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Howdy guys, I am curious if any of you have a consistent technique for when you are number closing and the gal says something around the lines of "well, I am kind of seeing someone. It's not serious but I don't think he'd like that"
Seems to come up from time to time, and I handle to varying degrees of success. But I have yet to have a consistent, solid technique.
Happened again today. Was hitting it off with a gal at the coffee shop. There was definitely chemistry, but she wad kind of on the go and I didn't have much time to really finesse the interaction to the best degree. When I went for her number that's the line she gave me. She said she didn't think he'd like it, and I wad like "he wouldn't, but you would" and she replied "yes but I want to be respectful" and I wad like "well I can grab it (her number) and we just won't have any expectations" she agreed but I could feel that my approach weakened her buy in.
Other times when girls have said "I don't know if that's a good idea (because she is "kind of" seeing someone) I have implied that she doesn't think its a good idea because she feels like she will lack self control (a bit of a chase frame, also pivots the frame to "its only a bad idea if you cant control yourself). This has been hit or miss.
I figure this usually comes up because something in the interaction prior to it didn't quite land, but could sometimes be at least a little bit of a genuine concern that she is expressing.
Her whole frame is a bit contradictory "it's not serious...but I don't think he'd like that". Its like, if it's not serious then what's it matter. But of course it could be a number of things. Like maybe she wants it to be serious but she can't lock him in. Or maybe he wants it to be serious but she is still uncertain on him. Or maybe she is just shit testing. and so on...
Obviously you don't want to appear that you are trying to convince her, but also you don't want to just brush this off.
What are your methods?
And anyway I did get 3 #s today out of 3 approaches. One of which was super strong. So over all I am okay with this one weaker number.
Seems to come up from time to time, and I handle to varying degrees of success. But I have yet to have a consistent, solid technique.
Happened again today. Was hitting it off with a gal at the coffee shop. There was definitely chemistry, but she wad kind of on the go and I didn't have much time to really finesse the interaction to the best degree. When I went for her number that's the line she gave me. She said she didn't think he'd like it, and I wad like "he wouldn't, but you would" and she replied "yes but I want to be respectful" and I wad like "well I can grab it (her number) and we just won't have any expectations" she agreed but I could feel that my approach weakened her buy in.
Other times when girls have said "I don't know if that's a good idea (because she is "kind of" seeing someone) I have implied that she doesn't think its a good idea because she feels like she will lack self control (a bit of a chase frame, also pivots the frame to "its only a bad idea if you cant control yourself). This has been hit or miss.
I figure this usually comes up because something in the interaction prior to it didn't quite land, but could sometimes be at least a little bit of a genuine concern that she is expressing.
Her whole frame is a bit contradictory "it's not serious...but I don't think he'd like that". Its like, if it's not serious then what's it matter. But of course it could be a number of things. Like maybe she wants it to be serious but she can't lock him in. Or maybe he wants it to be serious but she is still uncertain on him. Or maybe she is just shit testing. and so on...
Obviously you don't want to appear that you are trying to convince her, but also you don't want to just brush this off.
What are your methods?
And anyway I did get 3 #s today out of 3 approaches. One of which was super strong. So over all I am okay with this one weaker number.
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