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"Haha, well, I didn't see anything but "Tallia's" ass before I opened her, so any signals that may have motivated me were purely intuitive, if there were any. Though, looking back, she did walk quite seductively (very big hip movements, which obviously accentuated her ass), but I don't know if that indicates actual sexuality (she may just be a flirt/club queen and like the attention). "

Apparently girls wiggle more when they're horny/ovulating. Seems to be relatively true so far as I can tell. ;)
 

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"Heavy sarcasm that drips from every word that escapes her mouth = sexual interest.The harder a girl tests, the more dominant a man she's looking for. Unless she was raised with crazy expectations, she has developed this screening process because of too many pansy boys failing to show a sense of humor."

Where was this advice 3 years ago? Damn. I missed out big time with this hot chick in my class doing this every time i talked to her. Wish i would've known back then...
 

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Eternity said:
"Heavy sarcasm that drips from every word that escapes her mouth = sexual interest.The harder a girl tests, the more dominant a man she's looking for. Unless she was raised with crazy expectations, she has developed this screening process because of too many pansy boys failing to show a sense of humor."

Where was this advice 3 years ago? Damn. I missed out big time with this hot chick in my class doing this every time i talked to her. Wish i would've known back then...

Literally just cold approached a girl with her friend next to her. When I suggested the date, she put on a skeptical face and look curiously up into the sky, saying "wellllllllll."

What did I do? I Mirrored her actions, struck a dramatic pose, put my hand under my chin and loudly mused "hmmm?" as if I was reconsidering the date proposition. She and her friend ate it up and laughed very hard. Obvious sexual experience, and since the shit test was passed, obvious sexual interest.

A girl I know texted me 10 minutes later telling me that I hit on her best friend; she reported that the girl I cold approached was very flattered and seemed interested. She's a gorgeous girl, so she has high expectations.

And I passed because fuck her, she can't outframe me.

For me, when a girl shittests me hard, I become instantly super-attracted, because the toughest bitches to get are the most rewarding.

Will to power, motherfuckers.

Don't mean to hijack your post, Marty! This should be a corollary of my earlier assertions ;)

P.S. I'm pretty drunk. St. Party's day, bros.
 

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You should explore the state university more, it seems to attract the professional types of girls who would be more receptive to you. As Americans we have a love for the Europeans and especially the British, if you have the British accent then that gives you some help. The university you describe with the girls there on their parents' money seems to be the kind that would attract your stereotypical shallow girls who are fake nice and the ones you would have problems with, from my experience these girls are chasing high status guys on their campus so I would try to avoid it going by what you describe.
 

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Great thread, Marty and everyone! I have nothing additional to add but did thoroughly enjoy reading and learning from all comments and replies.
 

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no im not back. franco pointed me to this and i will give my two cents. Based on what franco messeged me it seems you guys are talking about status and what not. As you all must have read I ROCKED my college campus to its core "see my college game post is the 2nd most popular post on this forum next to "why are you here?" STATUS MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ON A COLLEGE CAMPUS. sure being a big allstar football player helps but it is not needed.

ive seen some guys on here doing college game and they are doing it all wrong. Shotgun approaching girl after girl after girl *slaps forhead* this will ruin your goddamn reputation. if you are good enough like anatman appears to be it can help your abilities by pre selection. but again if the shotgun approaching continues and you get bad results on those approaches this advantage will quickly dwindle down any preselection. How you should go about college game is to select your target based on signals of interest and rely on situational opens and things I have outlined in my college game post.

Marty. I love you like a brother but you are an old man among children. (I mean no insult) you are going to have an extremely difficult time with college game no matter how much you up your fundementals. You are too old for a college campus. (Yes I know NJ has great results with younger girls but that is because NJ is NJ his type of game really only applies to and works wonders for him. And I am not going to go into details as to why it works for him so well and others not so much)

Now. College game. One thing that helps is dressing for the part. I myself always dressed like "a tool" I am muscular as shit (power lifter, soon to be competing) so I wear tight shirts that say things like "the empire lifts back" I wear oakly oilrig sunglasses and a black flat brim hat. Not going to lie I am quite attractive so women always respond very warm and openly to me. In college looks more so than fundementals mean EVERYTHING. its looks first. Fundementals second. I cant explain why college girls are like this they just are. So if you are not atleast average looking, young, and dress like a douche "your going to have a bad time". p.s dressing like "a tool" only really works if u have muscle so if college game is what u want hit the bench


College is a delicate ecosystem that you must run properly otherwise there will be choas. STATUS MEANS NOTHING. IT ALL COMES DOWN TO LOOKS AND FUNDEMENTALS.(i was a mystery on my campus. no frat. no clubs. only place u would find me is the weightroom. or some hot girls dorm)
being the mysterious kid who no one can pinpoint helps alot too
 

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Marty,

Drawing on things you've told me from previous talks, I know you are into women for "romance."

I'll be taking a different standpoint because even when you're able to pull undergrads, you won't get as much of the "romance" as you think... so for your purposes I'd consider undergrads to be a waste of your time.

A while ago, you posted this:

I'd never crack the jokes that Zphix does with such success, because that's not what I'm like and I wouldn't be able to pull it off.

I assume you were talking about my ability to combine sexual tension with playfulness, and truthfully, if you aren't able to pull of sex frames then college game is going to be hard for you. Women in their mid-20s are at the height of their sexual prime and are far more receptive to sexual tension, and sexual framing than any other time in their lives. In essence, you can approach them however you want but if you don't take things to a sexual route you'll get blown out of the water.

On actually approaching though because you're like Ali after '78, where you can still fight but you're not in your prime. Just as Ali had to change his approach to boxing to combat younger opponent's you should as well. Approaching direct is my preferred route, but it really only works when your age and the age of your targeted women aren't that different (within 5 years I'd say). Because going direct communicates non-platonic interest, girls under your age immediately think about the prospect of what you're expressing by going direct.

For you, it'd be much better to go indirect-direct (which I hate....), or go situational-direct (which I also use). With undergrad girls, you'll have to "have a reason" to talk to them in the first place (which sucks), and make it a situation where you two "stumbled into one another," then found a common interest in making lemon meringue pie =P

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I am going to disagree with T Vaunswa here as a student currently in college with lots of experience with college game. You see so many mismatches in college towns compared to elsewhere, I am talking fat guys with hot girlfriends making you wonder how they even got that lucky. Status probably matters more than looks IMO if we are talking college here in the US, so many frat boys who lack the looks manage to get the sorority dime pieces not even a lot of the prettyboys have a shot with. I don't doubt that looks matter but status and who you are known as on campus matters infinitely more. It is all about finding a crowd, being a part of it, and being active in that crowd. My friends throw parties at their place, neither of them are even above average looking, one is overweight/chubby and another one is short with a big nose and almost on his way to balding. Both of these guys see better results with girls than the guys I know who are good looking and some of which are modeling.

Guess it may also depend on what kind of college we are talking about here but looks are definitely not the most important because college girls are so cliquish and want the highest status guys. An average looking guy who is a part of a popular scene in college (in a good frat) is going to do much better with college girls than an investment banker with the looks of Christian Bale because the investment banker is still a "random". I understand T has had success so he has more credibility than I do but from my own two eyes in college I have seen so many mismatches of average and even below average looking guys with hot girls to think that looks are as important. If anything, I have known guys who did well in college, graduated, and then ended up with terrible love lives in the real world where they claimed their circle and fraternity did not help them as much.
 

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Sigh. Its not the STATUS itsself that leads to success. What do most of the high status guys have on campus??? they have confidence, an unwavering ability with women. and solid fundementals. You could be the big man at the frat house but if your confidance, fundementals and looks suck you are going to suck and the only hookups you are going to get is with drunk women. One of the reasons why I dislike frats. (been to alot of frat parties myself) its all about taking cialis. Getting wasted drunk. and seeing how many drunk girls you can take advantage of. (to me. Thats not my idea of success) to me. what equates success is cold approaching. going through the process. and making her yours. (notice day game is done without the addition of drugs or alcholhol which lowers inhibition.)

In essence what I am saying is that status only SLIGHTLY if not at all corrulates to success but the charector traits that come along with it. without FUNDEMENTALS and LOOKS. nothing will come out of your status except drunken hookups.

Clubs, and the like can help you increase your social circle, which increases the likely hood of meeting women but it is not going to be the end all deciding factor of what kind of girl you end up with.

FUNDEMENTALS AND LOOKS come first. worry about status last.
 

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Im going to have to agree with Vaunswa on this one.

At my school which has around 14k undergraduate there are so many people and so many different groups that there is not really any status that I have seen. Maybe in a puny school status may help but and is nice but it is hardly necessary.

I noticed as I dressed better, developed a sexy walk and wore a sultry smile on my face that I was getting a lot more eyes from women that I have ever gotten before. This has nothing to do with status for I am not a "high status" person. I am in a fraternity but other than providing a night time outlet on the weekends to meet women it has not really given me any huge boosts.

Truly Fundamentals and Looks are what matter and it is nice as this semester I have grasped my first casual relationship and in total have screwed two girls a 200% from last semester[last semester was 0 :( yay statistics]
 

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Decided to take a break from studying for my philosophy mid-term tonight to write some more here, on status.

In all my college game experience, as well as college game experience at both prestigious and low-quality campuses (because I visit friends within the state) I've got a few things to say about status.

It's easy to say that status correlates with getting laid, but it's actually not true.

What composes status? What qualities does a guy have who reaches superstar-dom on a college campus? The exact same qualities that a guy whose great with women already has.

Then when you look at people who join frats, when girls see a guy whose in a frat, they link up the idea of the new guy to the idea of the frat's connotation (superstar-dom). So, it would appear that status is what drives getting laid in college when in reality it's the qualities that compose the status.

Then, for guys who practice game outside of frats, they lose women not because they aren't in a frat, but because they generally have no idea how to get past some of the basic questions college girls ask?
-What frat are you in?
-Do you know XYZ..?
-Etc...

When they fail to answer these questions correctly, they lose the girl, and again it's not because of there status but it's because they just don't know how to progress with women.

Now, on to a real life example. If you want to compare solid game stats vs. frat game stats then I'll cite a few examples.

1) I'm in college, and I have 13 lays (within a year) under my belt, with 11 of those girls being college girls. (non frat game) vs. 6 lays within a year by the president of the frat at my friend Josh's college campus in Loyola where the ratio of girls to guys is 3:1.

2) My friend Matt who practiced non-frat game amassed 10 lays (and numerous more escalations) vs. 3 lays by my frat friend in Chicago at a campus where the ratio of girls to guys is 1.5:1

On average, a college man regardless of being in a frat or not will usually do about 4 new lays a year whereas a man who practices solid game can get as many lays as he wants.

So basically, having solid game is the backbone behind "perceived status" and is the actual backbone behind new lays. Solid game itself is composed of fundamentals.

Just chiming in ;)

-Richard
 

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Just to be perfectly clear, this thread was not intended to be about how to raise your status within the university community in order to get dates via social circle. It is about cold-approaching female university students, specifically undergraduates, and converting those cold-approaches into dates with the students—irrespective of whether the man doing the approaching is a current resident member of the university (like Anatman), an élite faculty member or official (like Quicknick), or someone who graduated long ago and far away (like me): as all that should be irrelevant in a cold-approach context. That said...

Ozzo: Glad you're enjoying the thread; I never guessed it would garner so much attention.

Tool: I'm so totally on the same page as you regarding the sunglasses. "Oil-rig" Oakley glasses sound baller. I have observed an increase in both my approach invitation and number-close rates (both on and off-campus) when wearing my Fila Alpine-piste sunglasses that I got at an unbeatable price in Marshall's. The only issue is that I generally remove them on the approach because I like to make eye-contact upon opening. How do you deal with this, Tool?

Also your decision to eschew fraternities and clubs in college, and focus instead on weights and the girls' bedrooms, piqued my interest in your personality—clearly very directed and achievement-oriented. And yeah I'm hitting the bench... I am not super-jacked, but a woman I had a date with yesterday told me: "I do find you sexy, you have a sexy body, it looks like you work out" which considering that women don't usually speak out that plainly, seemed to be quite encouraging to me.

Oh and shotgun... no I never do that, it would be totally incongruent with my style. I usually head to one venue, carry out one approach, head to a second venue, execute another approach, call it a day. Repeat next day and so forth ad nauseam. I'm not interested in developing a playboy reputation, fun though that might be :)

Anatman: It's not a hijack, it's a bump, which helps me because I get more sound advice from the boys. Thx.

Kenshin: Totally with you on the choice of venue. A super-attractive nursing student I opened a couple weeks back at the state university was giving off body language like she'd be ready to proceed, but she mentioned an extremely serious relationship. She had one of the happiest smiles I've ever seen resulting from a cold approach: glad to have put that on her pretty face. I'll keep exploring that campus. As for the private one, since I originally posted this thread, I've chatted to a couple more girls and got the impression that there are quite a few of the "cloistered, innocent" variety as opposed to the "nose-in-the-air" variety, so I'm becoming more positive and think I might have some fun with that. My goal for the time being is just to get a date with an undergraduate... that would be a nice step forward.

Thanks again to all for some extremely helpful input.

-Marty
 

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What I was precisely getting at is the amount of mismatches I see in terms of relationships on college campuses. I see frat boys without the looks out on dates with hot girls. Now maybe I am a poor judge of a man's looks but I can say which guys aren't good looking (more on this later as I will post a thread on it). When I said status matters I meant it in that sense, these frat boys are not just getting drunken hookups, most of them look average and get into relationships with girls above their league or dates with hot girls. I have known more than enough guys who were far from ugly, were outgoing, but still couldn't do well because they didn't have the social circle or the status to get the girls they wanted. Now this is turning into personal anecdotes and looks will always matter but I would go as far as to say they matter more after college than in college because of all the mismatches I see where the guy is uglier than the girl, frats exist for a reason.
 

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Well Kenshin you believe what you want to believe.

So go and try and grasp this status that allows these ugly frat guys to get hot girls and also take into account that once they as well as you graduate it will be useless.

Or you can work on yourself and that my friend is something you get to keep.
 

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Anatman,

Can you describe the "fratstar intellectual asshole who dresses like a GQ model" look/vibe in a little more detail? I think you do better with undergrads than practically anyone I've seen on this forum... wondering if I can gradually incorporate elements of that style in the coming weeks/months.

Interested to hear your description. And yes, your elucidation of the reactions you get from girls and what that says about their level of attraction was helpful and interesting, but it's something I'll probably save for later when I'm a bit further progressed.

Planning to hit the campus tomorrow lunchtime and see if I can crack this nut :) or at least get a feel for how hard it is ;)

-Marty
 

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Marty -
The only issue is that I generally remove them on the approach because I like to make eye-contact upon opening. How do you deal with this, Tool?
(Keep the sun glasses on ;) )

Also your decision to eschew fraternities and clubs in college, and focus instead on weights and the girls' bedrooms, piqued my interest in your personality—clearly very directed and achievement-oriented.
;)
 

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marty, from what i gathered from your original post i assumed you were looking for advice regarding approaching undergrads on 'neutral' ground if you like, as opposed to specifically college campus.

because there is a big difference between approaching a younger girl outside of 'campus' which is an artificially crafted environment constricted not by limiting beliefs that can be overcome but instead by hard fast rules and tight knit social groups where a girls reputation is on the spotlight and of paramount importance to maintain.

tools right when he describes the campus as a delicate eco system. almost too delicate for anybody outside certain parameters to manipulate.

i would say fuck campus, don't specifically make it your mission to pull girls there, instead stick with social settings and situations where a girl has more freedom and control over what she truly wants and isn't governed to such a great extent the decisions she makes.

then again, if you work hard enough on campus, maybe you crack it and gain access to a plethora of young chicks, who knows.

i think its just important to understand the difference that environment makes to your success.
 

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Very interesting post! Lot's of good reference points here. The two most important that I took away were:

1. Fundamentals and looks matter more than status.

2. You cannot generalize that a certain type of opener will work better in a certain type of environment (e.g., situational rules the day).

Like if a girl is about to walk past you, you aren't going to stop her and talk to her about how nice the weather is.
 

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This has gotten interesting...


Z Vaunswa said:
When they fail to answer these questions correctly, they lose the girl, and again it's not because of there status but it's because they just don't know how to progress with women.

Now, on to a real life example. If you want to compare solid game stats vs. frat game stats then I'll cite a few examples.

1) I'm in college, and I have 13 lays (within a year) under my belt, with 11 of those girls being college girls. (non frat game) vs. 6 lays within a year by the president of the frat at my friend Josh's college campus in Loyola where the ratio of girls to guys is 3:1.

2) My friend Matt who practiced non-frat game amassed 10 lays (and numerous more escalations) vs. 3 lays by my frat friend in Chicago at a campus where the ratio of girls to guys is 1.5:1

On average, a college man regardless of being in a frat or not will usually do about 4 new lays a year whereas a man who practices solid game can get as many lays as he wants.

So basically, having solid game is the backbone behind "perceived status" and is the actual backbone behind new lays. Solid game itself is composed of fundamentals.

Just chiming in ;)

-Richard

I agree with the fundamentals -> perceived status argument, obviously. But, we're talking simple math here. Your game + President status of a frat, and you backload your shit with authority, assertiveness, and popularity. I'm currently president of my fraternity and it's given me some ins and boosted attraction before.

Utilize social status in college by letting it come from others.

- I was talking to a girl at the gym and she asked me what frat I'm in (I baited her by inviting her to a fraternity party). The guy in our group conversation butted in once I revealed my fraternity, "Yeah, and he's president!" She looked up immediately and said "El presidente, huh?", giving me a seductive look.

- Upon meeting a lot of new people, they respond "Oh yeah, I know you. I hear your name come up a lot." I usually respond with a laugh and "Oh? Is that a good thing?" They usually just say "yeah! You're involved with a lot in this school."

If you don't have game it obviously won't do much for you, but it's male authority and it supercharges your game.

So status is not necessary, but it is very helpful. That president just isn't as good as you, Richard ;)

T Vaunswa said:
if you are good enough like anatman appears to be it can help your abilities by pre selection. but again if the shotgun approaching continues and you get bad results on those approaches this advantage will quickly dwindle down any preselection. How you should go about college game is to select your target based on signals of interest and rely on situational opens and things I have outlined in my college game post.

I'm still dealing with my reputation issues, but they have calmed down. A friend has notified me that several girls approached her about me, and she reported that so far I'm still in safe territory, but it could tip over into "he's that aggressive playboy; if you're talking to him, he's probably trying to fuck you" realm. My solution? Mix in some more indirect game and in super populated social situations play some shy game. It'll throw some curveballs to my critics and intrigue the curious.

That being said, if you're at a big school, cut your teeth with some direct day game. Don't go TOO crazy with it (space them out temporally and geographically), but don't be afraid of bad reputation, either. If you're at the intermediate/advanced level, have fun with it and see what happens.

So, I agree with Tool; it depends on your skill level.

Z Vaunswa said:
For you, it'd be much better to go indirect-direct (which I hate....), or go situational-direct (which I also use). With undergrad girls, you'll have to "have a reason" to talk to them in the first place (which sucks), and make it a situation where you two "stumbled into one another," then found a common interest in making lemon meringue pie =P


Marty, give it a few more tries implementing the knowledge you gain here. If you see no noticeable change in results, go with Richard's route.


Marty said:
Anatman,

Can you describe the "fratstar intellectual asshole who dresses like a GQ model" look/vibe in a little more detail? I think you do better with undergrads than practically anyone I've seen on this forum... wondering if I can gradually incorporate elements of that style in the coming weeks/months.

Interested to hear your description. And yes, your elucidation of the reactions you get from girls and what that says about their level of attraction was helpful and interesting, but it's something I'll probably save for later when I'm a bit further progressed.

Planning to hit the campus tomorrow lunchtime and see if I can crack this nut :) or at least get a feel for how hard it is ;)

-Marty

I appreciate the compliments, Marty! =D

"GQ Look"

The look is just anything classy/saavy like this. Or just look at any outfit that Express could put together.

Vibe

- The vibe is ultra sexual and super cocky.

Fratstar aspect

- You give girls a lot of "are you fucking stupid?" expressions (i.e., "skeptical" if you want to tone it down).

- You want to laugh at a lot, especially at things that nobody finds funny. I'm deeply fascinated by logic and laugh anytime someone commits a blatant fallacy - in class today I lost my shit when one guy was arguing against prostitution by appealing to feminist ideology (e.g., "patriarchy and the aggressive male sex drive should be tempered"). No one else laughed, but I got some looks of intrigue. They wonder "what does that guy know that I don't?"

- Related to this, you also make people laugh a lot. When I was still a fucking dweeb, I was always the class clown (up until late high school), so comedy is a specialty of mine. Edge out "clown" with "sexy" and "cocky" and you become "that cocky asshole who will probably tease me all night, but I still want to fuck him."

- Make sure most of your humor is sexual (I went back and forth with a girl last night who has a boyfriend for like 10 minutes. Never once did I seem creepy and she even consented to me slapping her ass; I even joked that me and her boyfriend should double team her). If you want the master of this, you need no one but the magnificent Tucker Max. If you've never read his material (he labeled the genre "fratire"), then you should. He's one of my heroes and probably my primary influence in breaking out of my shy shell in high school.

Intellectual

- The intellectual Byronic characteristic then softens that "I shouldn't like him" notion lots of girls get when you inevitably dip into jerk territory.

- It also enables you to deep dive well, because, you think about shit a lot. You have responses for pretty much any issue, thus you can relate to anyone (rather than game that is suited for specific niches). It gives you depth (let this characteristic come out slowly and only if she deserves it).

E.g., I gave a persuasive speech in class today entitled "You Should Try A Non-Monogamous Relationship For 3 Months" (which I'll be posting the Powerpoint for shortly). Everyone loved it and a girl even complimented me after class, saying "You know, I thought you were gonna half-ass it and just make fun of everyone, but you made some really good points." She then chased me and continued to compliment. I'm thinking of fucking her ;) She's like a 7 and already knows what I'm about, so it should be easy.

E.g., in that same class, when I challenged the guy speaking about why prostitution should remain illegal, I whipped out some neuroscience, inductive logic (causation vs correlation), and knowledge of feminist criticism (which I lambasted. I've studied it A LOT).

Combine all of this with a calm mind that can ignite at any second with fratlike behavior (e.g., yelling and "bro-ing" out occasionally), and you have a deadly fucking combination (right now I'm still trying to regain some of the asshole-edge I lost while I was cultivating warmth and vulnerability).


Hope this helps, Marty! It will definitely increase your success rates with undergrads.
 
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