Hey all!
TLDR; Are there any members of the community who have had good results being very lively?
Had an interesting situation today where a girl came to me twice at the gym and invited me to grab lunch with her after some chatting. Had a great time, but I get reminded of how great I am at being a boyfriend candidate vs lover. I talk as much as a girl and am animated and expressive, which makes it tricky to walk down the lover path. I'm not cartoonish, but usually am smoldering her when I listen and very charismatic when speaking. I talk probably 50-60% of the time, so not too excessive, but Chase's James Bond/James Dean style makes me feel like I'm falling off the other end of the spectrum. I think this is why I lean heavily into more direct signals (but still playful and teasing), as I am usually fearless in my expression of myself, though it seems to need some tweaking... Again, are there any successful community members that go a more talkative, charismatic route?
Distance was killer at the restaurant we went to, making it hard to touch her (got a good amount in before and after). I also get a barrier in my mind when I find out a girl is Christian (like, Texan conservative Christian) that probably neuters some of my edge.
TLDR; Are there any members of the community who have had good results being very lively?
Had an interesting situation today where a girl came to me twice at the gym and invited me to grab lunch with her after some chatting. Had a great time, but I get reminded of how great I am at being a boyfriend candidate vs lover. I talk as much as a girl and am animated and expressive, which makes it tricky to walk down the lover path. I'm not cartoonish, but usually am smoldering her when I listen and very charismatic when speaking. I talk probably 50-60% of the time, so not too excessive, but Chase's James Bond/James Dean style makes me feel like I'm falling off the other end of the spectrum. I think this is why I lean heavily into more direct signals (but still playful and teasing), as I am usually fearless in my expression of myself, though it seems to need some tweaking... Again, are there any successful community members that go a more talkative, charismatic route?
Distance was killer at the restaurant we went to, making it hard to touch her (got a good amount in before and after). I also get a barrier in my mind when I find out a girl is Christian (like, Texan conservative Christian) that probably neuters some of my edge.
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