Is this girl trying to manipulate me?

[gameboy]

She stood you up on purpose because you replied too late, once?!

This girl obviously likes to play games and fuck around with you

Sounds like a psycho bitch to me, I'd go hang out with healthier girls... but maybe you like the challenge

 

[Will_V]

@Kaida you're allowing girls' fickle nature to lead the interaction. By checking in all the time and not setting clear logistics you keep yourself attached to her without going anywhere until she loses interest.

When you set a date, even if it's not sure when it can go ahead, have her agree to a specific time and place, don't just be like "not today? OK I'll check in tomorrow" <a day passes> "Hey there!" that's being a follower.

So something along the lines of:

Her: "I might be free on <day>"
You: "OK cool, let's say you're free on <day>, how does X place at Y time sound"
Her: "Sounds good!"

That's how you lead. Right now you are not leading at all, she's taking you all over the shop except where you want to go.

With all this checking in, not leading, and not using banter to build up rapport, I bet these girls are sensing neediness while not really getting a feel for who you are, which is a recipe for ghosting.

 

[Kaida]

Yeah… some weird shit bruh

She just added me back and texted me another conversation:

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Her: OMG what happened?

Me: ?

Her: It said you unadded me last night
Her: Unless it was my phone

Me: it said u did me
Me: lol

Her: I’m sorry its my phone
Her: I apparently unadded 3 of my friends last night

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Lol I smell BS.

How her phone go to their profile, click the three dots, click remove friend, and click the confirmation to remove? To three different people? And she unadded me conveniently right when she was gonna say I should come.

Yeah, my phone has done similar stuff when its wet before, but I literally see it happen and know what it did. Yet she’s saying she didn’t even know her phone did that?

Yeah I’m not sure if she’s being genuine but she’s sure trying hard to get me to believe it.

I might try once more just to test if she’s for real but I’m definitely planning another meet / social event on top of it so I’m not just waiting like a jackass again. That’d be her last chance with me

What do you guys think? Anybody have a similar experience before

 

[topcat]

I might try once more just to test if she’s for real but I’m definitely planning another meet / social event on top of it so I’m not just waiting like a jackass again. That’d be her last chance with me

There’s no way you have options..

 

[Kaida]

I mean she looks like she’s gonna plan it all herself. I’m not gonna suggest it. And even If she does I’m gonna proceed as if shes already flaked, pleasant surprise if she doesn’t.

I dont see how thats acting like a guy without options. Thats just seeing if shes for real. If she doesn’t plan it herself shes not getting another ask from me lol.

Maybe her phone for real did backflips and unadded 3 people If its true or not either way she’ll have to work for it

 

[gameboy]

Yeah… some weird shit bruh

She just added me back and texted me another conversation:

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Her: OMG what happened?

Me: ?

Her: It said you unadded me last night
Her: Unless it was my phone

Me: it said u did me
Me: lol

Her: I’m sorry its my phone
Her: I apparently unadded 3 of my friends last night

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Lol I smell BS.

How her phone go to their profile, click the three dots, click remove friend, and click the confirmation to remove? To three different people? And she unadded me conveniently right when she was gonna say I should come.

Yeah, my phone has done similar stuff when its wet before, but I literally see it happen and know what it did. Yet she’s saying she didn’t even know her phone did that?

Yeah I’m not sure if she’s being genuine but she’s sure trying hard to get me to believe it.

What do you guys think? Anybody have a similar experience before

I had a psycho "friend" like that once. One day she unfriended me on Facebook (dont remember what happened but there was drama with this girl all the time).

Bit later she tells me her phone had been stolen and the thief undadded her friends on FB hahahaha yeah riiight

I was just like "whatever" and kept being friends with her, but really shouldnt have. She ended up dating one of my buddies and when they broke up it got really ugly. Like her texting me at 4am with some drama bullshit.

I cut her off eventually...

 

[Kaida]

I sent her a ball in her court message like so (and it seems to have worked):

Her: I’m sorry its my phone
Her: I apparently unadded 3 of my friends last night

Me: weird
Me: well, i think that’s 3 hangouts we planned that u had to rain check on.

I think i’ve made a good effort already lol

so next attempt is on you! ima focus on some business & social stuff in the meantime, but js lmk if u set smth up

Her: I gotcha, im going to try and make that effort I’ve just been a bit busy that’s my bad
Her: what school are you transferring to? (I just posted that I’m transferring somewhere)

Me: Prolly back to houston, havent decided tbh

Her: Yeah do what’s best for you fs
Her: I’’ll let yk when we can hang, we got script test tomorrow so I’ll be up studying till 1-2am after work

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Seems valid. Still dont believe the unadd story.

But like I said I’m not waiting for her (or any girl!) like that again lmao