FR// Meeting a waitress abroad but she brings a friend.
This happened a bit back while I was vacationing before moving here.
I visited my cousin in Europe and I ended up traveling to Spain just to take a mini vacation for myself. While traveling, I stopped by a restaurant by myself to eat. The restaurant was empty except me and this cute waitress.
We start talking and after a few pleasantries, we start talking as she brings out the food. It's mostly just her asking me what I''m doing in Spain, and we get to know each other. Turns out shes around 20, but owns her own clothing line, shows me her instagram, etc.
I compliment her and I also tell her I collect vintage clothing, etc And we start talking bout fashion a bit.
I try to foreshadow going vintage shopping in Spain. She agrees but also a bit hesitant.
As I keep eating, she gets new customers so she serves them and as I'm finishing up my food, I end up getting her contact number and say we should meet up.
She tells me she's on her period so want to give it a week (Idk) but says would love to.
As I leave, I text her
Me: Nice meeting you
Thanks for the company
Her: You too! Hope you have fun in Spain!
At this point I see it as her brushing me off and I left it at that. As I continue my trip, I see that she's watching all my ig stories and 'liking' em here and there.
So a few days later, I respond to one of her stories, and end up telling her we should get some food together.
Her: I wouldn't mind but would it be okay if I bring my friend?
Me: Sure! I would love to.
At this point, there's two things going through my head. One, she's unsure of me. Two, her friend wants to vet me.
I learn that she has a boyfriend, but still coming out to see me. I'm not really experienced in this, so I just go ahead with it to build referential points.
On the day of the meet up, we agree to meet at a nearby starbucks. She calls me via her IG, and we meet.
Right away, the friend takes charge and introduces herself, and the whole time we're hanging out, her friend is doing all the talking while the girl I want is a bit in the back ground not talking much but observing.
As we're getting coffee, food, and go around the streets her friend is asking me questions like where I'm from, and basically my life story.
After awhile, I start getting annoyed with the friend cause I can tell she's 'filtering me' for her friend.
While we're at a coffee shop, I go upstairs to take a leak and comeback down while they're ordering. Her friend comments
"Oh I thought we lost you! You just left without telling us where you're going".
And as we sit at a Starbucks table, I take a seat, her friend takes a seat to my right, and the girl takes a seat to her friend's right.
During this time she's asking questions like "How was the adjustment coming over to America? Was it hard learning English?"
And I tell her English wasn't that hard to learn, it was more of the cultural adjustment that was harder. She tells me a few stories about her, and how her and the girl met etc. How they're best friends, and grew up together.
Towards the end, it started getting awkward cause I think she could tell I was getting a bit annoyed with her friend.
I tried to talk to the girl, but her friend would find a way to kind of cut into the conversation to try to take over.
Anyways, in the end we part ways. Before I part way I hug her friend, and try to set up a one on one with the girl
"Do you wanna get some drinks sometime?" - to the girl
Her friend barges in "She's okay! but it was great to meet you!"
And I'm kind of like wtf, and just say our byes and leave.
The girl keeps watching my ig stories as I continue traveling throughout the Spain and so decided to text her one more time as a hail marry before I left a few days later, but never got a response.
I knew it wasn't gonna work but thought I'd give it a try anyway.
Anyway, there's a fail FR that happened not too long ago.
If anyone has any pointers on how to handle such situations, let me know!
