Manly rules

[Illystorm]

Being a nice-guy, I've come to terms with the fact that I need hard rules (as Chase suggests in one of his articles).

Asking the men in the forum: what are your personal rules?
I'd like to draw inspiration, so I can set my own.

Thanks

 

[Velasco]

The Sixteen Commandments Of Poon - Chateau Heartiste Chateau Heartiste

heartiste.org

 

[Skills]

The hardest thing to master and is key is to be able to be ALONE, with 0 women if she walks, or if you need to next her.... You can not be "scare" to lose a girl....

I can not emphasize how difficult it is to master that ^.....

 

[ulrich]

Don't lend money over 100 USD to anyone.
If nothing happens with a girl after three dates, I need to move on.
If a friend betrays me in full knowledge (dating the same girl, for example) he needs to get out of my life. (Thankfully this rule has only been applied once)


And on the funny side:
Don't date women with tatooed eyebrows. (I have broken this a couple of times and they always disappoint me)

 

[Derek da man]

I used to be very much the typical "nice-guy" until I made a few changes to the way I view and converse with women and therefore project myself.


Also I used to perceive all girls as "sweet and innocent" until they proved they were otherwise. When I look back at my relationship history none of the girls I've dated were ever very innocent, although they portray that way to the world. (I'm not looking for sweet innocent girls). So I needed to change the way I interact with women in order they would perceive me as sexual or at least having a sexual intent and desire.

I try to project myself in a much more "honest" way in order to appear as a sexual man. That's not to say I was dishonest before, I just portrayed myself as a very non-sexual. Therefore I've tried to change the way I think and the way I project myself, particularly when asking questions.

When sharing an intense smile with a girl over a drink or the like, I imagine her sucking my cock (I got this technique off of this forum) or when admiring her across the room I make a point of letting her see me glancing at her arse and her boobs before her eyes, then her lips, then her eyes again, then holding her smile with a long lustful look imagining she is undressing for me.

Also I used to compliment a girl with ". . . you look fabulous . . . that dress really suits you." Now I would say " . . . you look hot in that dress . . . makes you looks so sexy" or something along those lines.

The intent here is to portray sexual awareness and how I perceive her, not as an innocent girl but a sexual woman. The changes in wording tell her you see her in a sexual sense; the changes in how I think of her as I'm looking at her change the way my body langue presents to her when she looks at me.

I can't offer you a "rule" as I think that's a bit simplistic, but by being more "honest" there are some subtle things that you can change which result in massive overall changes. Once you see her perception of you shift, that gives you confidence to make further behaviour changes which result in better results.

Hope this helps as it's working really well for me - and I'm still working on making further changes.

 

[Illystorm]

Thanks everyone for the replies, I've found them quite interesting.

I shall add more details to myself, so to make more clear what I'm in need for:

• My archetype is that of an Athlete and a Rebel, but at the core I'm so much a Student so this makes me indecisive on the outside
• I don't have a strong libido, and definitely I'm not needy towards girls
• I have both a physical, spiritual and intellectual edge... but I can't bring myself to be domineering in an overt way

Thanks to your suggestions, I feel I have a grasp of what rules to abide by with women.

But now I'm looking for general rules for the social environment.

I feel like the lack of dominance hinders me, because at times I'm not able to demand respect.

This is why I'm learning charisma, social skills and social rules.

Any specific tips for personal rules for social environments (not just for seduction, but also for instrisic status etc.) or to be more overtly dominant?

(the underlining is just to put emphasis, I don't wanna sound rude or something )

Thanks

 

[ulrich]

@Valnovanoth

This is very broad advice but I have found to be killer for me.

Many MEN feel that they want to be respected by their women but expect that respect come from women unconditionally or just because they are in a relationship.
I write MEN in caps because this is mostly a masculine need. Women usually prioritize feeling loved and secure over being respected.

If you ask most men who are unhappy with their partners, they will tell you they feel disrespected.

The big thing about respect is that you get it as a side effect of how well you lead.

If you lead well, she follows and she gets wet and fantasizes over you. Women feel strong attraction for someone who leads... men not so much.

Most women will give you the kind of “respect” that comes from courtesy... but that is not the one you want... it’s not enough to keep a relationship healthy.

So if you want to feel respected, focus on training for compliance.
Learn how to ask for investment from women, give them orders, have them follow... respect will be a sub-effect of that.