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Given that there are probably a few guys, including myself, that have started to resort to texting as a means to either a) maintain a girl(s) or b) establish a new connection with a girl. I thought it would be a good idea to start a thread with some tips and examples of how to rethink our text game for the long term, rather than the typical aloof build-up then meet style.
A friend of mine, who is very emotionally tuned with girls, is amazing at texting. Even after things end with a girl, he is still in contact with them and has them frequently getting back in touch with him. Initially, I thought that maybe it was because he was such a good lover to them, but then having had many of my own experiences as a lover with girls where our parting of ways is a positive one, due to life circumstances or things outwith our control. I noticed that those girls, even though we had great connections and shared so much about ourselves, would never get back in touch with me.
By all means, I could reach out to them and possibly rekindle things, depending on their circumstances. However, that would require me to get the ball rolling, which is not worth it when a new girl can be found with a similar or less level of effort. My friend on the other hand, has the girls coming back to him! After talking in-depth with him about it, I noticed it was largely down to his texting style and his ability to connect so well over it. Girls are hooked by it.
Reading through some of @Razorjack's posts I can't help but notice that he has some of that emotional tuning with girls. In his post, what he says sounds exactly like something my friend would say.
I'm wondering if others here have that "natural" understanding of what a woman is saying and how it is they interpret and respond to that through text.
How does someone, like myself, adjust from being a robotic/pragmatic face value texter to something more emotional and vulnerable, whilst being fun and sexy?
What do others on here do to maintain fluid, natural text conversations with girls they either haven't slept with or have slept with but are not in mono LTRs with?
Finally, when it comes to this kind of texting, I've noticed that my friend does not follow any of the texting "rules/games". He doesn't match texts lengths, he doesn't hold back from firing one straight away back and he doesn't mirror the text style. All these things go against the mainstream advice on texting for us guys. Hence why I find it difficult to grasp, despite the clear evidence.
A friend of mine, who is very emotionally tuned with girls, is amazing at texting. Even after things end with a girl, he is still in contact with them and has them frequently getting back in touch with him. Initially, I thought that maybe it was because he was such a good lover to them, but then having had many of my own experiences as a lover with girls where our parting of ways is a positive one, due to life circumstances or things outwith our control. I noticed that those girls, even though we had great connections and shared so much about ourselves, would never get back in touch with me.
By all means, I could reach out to them and possibly rekindle things, depending on their circumstances. However, that would require me to get the ball rolling, which is not worth it when a new girl can be found with a similar or less level of effort. My friend on the other hand, has the girls coming back to him! After talking in-depth with him about it, I noticed it was largely down to his texting style and his ability to connect so well over it. Girls are hooked by it.
Reading through some of @Razorjack's posts I can't help but notice that he has some of that emotional tuning with girls. In his post, what he says sounds exactly like something my friend would say.
I'm wondering if others here have that "natural" understanding of what a woman is saying and how it is they interpret and respond to that through text.
How does someone, like myself, adjust from being a robotic/pragmatic face value texter to something more emotional and vulnerable, whilst being fun and sexy?
What do others on here do to maintain fluid, natural text conversations with girls they either haven't slept with or have slept with but are not in mono LTRs with?
Finally, when it comes to this kind of texting, I've noticed that my friend does not follow any of the texting "rules/games". He doesn't match texts lengths, he doesn't hold back from firing one straight away back and he doesn't mirror the text style. All these things go against the mainstream advice on texting for us guys. Hence why I find it difficult to grasp, despite the clear evidence.
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