Losing V-card to an escort?

[Il Biondo]

Recently I've starting to feel like maybe it's a good idea. I've had a lot of opportunities in the past for no-strings attached lays, but I think essentially I've always cockblocked myself, in part due to the fact that, at least subconsciously, I know that I'm inexperienced (but also due to other factors as well, such as logistics, missing obvious escalation windows, etc). I think maybe by just sleeping with a girl ASAP and getting this monkey off my back I will feel more comfortable in dealing with women in general and getting sexual with them since the act of sex itself will no longer be something that I'm completely in the dark about.

I feel like girls expect guys who are close to their mid-twenties to at least have a little experience, and I don't care who you talk to, at a certain age a guy still being a virgin is unattractive. Women will wonder to themselves "what's wrong with him, why hasn't he slept with any girls at all yet?" At least by doing the deed now I can more congruently paint myself as a sexual man instead of having to completely fake a mindset and front like I've "been there done that" type deal.

Then people will argue that the first time should be "special," but I think that's more of a woman's train of thought to tell the truth. I don't see what would be more special about hooking up with some party girl at a bar or club and even meeting some random during the day. The only thing that sets them apart is the fact I'd have to pay for the escort. Of course I don't want to, but does it really even matter? I guess you could say it's the principle of the thing - paying for sex, which used to be my point of view too. But if it's something that will significantly (perhaps over-exaggerating) improve my understanding in some way of an the end state I'm trying to reach in my interactions with women, isn't shelling out some cash to expedite the process a fair trade for someone in my position?

I'm interested in hearing your thoughts

 

[Doctor]

All that first time being special is bullshit imo, it was fucking awkward for me and not something I would ever relish having to go back to. It's true the more sex you have the better you become at it and as men we don't have the pressure to keep our partner count down so if you think it's a good transaction then try it out.

I'm not sure how much it will help your game however as the one thing that helped me about having no strings attached sex for the first time was knowing that women wanted it. Knowing a woman would come over to my place, fuck, and then leave, knowing she was only there for the sex, that's what changed my game when I experienced that for the first time. You wont get that with an escort.

If you feel like you are carrying your V-plates around your neck like a burden each time you are out though it may be worth getting rid of that issue with an escort, although it would be so much better to do it with a girl who just wants to have sex, are you sure you have made every effort to go down this route?

EDIT: Oh and don't worry about a girl finding out you are terrible in bed, she will only realise half way through and it's a bit late by then! Sure you won't get her as a fuck buddy after but that would just be taking the easy route anyway.

 

[Il Biondo]

although it would be so much better to do it with a girl who just wants to have sex, are you sure you have made every effort to go down this route

I agree that would be ideal, and I know without a doubt I could be making a more concerted effort to get that. But I feel like at this point in my game, that would be a little ways off. I just thought maybe it would be beneficial to get my rocks off with a chick by whatever means necessary and as soon as possible to get that first experience behind me. I could see it making me more confident having been intimate with a woman and knowing truly what it's like instead of just imagining.

 

[ocantu1987]

I went this route myself. I dont think it hit me right away as I really didn't enjoy it as much as a real girl who is into you. I think it removed an obstacle and I was talking to girls shortly after that.

I say go for it, just dont expect it to be wonderful, the chick will probably not be into it and just wants your money, wich is a turn off for me, but It may unlock something for you.

 

[Eternity]

Do it. Will clear your mind of doubts of what to do and how to do it. You'll be more ready to bang any easy slut or good girl that will come your way.

 

[Rick Locke]

I'm curious if you guys would give the same advice to someone who hasn't reached 21 yet?

 

[Nova]

no but seriously, it all comes down to you - if you really think it will clear your mind and free you to have an easier time picking up other girls that wont charge you then go for it, so long as you don't think you'll regret it. i mean for me, i don't see using an escort as a big deal, even if your below 21, if it helps you i mean whatever, but i know that plenty of people are so sensitive and end up regretting all sorts of stupid bullshit, so think about it.

 

[Rick Locke]

Fuck it, I'll stick to getting my fundamentals down pat and moving forward. The whole point is too push as far out of your comfort zone as you can get, let's see how much farther I can push.

 

[PrettyDecent]

Hey Il Biondo,

This was a question I kept asking myself before I lost my virginity. I'm 19 now, if that helps, but age doesn't make a big difference at the end of the day anyway.

I decided to delay the gratification of sex until I was able to sleep with a girl off pickup. And you can believe me, the decision was difficult (I just wanted to get my V-card swiped), but I'm so glad I decided this way - once I slept with my first girl via pickup, I knew that I was going to get all the sex I wanted...and for free. And it forced me to work on my skill harder/faster, because that was the only way to fulfill my need for sex. So in that sense, I feel hiring an escort is like putting cheat codes in a video game instead of just practicing and becoming good at the game.

~Nick