Maximise gym approach

[average_daygamer]

The place I see the most hot girls on a regular basis is the gym.

For instance today, on an ordinary Monday morning, I saw atleast 5 chicks that I wouldn't say no to if they initiated conversation with me (my litmus test) and they were all 7/10+, with a couple being 9/10. And this is in an ordinary, small, quite working class/chavy town.

But the method is lacking. Too much tension. The hot girl is on the equipment. Trying to work out. I am hot and bothered. If I could just do 1 approach per session, that would be regular hot girl interaction. But I can't be consistent due to fear stopping me.

I was going to do an approach on a 9/10 today who was sat on the lat pulldown machine which was on my way out, but a combination of still having sweat on my forehead dropping down onto my shirt and her having a slightly stern looking expression on her face as well as the obligatory earbuds in stopped me at the last second. So I strolled past not uttering a word, what a disappointment. What I am getting at, is that the slightest thing seems to put me off when it comes to gym approach. Compared to on the street where I would just force the approach, even if it meant approaching from behind.

I almost did it as well, today. Last Monday I did an approach on a girl who was using the back extension machine, firstly I asked if she wanted to work out together, then I asked if she wanted to hang out outside of the gym to which he said she had a boyfriend.

It also seems that I am breaking through a lot of tension just to be told by the girl she has a boyfriend, it feels kind of pointless, in all honesty.

 

[Dark_Stallion]

Tbh just go in and complement her on her shoes as ur walking past her, happen to just notice them(you don't actually have to give that much of a shit about the shoes, just take an interest in her and it will come across authentic) obviously don't be hung up on the topic of her shoes(most of the time, if she has a crazy story she wants to tell give her the opportunity I've never come across this just of the top of my head) and then feel out vibes to see if she is receptive, very simple approach that if it doesn't work, won't give off any creepy vibes or you revealing your whole hand, can probably use this on other girls if you want

 

[politepilot]

1 per gym sesh? That’s a lot. Chase recommends once every 2-3 sessions to avoid getting kicked out. That guideline has served me well, until I asked out the desk girl. Now I’m out of shape because I’m too scared to go back to the gym! Something to talk to the forum about…

 

[average_daygamer]

1 per gym sesh? That’s a lot. Chase recommends once every 2-3 sessions to avoid getting kicked out. That guideline has served me well, until I asked out the desk girl. Now I’m out of shape because I’m too scared to go back to the gym! Something to talk to the forum about…

I forgot to say, I work out 3 times a week and I have multi gym access. So I am between 3 or even 4 different gyms depending on how far out of my way I go. Sometimes I like going to an obscure town just to work out and feel anonymous in a different gym.

So even if I managed an approach each session, it would only be once per week per gym.

It really is fear stopping me, not a reputational fear but an "in the moment" fear. A lot of it is the situation as well. Like when a girl comes in who you find attractive but you are locked in 1/2 way through your workout or when you have just finished your cardio like in my recent example. Sometimes the situation is not ideal which makes it harder.

Oh that and the gym that I was in today was the only one that didn't have paper towels to wipe my face with and I keep forgetting to bring my own when I go to that one as it is the only one that doesn't have them.

So it seems everything has to be perfect to "break" that ice in the gym. There is no point going up to a girl when you might drop sweat on her, I guess. Next time I go there, I should remember to bring my own wipes or atleast try to do an approach before my cardio session.

The biggest concentration of hotties that I see is definitely in the gym, though. On a regular basis, going to the club and staying up late is not enjoyable for me. I want to crack the gym approach and start making it a regular thing rather than an inconsistent thing, but so much of it is situation dependent.

I have also toyed with the idea of going into the gym just to scope it out, do an approach then leave without getting a workout in.

There are just so many babes there, it's like the club but during the day. And I keep telling myself that I've already got one thing in common with chicks that go to the gym, rather than a randomer on the street or in the club.

 

[average_daygamer]

Tbh just go in and complement her on her shoes as ur walking past her, happen to just notice them(you don't actually have to give that much of a shit about the shoes, just take an interest in her and it will come across authentic) obviously don't be hung up on the topic of her shoes(most of the time, if she has a crazy story she wants to tell give her the opportunity I've never come across this just of the top of my head) and then feel out vibes to see if she is receptive, very simple approach that if it doesn't work, won't give off any creepy vibes or you revealing your whole hand, can probably use this on other girls if you want

Thanks for the shoe suggestion but I like my opener more.

It's a variation on "You look pretty dedicated" so it will be something like "Hey, I was just walking past and noticed you, I have to say, you look pretty dedicated. Are you training for a specific sport or...?" which normally makes sense as I am approaching ones that are hot and in shape or atleast getting there and serious about their workouts.

Then I will go into small talk about her workout and what she is doing and or what I am doing and how she is feeling today.

Now this is the part that is controversial as some people say it isn't long enough to build attraction, but I will suggest the close pretty early under the pretense of needing to get done with my workout.

It also shows you are not hung up on them and have shit to be getting on with. And it prevents things from becoming awkward if she is not feeling it.

But it still feels like a huge ice to break initially just for that small interaction which usually goes nowhere. Each approach I feel like "is this the one where the girl freaks and becomes awkward?".

So I still very much struggle with breaking the initial ice, especially depending on if the girl is sat down on a machine or stood upright.

 

[Dark_Stallion]

1 per gym sesh? That’s a lot. Chase recommends once every 2-3 sessions to avoid getting kicked out. That guideline has served me well, until I asked out the desk girl. Now I’m out of shape because I’m too scared to go back to the gym! Something to talk to the forum about…

Yea that’s the general amount I do as well, never mentioned frequency tbh, though if ur there for a short amount of time(not per workout, using the gym for x months), you can up the frequency

 

[OldGuy]

1 per gym sesh? That’s a lot. Chase recommends once every 2-3 sessions to avoid getting kicked out. That guideline has served me well, until I asked out the desk girl. Now I’m out of shape because I’m too scared to go back to the gym! Something to talk to the forum about…

Unless you really blew the approach, there is no reason not to go back. Attractive women get asked out all the time, and if every guy who asked her out was banned, the gym wouldn't have any customers!