Manhattan Solo DG

[jericho]

Notes on numbers flaking:

To get more solid numbers, you need to get numbers from girls who WANT to see you again or who are interested. Otherwise, you'll be forcing numbers on girls who aren't interested and who are far more likely to flake via texts.

Sometimes gauging whether a girl is interested or not can be challenging if she is not giving many signs, but one way to tell if the girl is interested is to see if she has "hooked" or has reached a "hook point" during conversation.

Ways you can tell a girl has reached a hook point:

1. She's planted and not going anywhere, even when there are pauses in the interaction.

2. She is asking you questions to keep the conversation going and to find out more about you—she's trying to build a connection with you.

3. Any IOIs like deep eye contact, crossing her legs, playing with her hair, initiating touch, etc. (see *Street Hustle*, pg. 120).

Knowing this, it might be a good idea to track on an Excel sheet which girls have hooked and which girls did not hook during your daygame sessions. This way, you can understand which numbers are more or less likely to flake via texting.

Also, it may be good practice to persist if the girl looks like she wants to leave and attempt the number close anyway. However, you need to be aware that the number will likely flake, so you should expect this.

Additionally, when going for the number close, don't suggest coffee—suggest drinks (beer/wine, etc.). If she agrees to coffee and you instead do a date invite via text for beer/wine, then she might be more resistant to the drink invite since she initially agreed to coffee. It just makes things easier on you, and it's what you truly want to do anyway.

When you go for the number close, just be upfront and honest so she knows what you want and it's agreed upon: "Well, I gotta go, and you gotta go, but I think you're pretty and I'd like to invite you out for drinks sometime. Is this something you might be interested in?" If she says yes, then take her number. If she says no, then you can say, "OK. Well, I'll send you a text, and if you change your mind, we can meet up. If not, no worries."

I'm not sure there are any rules for what to do to prevent flaking. It's a part if daygame, and there is nobody who doesn't get flaked on. I once asked a girl after i got her number if she was going to respond to my text. She said she had to think about it after she left and she would decide later if it made sense. Some girls (more than you think) are in relationships and won't cheat just because some random dude stops here on the street.

 

[bkw]

How to overcome AA and improve your approach-count with daygame:

I just want to write this down for record-sake purposes.

So, after I did 50 approaches a couple of weeks ago, I did 30 approaches the week after, and then I basically took a week off, mainly because the lack of results made me want to pause a little bit, and I felt like I lost purpose. Leading up to the 50 approach week, I had spent a couple of months just building up my desensitization and momentum, to the point where I literally did not feel any anxiety and didn't care about any one approach at all.

After the week off, I went back out, and I had apathy and started to feel AA again. This is mainly the point of this entry: I want to share how important momentum is. It's crazy how you can spend months building it up to where approaching is the easiest thing in the world; an afterthought, and then you take a week off, and it's challenging again.

So for those of you still struggling with AA and approach counts, the absolute best thing you can do is go out every day and approach more and more every day, and before you know it your AA will be gone and your momentum and desensitization will be in a place where approaching women is like going to the local store, easy.

Beyond that, I'll keep going out, but I'm going to transition more into a lifestyle thing and, while I understand I have to be consistent, I'm not going to try and put all my focus on it. This will allow me to go long-term without getting too invested. I also am likely not to report anything here unless some major improvements happen, which I don't think it'll happen for a while, if it does. The one doubt I have is that I am not sure if it's my "game" or my age and getting older that feels like things are harder and more flakes are happening. It's a legitimate question. But I feel daygame, especially in a city like NYC, is still one of the best options if I am to date the type of girls I want. This thread likely won't see much action unless I start getting consistent dates again, but I'm currently building up my momentum lost and working on my DG schedule for the long-haul.

 

[OldGuy]

Not your age (I am older than you). To work on your game, I recommend posting on the forum with some of your attempts to get good advice on your game.

 

[YS.]

Love this journal!

 

[bkw]

Not your age (I am older than you). To work on your game, I recommend posting on the forum with some of your attempts to get good advice on your game.

Thanks man. In a lot of ways, it'd be nice to get some inspiration from older guys.

Ugh, you're right. Probably a good idea is to post precise interactions I'm having. I bought a cheap digital camera I plan on wearing around my neck and recording infields (makes it look like I'm just doing photography this way without buying a stealth cam). Unfortunately, my momentum is shit again, so I need a week or two to build that back up before I want to record anything.

Forum advice is iffy sometimes, but I'm experienced enough to know what advice is worthwhile and which is not really (I say that humbly). This forum has some solid advice from some people. I perhaps need to move my ego aside and just do it. Give me a week or two, and I likely will.

 

[bkw]

Update:

Alright, fuck it, I've been pussy-footing around lately. I'll start posting some of my daygame approaches again, for momentum-sake purposes. My momentum is shot at the moment, so maybe a few approaches here or there until I get it ramped up again.

I got my schedule where I want it, so I should be able to follow through. I'll post soon.

 

[bkw]

5/26/25 - 5/31/25:

This week mainly was me attempting to get back into it after 2 weeks off basically and to build a little momentum, as well as trying to find my footing within my new schedule. A lot of the days I was not out very long.

Monday (5/26):
The goal was to "go out and get a feel for the street again". No motivation to approach. Didn't push anything.

Tuesday (5/27):
Didn't have a goal today. Felt like I could easily approach, but not emotionally interested enough.

Wednesday (5/28):
didn't go out

Thursday (5/29):
Didn't see much I was interested in. Feeling apathy.

Friday (5/30):
Approach 2. One girl didn't want to chat in store; second, BF deflection

Saturday (5/31):
didn't approach anyone

Sunday (6/1):
didn't go out because had a lot of personal stuff going on last couple days, sleep in too late

Total:
2 approaches
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As you can see, momentum and interest was not there. Spent days just waking around, not really that motivated or interested. I guess I use these days as excuses to see if I can leverage it to build some emotional momentum. Eventually, I realize I just need to approach.

If I can be on top of my schedule, this week I should do a lot more. Posting here does help with that, until I gather enough momentum. Going to keep posting weekly for a bit.

Also, been going to the gym again 5xs a week. My schedule is booked, which is why I keep bringing it up, but I made DG a priority nonetheless.