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Recently I've starting to feel like maybe it's a good idea. I've had a lot of opportunities in the past for no-strings attached lays, but I think essentially I've always cockblocked myself, in part due to the fact that, at least subconsciously, I know that I'm inexperienced (but also due to other factors as well, such as logistics, missing obvious escalation windows, etc). I think maybe by just sleeping with a girl ASAP and getting this monkey off my back I will feel more comfortable in dealing with women in general and getting sexual with them since the act of sex itself will no longer be something that I'm completely in the dark about.
I feel like girls expect guys who are close to their mid-twenties to at least have a little experience, and I don't care who you talk to, at a certain age a guy still being a virgin is unattractive. Women will wonder to themselves "what's wrong with him, why hasn't he slept with any girls at all yet?" At least by doing the deed now I can more congruently paint myself as a sexual man instead of having to completely fake a mindset and front like I've "been there done that" type deal.
Then people will argue that the first time should be "special," but I think that's more of a woman's train of thought to tell the truth. I don't see what would be more special about hooking up with some party girl at a bar or club and even meeting some random during the day. The only thing that sets them apart is the fact I'd have to pay for the escort. Of course I don't want to, but does it really even matter? I guess you could say it's the principle of the thing - paying for sex, which used to be my point of view too. But if it's something that will significantly (perhaps over-exaggerating) improve my understanding in some way of an the end state I'm trying to reach in my interactions with women, isn't shelling out some cash to expedite the process a fair trade for someone in my position?
I'm interested in hearing your thoughts
I feel like girls expect guys who are close to their mid-twenties to at least have a little experience, and I don't care who you talk to, at a certain age a guy still being a virgin is unattractive. Women will wonder to themselves "what's wrong with him, why hasn't he slept with any girls at all yet?" At least by doing the deed now I can more congruently paint myself as a sexual man instead of having to completely fake a mindset and front like I've "been there done that" type deal.
Then people will argue that the first time should be "special," but I think that's more of a woman's train of thought to tell the truth. I don't see what would be more special about hooking up with some party girl at a bar or club and even meeting some random during the day. The only thing that sets them apart is the fact I'd have to pay for the escort. Of course I don't want to, but does it really even matter? I guess you could say it's the principle of the thing - paying for sex, which used to be my point of view too. But if it's something that will significantly (perhaps over-exaggerating) improve my understanding in some way of an the end state I'm trying to reach in my interactions with women, isn't shelling out some cash to expedite the process a fair trade for someone in my position?
I'm interested in hearing your thoughts