Date Plans Match On Tinder, Meet at Coffee Shop - What's your plan?

[West_Indian_Archie]

You match with a girl on Tinder.
Messages are exchanged.
Stars align
Plans are Made
Plans are Kept
No one is late.

She shows up appropriately dressed at the coffee shop on a Friday evening at 5:00 pm (17:00 for my Global Friends)

What's your thought process?

Add in any extraneous factors you want.
Add any goal you want.

I'm not gonna clarify anything other than this common scenario that millions of men across the world are dealing with.
Use your imagination to fill in the details.

WIA

 

[DoWhatWorks]

You match with a girl on Tinder.
Messages are exchanged.
Stars align
Plans are Made
Plans are Kept
No one is late.

She shows up appropriately dressed at the coffee shop on a Friday evening at 5:00 pm (17:00 for my Global Friends)

What's your thought process?

Add in any extraneous factors you want.
Add any goal you want.

I'm not gonna clarify anything other than this common scenario that millions of men across the world are dealing with.
Use your imagination to fill in the details.

WIA

I’ll get backlash from this side of the web but without further a due I would make the date all about her.

Deep dive, find out what makes her laugh, cry, excited and everything in between.

Get her used to my touch with light holds for brief moments when it’s right and make her feel as though she’s never opened up this much before and found a guy who “gets her”.

When she asks about me I’ll give her brief glimpses into who I am and just enough for her to want more

Then I’ll seed in a 2nd date for: dinner,drinks, film at mine on Sunday afternoon.

Depending on how green light she is... I may even shift it to a bar for more drinks before the final stop of mine but that’s all dependent on the vibe and how on it is.

^^^^based on high XX’s of tinder dates not theory. On this model I slept with 40% of my dates within 10 days of first meeting up.

DWW

 

[foggy]

my thought process on how it would go...

She is very late, but that's ok. Women like her usually are, so I've picked a place to meet closeby.

Finally, I spot her walking into the coffee shop. She's got this hipstery, feminine energy about her. And she is inappropriately dressed for the circumstances; she clearly felt she had to be the most fuckable person in the coffee shop.

We hold eye contact as she slides into the booth beside me. She's oozing with charisma. The pace and timing of our conversation and body movements fall into unison immediately. We're a perfect mirror to each other. We start vibing and after a few minutes she says,

Girl: why do i get this sense that ive known you my whole life, Fog?
fog: we've known each other in all of our past lives. please, just call me foggy. we are well past any formalities by now.
Girl: youre right, foggy! we've grown so close!

The conversation continues, and we discuss her adventures in acting; it turns out her longing for novelty and stimulation have pushed her towards escape into the imaginary world of theatre, where nothing can restrict her possibilities and wishes.

But there comes a point where I get bored of what she has to say, so I cold read her on her messiah complex. I tell her she is destined to be famous, and the ultra-deserving focal point of the world's attention. I say she's on the edge of fame - in fact, it could happen as soon as tonight or tomorrow. And I suggest that it could happen even quicker, perhaps even instantly, if she imagines losing her inhibitions for just a second......

....suddenly, she grabs my arm and we are gazing into each others eyes. I escalate the vibe:

fog: what are we gonna do with all this energy between us?
she stares at me with doggy eyes. Immediately I manhandle kiss her right in the middle of the cafe. I break away.
fog: lets go, follow me. we're going to hawaii.
Girl: weeeeeeee!

We leave the cafe hand in hand. As we walk towards my place, we get on the topic of her sexual fantasies, I find out she believes in love at first few feelings, and dreams of the perfect love. She describes this perfect love with emotional fervor. It is one where she is swept away in the heat of the moment.

She turns it back on me and I describe the intoxicating rollercoaster of emotional highs and lows of my last relationship, which, only lasted a couple of days. She freaks out, just as we're opening the door to my place.

It's not a moment sooner that I grab her and push her up against the wall. We proceed to make love like crazy animals, our clothes still half on.

 

[Skills]

Ideally you don't want to meet at 5:00 pm that is a mistake...

You want to meet in the evening strategically probably after dinner time....

When you meet at the coffee shop you want to be as unexited and as normal, and neutral as possible, at this point she should not know if you are exited or dissapointed in seeing her...

"thank you for coming" "did you make it ok" "please sit down or would you rather inside" "What are you ordering"..... = after all this, normal boring talk to the goal to BOUNCE, to a second location...

 

[DonGately]

At first be gentlemanly and well-dressed, spend first 15-20 minutes talking about our day, normal things, what we are drinking and getting to know her, another 15-20 drilling down on info she's given me, maybe about what she's wearing, not about work unless we work in the same industry and then maybe see if we know anyone in common. Spend 15-20 talking about myself, spiking her temperature, seeing what gets her exciting and identifying/ reading her IOIs. If she's quiet I'll talk more unless I can draw her out - yoga, books, astrology, Balenciaga, whatever. Very light kino, wrist & arm touching, lots of laughter/joking around unless she's a very serious type at first.

Then I'll suggest bouncing to a nearby bar if I want to continue seeing her. We'll walk over there and have 1-2 drinks to start, I wouldn't meet a non-drinker unless she was a 9.5. Assuming she's warmed up and flirty order an appetizer to share. Start talking about her friends, goals, travel, and about my exciting side business and lifestyle. By now through steering the drink orders, conversation, food ordering process I'll be able to tell if she's submissive and willing to follow my lead on things. Talk about girls'/her tattoos and piercings, or desires for such will reveal her kinky side assuming we don't end up having a direct conversation about that. Heavier kino, touching shoulder/neck, hair, pulling her against me, hips, knees. Let her know I'm a player who doesn't post every detail of his life on social media. Figure out if she's green/yellow light [if red I've already left]. Lots of eye contact.

At any point if she's green light leave to go to somebody's bedroom/hotel and close the deal.

Assuming no SDL bounce to next bar, darker, more food, upping the kino. Talk about hopes and dreams, what we are looking for in a partner, be touching each other while seated, possibly on/across my lap if we're on a sofa or huge chair or bench. More eye contact, kissing, fondling, maybe sneak into a restroom together or full make-out in dark hallway. Go home before the date starts to stale if she's not up for it, send her home in an Uber if she's not walking distance.