet after that unfortunately. In retrospect, maybe this would have been worth the risk – I have the ability to get girls horny anyway.

At night I had a blind date from online – trying out a new system that a friend recommended. Ran my usual process, incorporated sex talk. This girl said she knew what orgasm control was. I need to improve my vibe on delivery of this, it was too try hard. She seemed to like me anyway, and accepted coming home at the end of the date to look at art.

This girl was super nervous at home, even coming up the elevator. I knew she liked me, but I was moving fast here. LMR might be an issue. I took her on my roof and she walked around, then I sat her down and kissed her. She got nervous and asked me something that implied she was nervous; I said something stupid and she got really mad, accused me that I should always wait till after the first date to have sex, then stormed off and left.

I’m really thinking of switching entirely to a two-date model, as I think I’ll just do a lot better with that. I’m facing too much attainability issues, too much LMR, and girls aren’t sure if I really like them more than just for a night. So, it’s just way better to set time aside for another second date in the future.

Notes to add to Stack/Process at Home:
- Do NOT take girls on the roof unless they need to get comfortable and need excitement, till after sex.
- Always take off a girl’s coat when she’s at my place, be a gentleman. Helps my attainability.